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Say you’re going out with this guy you really like. Things are going great, until one day you find out that he cheated. Suddenly, BAM, everything falls apart… until he asks you to forgive him and give him another chance. So, do you do it?
We saw this topic being discussed in the message boards and we had to know how you girls felt about it. Would you take back a cheater, even though he totally messed up? Would you be able to forgive someone for that kind of dishonesty? It’s hard to give a definitive answer unless you’ve actually been in the situation, but either way, we want to know what you think. Check out what these girls had to say and then tell us your thoughts:
princessval1457 said:
Would you ever take a cheater back? If yes, explain why and if no explain why. If you have ever taken a cheater back before, tell us your story and why you took him back, and if you guys are still together.
Have I ever taken a cheater back? Yes, because I honestly thought he would change. But he just wasn’t the same person, and things weren’t the same as they were before he cheated, so I knew I had to end it.
crystalxoxo said:
I would never, and I have never… Cheating is wrong. If you are going to do it once, then more then likely its going to happen again, so I would never take one back.
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DaisyandTulip said:
Well, I haven’t been cheated on but I did cheat on my boyfriend. It was within the first couple months of dating and I told him right away. What I did was pretty crappy but he forgave me and I haven’t cheated since. Would I take a cheater back? Well, I suppose it depends on the person and situation. I can’t say no or yes for certain because things are always so different when it actually happens.
So what do we think? Well, we have to agree with DaisyandTulip: it always depends on the people involved and the exact situation. If you love your boyfriend and are willing to try to forgive him for what he did, then give him another chance. But if you honestly feel so hurt that you don’t think you can past it, taking him back probably isn’t going to end well.
The truth is, forgiving and taking back a cheater is extremely difficult. If you were cheated on, that means you’re probably extremely hurt and more than likely, your trust is broken. It’s not an easy thing to get over, and sometimes, it’s best to break ties – especially if that dude is a serial cheater.
What would you do? Would you take back a cheater? Have you ever taken back a cheater before? Have you ever cheated? Tell us in the comments.
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Hey everyone, please don’t get back with a cheater,
ONE they can’t communicate (root of all problems) and cheating is a major signifier.
TWO, this person can’t think ahead into their future, we want men not boys who think til the end of lunch, we want men prepared mentally to look into their futures and hopefully with you.
THREE, a real man would say, “look your pu*** is just not enough, peace” (dumb, but honest still). To address the “situation,” yes, some guys had a stroke of good luck and went for it w a women, but most men are premeditated. These are the twisted ones lady’s, the ones that think that what they’re doing is okay, and look you in the eyes everyday and tell you they love you.
My story, I’ve been cheated on 3 times, 3 different men. This last one threw me for a loop, 3 years w this guy …and he was the quick one to say ily.
He cheated on my with well over 25 WOMEN.
I found videos
Emails
pictures (tell me why i didn’t get a picture, or a naughty text…!)
all that good stuff
AND YES LADY’S MY DUMBA** TOOK HIM BACK
and no surprise
HE CHEATED
AGAIN
AND AGAIN
oh and I held his hand and told him that he can stop this addiction
cuz thats what he called it, and by the looks of it, i believed it
I meditated and told myself that love was the answer
NO LADY’S FIND THAT HIDDEN STRENGTH, HIT UP ALL OF YOUR CLOSEST FRIENDS AND DON’T LET THEM OUT OF YOUR SIGHT
the moment you do
YOU MIGHT JUST CALL HIM
and there you go
TRAPPED
it may feel good for sometime
BUT IT WILL CREEP BACK ON YOU, ALL THE HATE AND ANGER
YOU WONT BE ABLE TO SLEEP THE PAIN WILL WAKE YOU
because you won’t be able to stop thinking about all the other women he liked better than you, and since he’s still acting the same, you don’t know if he’s still doing the same SHI*
I was one of those believers in, “finding out my own way”
be easy on yourself, you can learn quicker than you think, SO DO SO!
oh… by the way
HE DUMPED ME
I’m crying myself to bed, and couldn’t go to sleep, so I’m letting it out here.
ps DONT TRUST THE CHARMING ONES, they know how to use it, IT’S LETHAL!
oh and if you see a guy name drew guy86 or drewfun4u, tell him to GTH!
My husband of 8 years cheated on me within 7 minutes of myself and kids leaving after having dinner he continuously lied to me spoke to me on phone when he was with her I found out by the other woman he says he has told me exactly what happened but I’m having a hard time believing him for the lies he did tell
I wouldn’t take him back. if he really loved me why would he cheat on me. i havent really been cheated on but close to it. me and my boyfriend broke up but we promised to date each other when we met again in high school(im still in middle school). he said he would never date another girl. i found out right after i left he dated my best friend. my best friend says she didnt but everyone else says she did. i wanted to ask him but he wont answer my calls or text any more. i really hurt even though i dont really know the truth. anyway if a guy cheated on me but had an excuse for it and proof then we could work it out. but if he just did it to do it then it’s over
. My boyfriend of 1 year and 3 month cheated on me! It happened on Valentine’s Day of 2012 with my supposedly sister(close friend)! I took him back! My reason being is I thought he would change or whatever he was suppose to do! He started off doing good and then it started going down hill! I say if you really LOVE a person you’ll work through every situation! EVERY YOUNG LADY has there BREAKING POINT!!
I was cheated on about nine months into my current relationship. I had always told myself I would never take a cheater back, but when the time came around, I couldn’t just quit everything like that. My boyfriend and I have been through more than many people can even think of and I wasn’t ready to let that go. He explained everything to me and even the girl he cheated on me with, his ex of 2 years before me, blamed herself for coming onto him. I know, there is really no excuse for cheating. He gave me all the time I needed though, including a week without talking to him, and now we have been together for more than a year. I don’t believe everyone should get a second chance though, but i think there are exceptions.
I’d drop him or her like an ugly pair of shoes. Weird, considering I don’t usually compare people to shoes, but nonetheless. If they’re still sorry about it months later, i’d consider taking them back. Until then, no way no how.
They hurt me. I can’t trust someone again as well as I did if someone did that to me. I’d feel used and dirty. I’d constantly be wondering, “If you called it casual sex, then what’s ours?” I’d just not be able to handle that.
Ive been cheated on before. It really hurt. I could have forgiven him for just messing around or something, maybe we would worked it out. But he was in a whole other relationship and he told her he loved her just like he told me he loved me. That was bs. Ive learned now. I see him all the time at church. Im not one to hold a grudge so he thinks we real cool. I dont know if i truely have forgiven him and if he was to ask me out again i would REALLY have to think about it
I have gotten cheated on before, it’s not the best feeling in the world. Obviously you have to realize what you’d be giving up before you cheat. It depends on how many times the guy has cheated. If it is like one or two times, I might be okay with it. I wouldn’t fully trust him though. But he’d have to have changed.
I think it really depends…Before my current boyfriend I would have said, no I will never forgive a cheater…but it really depends on the situation..we talked about this. If it was a mistake..like a drunken one time thing JUST SEX..then maybe..but if they actually developed true feelings for eachother, were confiding in eachother and what not..then no I wouldn’t forgive. And the drunken mistake only goes for once..he can’t keep using that excuse.
Cheaters are hard to accept back into your life. I once took a cheater back but he cheated on me again. You need to make them understand it’s not right and that they can’t just come back to you because they don’t like the other girl as much as they thought. Make them work for it tell them you need to think about it. They did the crime and they need to do the time! Watch out and do not have sex with them again until you know they are truly committed to you again and they will never cheat on you again.
I have never cheated and never been cheated on but personaly i think its wrong. theres been cheating in my family before and it only causes heart ache. it might be a “one time” incident but all the pain it causes is ridiculous. why put urself through all that pain if u DON’T have to. but it depends on the situation and the people involved.
i took back a cheater once and that was a mistake he cheated again. evan if u love him and still like him dont take him back. you dont know if he will do it again.
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I have taken back a cheater. Apparently he didnt ‘think I would care’ that he cheated. Even I could tell that excuse was dumb. I wont exactly say I regretted taking him back but we’re broken up now and I can honestly say I feel better about him now that we’re just friends.
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no once a cheater always a cheater ive been cheated on and it was only ONLINE now i dont date online and i felt the hurt anger and everything i would never take bak a cheater because if they cheat it probly means there bord with you! and your relationship! but….there is that ex that you cant help but kiss the feelings that never went away…. but guys somehow think that we wont care if they cheat on us i mean were just sex toys right? GUYS D:<
I’ve never and will never forgive or take back a cheater. It’s a relationship, not a test, so why would he cheat?… If it happens once then it will probably happen twice!:)
I agree because it happended to me, I got cheated on twice the same guy.
never. once a cheater, always a cheater.
honestly, i think you should be willing to give them their LAST chance unless the circumstances of the cheating were major.
i’ve been cheated on by my bf of 8 months and he sid hewas so sorry and he didnt blame me if i wanted to break up with him or nt trust him again ..and i took him bac after thinkin bout all the good time we had and how much he loved me but it is hard to forget how much he hurt me and hoe my trust for him is gone jst a lil bit and that we are workin on it