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The Internet is good for a lot of things – finding funny videos, reconnecting with old friends via social media, wasting hours on Tumblr, Facebook stalking your crush… you get the idea. One thing it’s not always good for? Meeting random dudes online.
Sure, meeting guys on dating websites can work out (it can still be risky even then) – but meeting random guys on social media sites or elsewhere can be a disaster, especially for young girls. We saw this topic being discussed in the message boards, and we wanted to know what you girls thought about it. Would you ever start dating someone you only knew online? Would you meet that person in real life on your own? Read this girl’s situation and what other girls had to say, then let us know your thoughts.
Camilla-May said:
Gurls, I need help! My best friend always tells my friends and I that she has a boyfriend, but we never believe her. So one day when I went to her place, she showed me her iPod and there were a bunch of conversations on it with a guy I’ve never heard of. I asked her, “Where did you meet him?” and she said “online.” Then I found out that she told this guy, who she met online, EXACTLY WHERE SHE LIVED!!!! And she wants to meet him! I keep telling her not to believe everything you hear, but she won’t listen! She doesn’t think “her love” would lie to her…
Please help! I read a book called Dear Jo and it was about the same thing and the girl ended up dead!!
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skaterchick999 said:
It’s okay for her to meet him… just not alone or in an isolated area. She could go to a movie and meet him, and if you really want to protect her, you could go with her. Carry your phone with you so that just in case he isn’t who he seems to be, you can get help.
stayclassy said:
Okay, well, first of all: we both see how dumb it was for her to tell him her address. Read the conversations. Is he saying suspicious things? Even if he’s not, he could still be pretending.
You could tell her parents… It’s tough to do that because you might lose her trust. But then again, knowing her address, he could have already done something if he wanted to. If she wants to meet him, it should be public, and since she seems as naive as she can get — maybe you and a friend can be there too, just from afar.
So what do we have to say about this topic? Girls, please: never tell a person you meet online your address. It doesn’t matter if he seems super charming, sweet and wonderful – he’s behind a computer screen, and he could be anyone. Even if he says he’s a teenager, he could really be a 50-year-old man! I know that sounds super creepy and dramatic, but it’s true and it happens. Giving out your information to people you meet online is never a smart move and we’re begging you not to do it.
As for meeting a random dude, we’re going to have to say no to that too. But if you’re absolutely insistent on meeting this person, then please go with a friend or two and meet up in a public place, like the mall or the movies. You should also let lots of trusted people know where you are and with whom and have planned check-ins, like promising to call a friend at a certain time so she knows you’re okay.
What do you think? Would you meet up with a guy you met online? Have you ever done that? Tell us in the comments.
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Ok, first off I’ve done this and it ended up not turning out into a happy tale ending. Instead it turned out to be a nightmare, he ended up to be 50 years old when he picked me up….luckily I got out of the car before he did anything to me……
Girls, I was very lucky to get out of his car and survive before anything harm happened to me…..
Never ever do it!!!
Yeah I met a guy in person who I had met online beforehand. He was older, but told me right when we started talking online. He sent me pics and we did webcam so I could tell he was truthful. Also looked up his name and city for criminal records. Date went well and I’ve been with him for a year
I’ve had relationships start online its not exactly safe but the one i had we had more than 1 mutual friend and when we met a couple weeks after getting to know each other we realized that it wasn’t all bad. We’ve been together for 18 months now and we have been through alot together its hard cause you don’t get to see the person as often but if its strong and you ad others trust this person it could work.
I met my current bf onine now mind you we didn’t meet right away it was mostly texting and phone calls and the ocasional skype calls. but eventually we wanted to meet up. we made this happen through my parents when in any online case is the safest way for most teen girls because you never know who you meet online. But in my case it has woeked out bc we have been together a half a year so fqar. online might not be right for everyone.
I have met alot of guys online who I didnt know and they picked me up from my address, its all about trusting your instincts! I work for people I met online and i moved all the way out of state with out knowing them and all of it turned out for the best! I dont think the girl is crazy but that those around her just to cautious and that can be a problem if they tell her parents :-/
I my self have given out my address and met alot of guys online. Some I even went to their house to see them, and I even work for people
Well first of all, I wouldn’t rush things. Why would I look for an online-boyfriend when there are so many flesh-and-bones-guys I see every day ? But anyways. If I did meet a nice guy however, I wouldn’t tell him anything about where I live, or anything. If really he seems that awesome, I’d meet him with a friend and in a populated area. But to be honnest, I don’t trust these creepy internet things. They could really turn out bad and honestly, what kind of guy looks for girls on the INTERNET ? No seriously, this is not a good idea.
so i met my boyfriend online, but before we met in person we talked on skype for like a month. If u talk to a guy via camera, then he cant pretend to be someone else.
i want real relation & love
i watched the film (trust ) it was so scary i know someone who always meets people online xx
Hi,
I was in a relationship with someone that I have met online, we have been together for four years and broke up 2 months ago. I don’t really think it’s an issue as long as you know that the person is who they tell they are. We both had a mutual friend, even though my ex lived only 5 hours away from and we only saw each other after 3 years, unfortunately we broke up soon after for various reasons.
Life moves on though…