I’ve been with my current boyfriend for a few months now and I really like him… but most of my friends don’t. They’re constantly asking me when we’re going to break up and saying mean things about him when he’s not around. I don’t think he and I will be breaking up any time soon, so I really want my friends to at least start being nicer to him. How do I get my friends to be more supportive to our relationship?
It stinks that your friends are giving you a hard time about your boyfriend. Unfortunately, your friends and you aren’t always going to like the same people – and that’s okay. What’s not okay is them making fun of him in front of you. Unless they have a legitimate reason to dislike him, they should have enough respect for you to keep their opinions to themselves.
Do you know why your friends don’t like your BF? If you’ve never bothered to ask, you should. Sometimes when all of your pals don’t like your BF, it means they don’t like how he treats you. If that’s the case, that’s a warning sign that this dude is bad news. After all, your friends love you and only want the best for you – so if they dislike your boyfriend because he’s doing something wrong, maybe you should reconsider your relationship.
However, that isn’t necessarily the case – which is why you need to talk to your girls. Ask them straight up what they have against your boyfriend. If it’s not because of the way he’s treating you, maybe it’s because they just don’t think he fits in, or maybe they’re feeling a little jealous. If they have no real reason to dislike him, then you need to tell them to stop saying mean things about him. Explain to them that you really care about your boyfriend and you’re happy with him – and their opinion isn’t going to change that. Tell them that it really hurts you when they talk badly about him and that it would mean a lot to you if they could give him a chance. Be honest with them about how you feel about this.
Tell your friends that they don’t have to like your boyfriend – but they do have to be respectful towards you and not say things about him. True friends will change their behavior and start being polite when he’s around. But truthfully, in the end, you might not get everyone to support your relationship. Sometimes you’re going to have friends who don’t agree with your decisions, and that’s just something you need to learn to deal with. But, like I said, they should at least have the courtesy to keep their opinions to themselves for your sake.
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