Comments on: Would You Date Someone Even If You Weren’t Attracted To Them?

By: Tom

Tom — Sun, 05 May 2013 19:45:12 +0000

Women’s feelings are one thing, but in a man, my opinion is that there HAS to be sexual attraction from the start. The person does not have to be physically stunning, but there has to be a few things that make the man want her. To go with a woman based solely on personality & maybe a cute face, is not enough. Not to be crude, but if a man is not sprouting a boner about the woman, they could have a marvelous friendship, but he will always wish he had someone else in the bedroom. Then of course beyond that, personality has to match up as well. Quite simply put, the man HAS to perform, so there is no kidding anyone. A woman CAN be with someone that is not even sexually attractive & still have sex, maybe not such good sex, but all the other stuff the man has to offer, money, nice personality & humor, supportive etc. but in a mans case without a hot sex partner hes going to lose interest. Its just male biology. No drive for sex…a woman had best leave them, because cheating on her will ALWAYS be a strong possibility & if intimacy & commitment are of utmost importance, as it should be, then seriously girls, you are asking for trouble.

By: Robin

Robin — Mon, 25 Mar 2013 03:18:19 +0000

I met Colin Firth. He is the hottest man on this planet.

By: Janina

Janina — Thu, 27 Dec 2012 08:11:29 +0000

I will answer your question based on my own experience. The short of it is I did and I’ve been married to him for 9 yrs now. Before I met my husband I only dated men whom I was attracted to physically. I remember dating two (conventionally drop dead handsome) men and they both turned out to be jerks and players. My (now) husband was actually not my “type in terms of physical appearance alone and if I had seen him in a room without actually meeting him I wouldn’t have even given him a second look. I mean he’s not ugly by any stretch of the word but he was definitely not my type. BUT as it turned out, he had a great personality. The attraction came after I got to know him and now 9 yrs after, our marriage is still great. I’m not telling you what to do or anything but how will you know that he could be the best thing that ever happens to you if you don’t at least give him a chance?

By: Callie

Callie — Tue, 17 Jul 2012 13:06:00 +0000

When I met the one I love, was I sexually attracted? No. But now..

By: S

Wed, 11 Jul 2012 16:36:09 +0000

I can, I have and it was the best decision EVER. To cut a long story short- This guy I met through a mutual friend was not conventionally goodlooking (think Colin Firth, not Brad Pitt), I WAS somewhat physically attracted to him, but mostly, there was just “something there”. We hooked up, it wasn’t good. There was like zero chemistry. But he had a nice personality, and I was comfortable in his company. 3 months down the road, the sex (okay not the sex, we weren’t there yet, but the hookups) got hot, and he’s honestly *become* really good in bed, there’s a LOT of chemistry and he’s a really good boyfriend. I can’t keep my hands off him. He’s kind, respectful, extremely supportive, we have the same values and he’s well educated with a high earning potential (I like rich men and I cannot lie). We’ve been dating for over 2 years now and it’s been great. Imagine if I’d dismissed him that first night because there was no chemistry. As Helen Gurley Brown (Cosmo editor) once said: “The truth is, sex is not the same after the first year. Oh it’s pleasant, all right, but it is not the cliff-hanging variety. However, that’s not a bad price to pay for a good man.” I strongly advise you to focus on his character, as the rest can be overcome in time

By: Caroline B

Caroline B — Mon, 09 Jul 2012 19:18:40 +0000

To be honest, I usually like for a guy to be attractive for me to date them because sometimes I’ll feel embarrassed. But now I see how many guys only want to date girls because of sex, there’s only a few guys who actually stay true to you. My boyfriend now isn’t the hottest person but he’s cute. He has an amazing personality and respects me. So I think you should give this guy a chance because these guys are rare(; But take a chance! You’ll never know till you try! I hope this helps!(:

By: Ashley

Ashley — Mon, 09 Jul 2012 07:32:41 +0000

I totally get were your coming from and the best solution for you i guess is to follow your heart. I mean if you feel like you should give him a chance do it if not I totally think you should stop talking to him and stop wasting your time but maybe you guys can be friends just saying but the main thing is you don’t have to be sexually attracted to someone if you wanna be with that person you should like him for who he is not because of what he looks like or if he’s sexy. i say connection see if you two will hit it off you never know.

By: Jasmine

Jasmine — Mon, 09 Jul 2012 05:55:40 +0000

I’m in a very similar situation as you. I like this guy but he’s not cute… and kind of chubby, not very attractive. He was also pretty mean to me the year before. Anyway, I forbid myself to like him because of his previous actions that hurt my self-esteem and well the attractiveness. I think that you, on the other hand, should definetly go out with this guy. Get to really know him and if the shallow part of your brain, no offense every girl has it, doesn’t truly like him it means that you should just let it go because it wouldn’t be any good to be in a relationship that keeps you asking yourself, should I break up with him or embrace his looks! I hope this helped, good luck!

By: Carol

Carol — Mon, 09 Jul 2012 03:38:52 +0000

Keep seeing him. You will most likely find yourself liking him more and more as time goes on. At first you might not think that he is that attractive but the more that you see him you might (it is actually a psychological thing, where the more that you see somebody the more that you find them attractive, and the more that you like them.)

By: Countrygurl

Countrygurl — Mon, 09 Jul 2012 03:04:11 +0000

Honestly, I think you should give him a chance. He sounds like a total sweetie and like he would treat you like a princess. Which is what every girl wants. I actually have been going through the same thing, for YEARS. This one guy at my pool has had a thing for me for like 3 years now, it really seems like it. The first year we met we would spend every single day just chatting for hours about personal stuff. We talked so much, we barely swam. Yep, I got sunburned BAD lol. The second year of the pool, I started to ignore him thinking “he’s not that cute, so I’m not attracted to him. I shouldn’t be leading him on so I won’t talk to him any more”. and now this year at the pool he hasn’t been coming lately. I am now thinking “Oh no, does he think I hate him?! Why won’t he come?” And now all I want is for him to come. I just realized how sweet and amazing he was, no matter if I’m not sure if I like him like that yet… I am now wishing he’ll come so I can have my best friend back. Lesson learned here: *Never* push away somebody who made you feel like a princess, an angel, like you were in heaven (and MEANT the things they said to you). He may not be that cute, but he’s the sweetest, most deep guy I know and I wish I would’ve given him the chance when he was open for it. So yeah, give this guy a chance