I Get Turned On By Lesbian Porn. Am I A Lesbian?!

I watch lesbian porn

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Hi Heather,

Recently I’ve noticed that I get turned on by watching lesbian porn. But I have a boyfriend. I also always think about females in a sexual way… I’m not the same with my boyfriend, and we’ve been dating for almost a year. I’m so confused. HELP!! PLEASE?!

Okay, no need to panic! I know that what you’re going through right now is very confusing and probably a little scary, but eventually, you will figure everything out – even if that takes a little while. I’m not saying that you’re bisexual or a lesbian, but the most important thing you need to realize right now is that if that’s the case, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with either of those sexual orientations.

That being said, watching and enjoying girl-on-girl porn does not automatically make you a lesbian. Everyone gets turned on by different things, and just because it may seem odd doesn’t mean it is. You’d probably be surprised at how many straight girls and women watch lesbian porn (just Google it to see!).

However, you also mentioned that you think about females in a sexual way, but don’t think about your boyfriend like that. Ask yourself a few questions here: do you get turned on by heterosexual porn? Do you fantasize about men the same way you fantasize about women? Do you enjoy hooking up with your boyfriend? If you think about girls on a regular basis and have little to no interest in men, there is a possibility that you could be a lesbian. If you think about both girls and guys, you could be bisexual.

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The truth is, I can’t tell you what your sexual orientation is. No one can. It’s something you need to figure out on your own. Sure, there might be tons of quizzes and articles online and in magazines that try to help you answer that question, but in the end it really comes down to how you feel. Talking to someone about your confusion might be helpful. If you’re comfortable enough with your parents or another adult, try spilling your feelings to them. If not, there are support hotlines that could be beneficial to you.

What’s important here is that you take the time you need to get comfortable with your sexuality, even if that just means being comfortable with some sexuality question marks. Don’t feel like there’s pressure to do or say anything about your sexuality. And that goes for your current relationship too. If you don’t want to be with your boyfriend sexually, consider ending things with him until you really figure out how you feel. When it comes to sexuality and sexual relations, you should be doing anything you’re not 100 percent happy doing.

take care,
Heather

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  • dyn

    I don’t know why but it really turns me on seeing girl on girl. Especially when they’re going down on each other. It’s so FREAKIN hot and im completely straight. Love men and will always love men, but as a guilty pleasure I enjoy lesbian porn ( I still like straight porn too)

  • Alyssa

    You wanna tell me why their are gay people that attend my church? There’s nothing wrong with your sexuality. If your gay then, your gay… As Christian (to be exact I am devout Episcopalian) as I am… I am bi sexual. I grew up in a nice very formal church who does not judge at all. Their is a gay woman on our clergy board she helps with priest things. The choir director is a gay. Your damn right is says homosexuality is wrong in the bible but it also says you do judge anyone and accept people for who they are and be kind to one another. It’s God’s job to judge not yours or ours.

  • Annie Cao

    I LOVE lesbian porn and I am straight, when i’m not in a certain mood, the thought of having sex with a girl does nothing for me, but i love lesbian porn where there is no squirting but just women on top of eachother, like right on top of eachother and smothering eachother, omg it turns me on so much.

  • devilkisses

    I’m a bisexual girl who usually gets crushes on girls. I get turned off by lesbian porn, but I love gay porn.

  • taylor

    I’m bisexual/fluid with my sexuality, I’ve had sex with multiple girls and yet lesbian porn turns me off. Your taste in porn isn’t necessarily your taste in sex.

  • Ricki

    I’m a chick and I love watching lesbian porn! I’m straight as can be, but I’ve experimented with women before also. I was curious, so I tried. It was alright. I prefer watching lesbian porn then to be with a women.

  • Jane

    I Love Watching Porn, I Massturbate While Watching It Too! P.S I’m Straight!

  • pinkheart

    I like watching lesbian porn and masturbating, I am sure my bf likes it too. I like other kinds of porn too. Squirting porn doesnt do much for me but I like sensual lesbians or hot guys hard and sexy.

  • SketchArtiste

    I get turned on by lesbian porn as well. I luuuuuuurv guys, and Im actually shot dead in love with an amazing guy right now. I really don’t give a damn about labels, anyone can fall in love with anyone. The only thing is, you have to love yourself and be comfortable with yourself. And for the love of all things good and wonderful, PLEASE read comments with an open mind. All of us can’t be as religious as anyone else, so if you’re going to leave a comment related to religion, I suggest you keep it to yourself. I’m not being mean…I’m just sayin’.

  • rayneandryan

    I dont mean to be the downer, but…that’s like, a sin. Don’t act like its normal…because if u do, u r just giving Satan what he wants. So…………:/

    • sarah

      O.M.G, lighten up and STOP with this homophobic talk, its so old…

    • some person

      rayneandryan hurt my feelings. I, a Christian, believe that’s a sin. Hypocrite.

    • Frankie

      Seriously?! I don’t even believe in Satan. And which is better? Watching porn and masturbating or going out and having sex?
      Or are all people just supposed to fight our nature because of what you want?
      Who do you think you are? You honestly believe that with your “holier-than-thou” attitude that you must know all about what Satan wants?
      Personally, if God is some a-hole that wants me to fight a part of my nature which he built into me then I am totally fine with going to Hell. I’ll see you there.
      I hate this idea of God being some paternal figure constantly waving his finger at you and telling you that you’re bad for doing what you’re designed to do.
      Go take the Jesus crap somewhere else.

    • kelly

      whoa there, please don’t say that, it is definitely NOT a sin to be gay, and porn is not the best thing in the world but watching it can be taken care of #Imapreacher

    • SaeSae

      i TOTALLY agree with you and i wanted to say you were so brave about saying that on here becuase obviously everyone thinks it is ok for porn. even masterbation is a sin and for all you reading this I DONT CARE IF MY SPELLING IS HORRIBLE! ok back to you rayneandryan, i think that people need to know about how it can hurt relationships and it just hurts your ego becuase then you see it when you look at someone and it corrupts your entire mind set

      you rock rayneandryan!

      • Betty

        i do believe it is a sin to be gay and to watch porn too! and it is disgusting and yeah gay people may be fun but it is really not pure and moral. it is disgusting. so grow up and realize that you are just a big ball of aids if you are gay!

  • Selena

    I watch lesbian porn and i have a boyfriend it’s totally normal!I told my boyfriend that i get turned on when i watch the girls but i dont feel that way about girls in real life, he was really supportive and actually thinks it’s good i know so much about my sexuality ^_^

  • donnear8182

    This actually isn’t as uncommon as you think. I am what you would call “bi-curious”, meaning that there could be a possibility that I may be bisexual but have never really given it a chance. Anyhow, I constantly think about other girls, and it’s just a natural curiosity. Think about it: You know the ins and outs of your own body, but most of the girls/women (especially all of us, otherwise we wouldn’t be at this site) wonder about what things are like from other women. Even in a sexual way, it’s pretty normal. Hope this both made sense AND helped.

  • CatFeist

    I can relate to this article! I watch lesbian porn and would probably have sex with a girl (I’ve only kissed like 2 girls.) But I’m straight and usually always have fantasies with men only. I’m glad someone asked Heather this question.

  • Hayden218

    I could see myself being with a best friend but I’m not bi nor an I a lesbian. Girls just turn you on so much more than a guy ever can. Because lets be honest penises are gross

    • anono

      Let’s be honest, people are different. Some might even think vaginas are gross.

  • Nicole

    Watching lesbian porn always turns me on, even though I know I’m straight. Maybe if I was feeling a bit crazy, I’d consider having sex with another woman, but if I think about it seriously, other than just fantasizing when I’m masturbating, then it just doesn’t do it for me. I don’t know, that’s just my feelings. I don’t think I could ever date a woman, though. We all have our quirks, likes, and dislikes 🙂

    • Heather

      I’m the exact same way!

  • Roo

    I get turned on by lesbian porn and have sexual thoughts about girls, but I’m straight through andthrough

    • tracy

      No you’re not a straight person would find lebian porn Boring.
      Stop calling yourselves straight. Your are not.

      • Nicole

        You don’t get to define anyone’s sexuality but your own.

  • Stephanie

    Ya I get turned on too but I can’t imagine myself doing that and when I think about having a relationship or getting married in the future I definitely want a man. Also, I feel bad after I watch it because I’m a Christian so I’m gonna stop cuz I don’t like that feeling

    • Skyler

      Yea I feel the exact same way

  • Miranda

    Who cares? Just enjoy what you enjoy and stop being so obsessed with labels.

  • chantel

    same, but i know I’m attracted to men.

  • Alana

    I get turned on by the idea of sex with a woman, but I could never see me in an actual relationship. To me, a woman just doesn’t cut it when I’m looking for a love interest.

    • Cassie

      Me too!

    • CatFeist

      Yes, I agree with Alana!

      • lexasweetheart

        i get really turned off when i see lesbian porn