The Internet is good for a lot of things – finding funny videos, reconnecting with old friends via social media, wasting hours on Tumblr, Facebook stalking your crush… you get the idea. One thing it’s not always good for? Meeting random dudes online.
Sure, meeting guys on dating websites can work out (it can still be risky even then) – but meeting random guys on social media sites or elsewhere can be a disaster, especially for young girls. We saw this topic being discussed in the message boards, and we wanted to know what you girls thought about it. Would you ever start dating someone you only knew online? Would you meet that person in real life on your own? Read this girl’s situation and what other girls had to say, then let us know your thoughts.
Gurls, I need help! My best friend always tells my friends and I that she has a boyfriend, but we never believe her. So one day when I went to her place, she showed me her iPod and there were a bunch of conversations on it with a guy I’ve never heard of. I asked her, “Where did you meet him?” and she said “online.” Then I found out that she told this guy, who she met online, EXACTLY WHERE SHE LIVED!!!! And she wants to meet him! I keep telling her not to believe everything you hear, but she won’t listen! She doesn’t think “her love” would lie to her…
Please help! I read a book called Dear Jo and it was about the same thing and the girl ended up dead!!
It’s okay for her to meet him… just not alone or in an isolated area. She could go to a movie and meet him, and if you really want to protect her, you could go with her. Carry your phone with you so that just in case he isn’t who he seems to be, you can get help.
Okay, well, first of all: we both see how dumb it was for her to tell him her address. Read the conversations. Is he saying suspicious things? Even if he’s not, he could still be pretending.
You could tell her parents… It’s tough to do that because you might lose her trust. But then again, knowing her address, he could have already done something if he wanted to. If she wants to meet him, it should be public, and since she seems as naive as she can get — maybe you and a friend can be there too, just from afar.
So what do we have to say about this topic? Girls, please: never tell a person you meet online your address. It doesn’t matter if he seems super charming, sweet and wonderful – he’s behind a computer screen, and he could be anyone. Even if he says he’s a teenager, he could really be a 50-year-old man! I know that sounds super creepy and dramatic, but it’s true and it happens. Giving out your information to people you meet online is never a smart move and we’re begging you not to do it.
As for meeting a random dude, we’re going to have to say no to that too. But if you’re absolutely insistent on meeting this person, then please go with a friend or two and meet up in a public place, like the mall or the movies. You should also let lots of trusted people know where you are and with whom and have planned check-ins, like promising to call a friend at a certain time so she knows you’re okay.
What do you think? Would you meet up with a guy you met online? Have you ever done that? Tell us in the comments.