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AriNoel said:
So I really want to fool around more with my boyfriend… but every time he unbuttons my pants or lifts my shirt half-way up, I get scared and back out. He knows that I don’t like when he pulls my shirt up because I’m self-conscious, so he doesn’t do it anymore.
Also, I’m not sure if I’m supposed to shave down there. I need help on how to get over these self-conscious issues. Who am I kidding, I need help with A LOT of things. Can anyone message me and help with advice? I would so appreciate it.
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It’s okay to be nervous. I waited for years to really fool around or even consider sleeping with a boyfriend. As far as shaving goes it’s a hassle. That being said it’s ultimately up to you. I would recommend talking to your boyfriend about your concerns as well though
if he can’t accept you for how you are, forget him…but he is clearly very interested in being with you!!! have a chat and explain that you get self-conscious…but i can guarantee that he’ll tell you that you have nothing to be ashamed of and that you ARE beautiful!!!! don’t forget to have fun and relax….
Well I’ve fooled around before, I am single now but when I was with my boyfriend we did stuff together. He went down my pants and went in! I went down his pants and yano! He’s lifted up my top he’s been undermy pants with his Tongue!! And we’ve dry humped! It’s all so nice I mean really it is! But to be honest I wouldn’t have been able to do any of that if I didn’t talk to him about it. He gave me advice and I improved on how to not be so nervous, if you start under the blanket or in the dark then you should be fine just start kissing and then start:)!
The absolute most important thing about engaging sex is having fun. Instead of thinking how hot is has to be, how perfect you both have to look, or how well you do everything… think, that you really like this person and you want to have a good time with this person. Try being silly. If you know you can laugh with him, even in uncomfortable situations, if something embarrassing WERE to happen, it wouldn’t be a big deal. You guys could just laugh it off and continue having a good time.
Remember, he wants to see you and touch YOU. That’s what he’s there for right? Also sex is supposed to be fun and to make you both feel good. It isn’t a performance(unless you want it to be) and isn’t work. It’s fun and it is sensual pleasure.
Here are also some tips from my blog about feeling beautiful – http://www.theloveinhereyes.com/2012/04/16/one-week-to-feel-beautiful/