I’m Not Showering – Don’t Call Me Gross

Shower Everyday

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Okay, before you get completely grossed out by the title of this post, let me assure you that I do shower on a regular basis. I don’t (think) I smell, my hair is always clean and I have lots of fun, yummy-smelling bath products that get put to very good use.

I’m talking about a conversation I’ve had countless times with guys. Most guys I know, including my boyfriend and my brother, wake up and shower every single morning. They roll out of bed in the AM, go into the shower and come out 20 minutes later; ready to conquer the day, smelling good and looking clean. But I don’t shower everyday – and for some reason, guys just don’t get it. Then we have this convo:

Boyfriend/brother/dude: “Aren’t you going to shower?”

Me: “Nah.”

BF/bro/dude: “But… that’s gross.”

Me: “I just showered yesterday.

BF/bro/dude: “So what? It’s still gross.”

I know I’m not the only one who’s had this conversation before, and honestly, I’m so sick of defending myself! It is not gross to skip a shower once in a while. If I showered the afternoon or night before, and did pretty much nothing all night, I’m not going to wake up in the morning and wash myself. I mean, yeah, if I just worked out or felt super sweaty, I’d definitely jump in the shower. But if I spent the night watching movies in my PJs, what’s the big deal about showering later on or the next day?

Here’s the thing: dudes can hop in and out of the shower in a few minutes. Most of them have very little hair to wash, half of them don’t even understand what conditioner does (or maybe that’s just my BF) and they don’t have to shave their legs or armpits. Once they’re out of the shower, they’re pretty much good to go – they just have to throw on some clothes and they can walk out the door.

For me, it’s not that simple. Maybe there are some girls who shower quickly and were lucky enough to be born with hair that dries neatly on it’s own. But I am so not one of those girls, and neither are a lot of ladies I know.

Shower Everyday

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My showers are a process. I have a lot more hair than the majority of the guys I know – meaning that shampooing and conditioning (and maybe deep conditioning, if necessary) takes longer than five minutes. I have to shave in there, and guys, I don’t know if you’ve ever tried standing on one foot on a slippery surface while holding a razor, but let me tell you: it’s not fun.

Once I’m out of there, I then have to worry about my hair and makeup. Sure, some days I jump out of the shower, put my hair in a wet ponytail, forgo makeup and call it a day. But most days, it’s not that easy. I have to blow out of my hair, then straighten or curl it. I have to apply all of my makeup. I have to moisturize and primp and all that good stuff. And then I still need time to pick out what I’m going to wear.

So, no, I don’t shower every morning. Sometimes I do all of it right before I go to sleep, so I can wake up a little later and start my day right away. Sometimes I’m just too lazy to do my hair when it looks fine as it is… besides, it’s not even healthy for your hair to wash it every day. And sometimes, I wash my body off without getting my head wet.

My point is, stop calling me gross for not showering every morning like you. Unless, of course, you want to start complaining about how long I take to get ready.

Do you shower every day? Do guys ever call you gross for not showering? Can you totally relate with my problem? Or do you shower all the time? Let me know in the comments!


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  • nicole

    I shower usually every 2 or 3 days and I am not smelly or greasy. it is such a process to shower, shave, condition, pic out an outfit(im more picky when freshly showered) when im not I am totally much more able to throw on jeans and a hoodie. Then comes hair and makeup! trust me, no matter how hard I try it is not an easy task. and I don’t wear a lot of makeup, im Italian so I am dark which helps a lot. I think showering is overrated it takes forever. if I am just running errands I don’t see the point in getting all dolled up. id rather wait until evening when we go out to dinner and primp ….but that’s just me…and fyi everywhere I go I almost always get complimented on how nice I smell

    • Milen Dimitrov

      But do you wash up some parts in between?

  • lindsay

    Hey, I shower maybe like 2-3X a week, like so what? If you have a PROBLEM with me sometimes smelling like a GIRRRRRRRRRRRRL, then like deal with it or bye?

  • Han

    I tended to shower every just at night unless I am so tired . My hair always use middle part line always become smell and everytime I washed the hole clump of hair falls .
    Now I change part , change my shampoo and it works even though I don’t wash my hair every day .
    My dad also wash in morning and night

  • jennifer stewart

    yeah with the invention of axe i can now smell ass sweat and dirt and filth but hey if you spray axe you can just walk around all day justifying the fact you freaking stink wow so this is how it end’s for human’s we degenerate back too infantile children where we need people too tell us on a near consistent basis too bathe brush our teeth wash our hair make our bed’s wash our clothe’s wash our dishes good freaking job children who wrote this article angry goth kid no i bet an e.m.o or hipster wrote this this this is why i hate my freaking generation we have so far de evolved too children good job people what’s next i no longer wipe or wash my hand’s when exiting the bathroom you know what i’m done i’m done gross

  • jennifer stewart

    i shower and bathe and brush my teeth daily i don’t alway’s wash my hair on a regular basis but by god we brit’s get a bad rap for not showering or bathing or having dirty hair or even gasp aghast have bad teeth if you don’t shower everyday do you also wear sweat pant’s and dirty hoodie’s all day long walk around in your own stink yeah and every one told em european’s stink good job america you just proved us all wrong brit’s no longer stink thank’s oh and the french bathe yes they bathe good luck talking too a guy while you smell seriously what’s with this new movement of not washing your hair and body your vaginal area after a while not too mention your anal region and under arm’s feet all stink and emit certain odor’s so yeah that is just beyond sick bye jesus get a life people and bathe freaking moron’s

  • Mila2

    Well what i do is shower like on Wednesday night and then shower again Friday night so…i usually go for 2 days without showering mostly. It’s better for your hair health anyways. I only use shampoo every other time.

  • italianpixie

    I shower every other morning because I have atopic dermatitis (eczema), and showering every day dries out my skin and makes it worse.

  • Princeton’sWiffey

    I only take showers maybe 5 times a year but I always like taking baths (that’s just me)

  • anon

    ive really thick hair, not the average amount, i mean ALOT.
    and i dont have a shower in my house, only a bath=/

  • Hanbob

    I shower every other morning. I’ve just started letting my hair dry naturally, but I can’t STAND going out with wet hair.

  • Lana

    I shower every 2 or 3 days in the winter…. so what, Im still super clean.. I brush my teeth, hair, change clothes everyday. Its not like I play in dirt everyday wtf… In the summer I shower almost always everyday tho1

  • Megan

    Ok i dont see anything wrong with showering at night, or right before you go to bed and then not showering the next day… Bc i usually do that all the time. Of course if i dont shower at night i shower in the morning right after i get up. But my friend is kinda gross… she only showers like once every three days. And yeah, i get that showering everyday is not so good for your hair. But come on. I know for a fact that shes even had soccer practice after school, then she’ll go home and not shower. And then she’ll go to school the next day without showering too! Plus, she never washes her face either…. THAT is the only thing i find nasty. 🙁

  • bothepigeon

    Oh… My… God… I’ve never ever (EVER!) been this happy after reading an article. My two best friends (yup, girls) told me, that I was gross, because I didn’t wash my hair every morning or every night. They have super perfect hair, and even though they think it’s messy, it’s all I’ve ever dreamt about having. My hair is thick (thicker than a horse’s hair) and it’s frizzy. So frizzy! It takes me somewhat 30 minutes to shower, because my hair is uncontroleable. It can’t just dry in the air, I have to use blowdryer. And when I’m done it looks like a dying monster-hedgehog, whom have decided to die on my head, is just laying there. I HAVE to straighten it! So I can spend somewhat between 50 minutes to 3 hours on my hair… I know many girls would KILL (litterally) for my hair, but I would stab, shoot and drown people for thinner hair. This really pains me. I hate it.

    • Hanbob

      I want THICKER hair. Swap?