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I wanted revenge at ANY cost! | Source: Shutterstock
You’ve got to understand, this is my first serious high school boyfriend we’re talking about. You know, the one who I planned on marrying? The one I lost my virginity to? The one that I imagined being with for forever? Yep, that was him. One day we were perfect and the next we were over.
The following day at school I anticipated the worst: Passing each other awkwardly in the hall, having to sit near him at lunch and not laugh when he said something funny, him knowing that I had been crying during the minutes before class. But that “worst” doesn’t even come close to what really happened. Ready for it? Are you sure?
HE WAS WITH ANOTHER GIRL. Like really? How could he be so awful to me? They were holding hands and even kissing during passing period. I wanted to die. Cue the combination of humiliation and depression. Obviously our relationship had meant nothing to him–when to me, it was one of the most important things in life. How could I have been such an idiot for letting him mess with my emotions that way. I wasn’t sad anymore, I was livid. And I needed to find some way to get even with him.
If he thought he could just go off and be with another girl so quickly after our relationship was over, that sure meant that I could do the same with another boy. But not just any boy, I wanted to make sure that it was the one person that would hurt him the most—one of his best friends.
I knew which one to pick immediately; he had always been someone that my ex-boyfriend was jealous of. Without consulting my friends, I texted him the next day, asking if he wanted to hang out, but I’m sure he knew that I meant something more. When he came over, I was ready. There had always been some sexual tension between us but now, with my boyfriend out of the picture, nothing was stopping us . . . or me from having revenge sex.
I felt TERRIBLE afterwards. | Source: Shutterstock
It was such a convoluted experience of things I thought I wanted and the emotions that only made me realize how bad of an idea it had all been. I felt dirty and wrong. Believe me, the sex was good while it was happening (when isn’t it?), but the way it made me feel after was so not what I expected. Revenge sex is NOT all it’s cracked up to be in the movies.
I wanted to go back in time and forget the whole thing. I wished that I could have found ANY other way to get over this relationship. Anything besides having revenge sex. I just wish I had known that it would have felt so wrong. If I had, I would never have done it in the first place.
Have you ever had revenge sex, or have you been tempted to do something else super bad to get revenge on an ex? What was it, and how did it make you feel? Do you regret having revenge sex? Tell us everything in the comments!
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I’ve engaged in revenge sex MANY times and usually it WAS like what you see in the movies. Then again, I don’t allow myself to get attached to guys once they reject me. I’m rather cold that way. I can be very loving thru the whole relationship, but wrong me and…I am capable of turning off my emotions like a light switch.
In times when I wasn’t good enough to actually get a guy to have revenge sex with me, I lied and said I did, just to spite the cheating ex.
omg this is like a book seriously!!! I WANT TO READ THE NEXT BOOK!!!!!
was he mad? did his mate tell him? OMG SPILL!!!!!!
Well, I noticed in the comments about people asking if the guy was hurt, well I have a *possible* answer. Being a guy and never being in a relationship . . . Or kissing a girl (L-I-P-S) I am guessing; kind of. I only know of letting girls down, due to lack of attention (Curse: ADHD) but that’s a story for a different time… Basically, I thought of the situation and hypothesized my reaction; If the person was indeed my best friend and she was indeed my most loved, but I let her go for another girl… My friend would come to school and depending on how he set it, this is how I would react;
Tells everyone in a “story” fashion; A big “Fuck You”
Bashes me for hurting someone; Feel like shit; “I know, what have I done?”
Brags to me; Punch him.
Jokes with it to me; “Wow, realllllll cool.” Feeling empty.
Hope this helped. Also, I’ll recount my let-down stories in case anyone wants to hear how a guy screwed up from his point of view: only if requested XD. Also, my high school description is; “Innocent guy.” -Just so you know where I’m coming from.
TELL US!! DID HE GET MAD? HURT? did he come to ur house furiously and have sex wit chu? <33
You girls seriously take things like this so seriously?! Grow up!!! You and your bf broke up, and he was with another girl the next day. Who cares?! You were just jealous and you’re a whore
u are so mean i cant beleve u
She’s not a whore. If she’s a whore then so is the guy. Don’t take a girls virginity then dump her and move onto the next virgin the day after.
This seriously just sounds like something I just did. I found out my ex (my first time too and first serious high school boyfriend) had sex with another girl and was seeing one after he made out with me and asked me to sleep over. A couple days later I had revenge sex with another guy to hurt him like he hurt me.
Well? Did it get back to your ex-boyfriend? Was he jealous? Hurt? You can’t leave us hangin Gurl!
My situation is pretty similar to yours. I started dating my ex-boyfriend’s best friend after we split. We’d been dating for a little over a year, and we were both unhappy with the relationship. In the past I had issues about him spending a lot of time with another girl, and he assured me that it was just platonic. Then, I found out that they went on a date and made out with her the day after he dumped me, and I was seething.
After two months of getting over the trauma, and trying my best not to do crazy shit, I began dating my best friend, who just so happened to be his best friend, too. My ex and his friends constantly believed that I did it only to make him jealous, but we’ve been going out for almost four months now, and he treats me with so much more love and respect than my ex ever did. I’m the happiest I’ve ever been!
Well, I’m happy for u June. Guys can be such aholes. I’m glad u found someone to love you like u deserve to be loved!