How To Stop Being The Jealous Girlfriend

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The stars have aligned and you’ve found someone who makes your heart go thump-thump-thump. Go you!

Everything about your sweetie from the sound of his voice to his gorgeous eyes leave you in Swoon City. But, um, why is he talking to that skank? And, er, who’s the new blonde chick with cheap extensions all up in his Facebook page? Does he really have to be BFFs with a Ke$ha lookalike?

Slowwwww dowwn, hot stuff. You are in the JDZ, Jealousy Danger Zone. Luckily, we caught it early and you can inch your way back to the other side of the street (also known as SANITY) when your pride, dignity and sense of self-worth intact.

Jealousy can be confusing. We wonder, isn’t it totally natural to feel a twinge of the green monster when you love someone? Well, sure, we all feel a tad obsessive at times regarding the folks we love. However, when we’re secure in ourselves we don’t feel a need to act on these twinges.

Insecurity is never sexy— and being the jealous girlfriend is about as insecure as you can get.

Here’s how NOT to become the jelly-girl that guys–and girls–can’t stand.

1. Believe in yourself.
It’s no miracle that your crush likes you back. You’re quite a catch, girlie. With everything that you bring to the party, who wouldn’t like you? You’re the shizz and it’s time you knew that.

2. Trust your BF or GF.
All relationships are built on trust. Give your love life a strong start by picking someone who seems trustworthy to begin with. If you’re dating the school player then you may be setting yourself up to be played. If you’ve chosen someone worthy of all of YOUR fabulosity, then you should trust that they have eyes for only you.

3. Talk it out.
Communication is KEY to romantic happiness. If something your sweetie is doing makes you uncomfortable, speak up! It’s normal and healthy to ask questions. It’s NOT healthy to obsess or repeatedly accuse someone of cheating or other love misdemeanors, however. If you don’t trust the person you’re dating, it’s better to move on that to go all Jealous Jessie. I know you know what I mean.

4. Social media is for socializing, not stalking.
Repeatedly scanning somebody’s Facebook or twitter account for conversations and connections is unhealthy. Being in a relationship doesn’t mean becoming a detective. If you feel that you have to investigate your BF then something is wrong.

The bottom line: jealousy ain’t cute! Being secure within yourself means being secure within your relationship. Always remember that confidence is the sexiest trait you can have. Oh, and if you’re dating someone who goes out of his way to make you jealous on purpose, RUN, girl, RUN!

Have you ever been a jealous girlfriend? Do you know any girls who are a jealous girlfriend but don’t realize it? Do you have trouble trusting your boyfriend? Tell us everything in the comments.

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  • Stina

    I feel the same way and mainly from my past and my family and friends always give insecure advice when I need it. My boyfriend never lose to me he tells me he isn’t cheating to stop being insecure I trust him I wanna believe him but my family and friends advice has my eyes open to a point where I have a hard time trusting him. He and I love each other, he even talks to me on the phone around other girls like his sons mom and friends who live in the same building as him I don’t know what to do


    I’m stephanie ,
    Well I will start off by sayin I have 2 kids. I have a 5 year oldI also have a 4 month old. They have different dads. Well speeding up I have a great boyfriend . But something happened to me night before last that has never happen before . A random number text him . So I called and text the number and I ended up thinkin it was his ex who stalked hime . So I text asking if it wasLindsey and they said whats up. Well that burnt me up I said nicely to leave him alone he his happy . They then kick texted back saying B**** ill kick your stupid ass this isn’t a girl. Well o flipped .on my boyfriend for no reason I thought he had somethin to do with it. Whoever it was should have not said what’s up when I asked if it was Lindsey . Now my boyfriend said I have a problem and our erelationship is on the line. I want to control my anger n jealousy. Help me please!!