What are relationships really all about? Are they just about having someone to hook up with and sleep in the same bed with? Are they about having someone to talk to and lean on for support? Or are they a healthy combination of both? The answer probably seems pretty obvious, but here’s something to consider: what if you’re not ready for sex yet? Or what if you’re not even that into hooking up?
We started thinking about this topic after we saw it in the message boards. So we want to know what you think: are sex-less relationships okay? Is it possible to be totally in love with someone without having sex with them? Read what these girls think and then tell us your thoughts in the comments:
Are sex-less relationships okay? I’m 17 right now, and I just think sex is a bit gross. Yes, I am a virgin. I have never even been in a relationship before. I just don’t understand why so many people like it. I wouldn’t bring it up, unless my partner does. I just don’t see the point to sex. I think real relationships should just be for love, and people for who they are.
How OK do you think this is? Is this normal, or is it just me?
The point of sex is to feel a level of physical pleasure that can’t be achieved through other means, and most people would agree that sex makes you feel much closer to your partner because you are doing something so intimate with them. Sex is not gross… it is a completely natural part of life and relationships. It is perfectly okay to not have sex with every person you date and to wait a while before having sex, but a normal, long-term, loving relationship cannot survive without any sort of physical contact.
Sure, sex-less relationships are perfectly fine. Honestly, that was what I was searching for. I was afraid to date certain guys (or all guys, for that matter) unless I knew that they were super Christian and planned on sticking to their morals. My boyfriend and I share an intense physical (and emotional) connection. We are actually in a long distance relationship now, and we weren’t able to see each other for 4 weeks. We did not discuss sex (or even kissing) one time while we were apart, and we survived. So, YES, sex-less relationships are okay.
My thoughts? It’s totally and completely fine to wait to have sex – if you’re not ready, you should never force yourself to do it just because you want a “good relationship”. Relationships are about way more than just sex and should never be only about sex. At 17-years-old, there’s no reason to pressure yourself to do the deed.
However, your relationships in the future (when you’re much older) might not survive without that physical connection you get from sex. But like I said before, you should never have sex until you’re ready – that’s the most important thing to remember here.
What do you think? Are sex-less relationships okay? Have you ever been in one? Would you ever be in one? Tell us in the comments.