What’s the best way to flirt with a boy? There’s this guy I really like, and I want to show him through flirting. So what’s the best way to flirt? Biting your lip? Playfully punching him? Help!
In what has proven to be one of the most popular “Ask A Guy” posts, I outlined how to tell if a guy likes you – and guess what? Those same techniques he uses to flirt with you will also work to grab his attention!
But obviously, guys are very different from ladies in a myriad of ways, so here are some more specific methods to send the right message to the dude of your dreams:
Go ahead: touch! Physical contact is not only a sign that you’re interested — if he feels the same way, it’ll also shoot a mini jolt of romantic electricity through his body. So the next time he makes a funny joke, give him a little tap, squeeze, or even one of those playful punches of yours! (Just don’t knock him out.)
Ask questions; keep conversation flowing; suggest plans. The younger or less mature the guy, the more direct you might need to be (e.g. “Want to get coffee some time?”), as a lack of experience can translate to a lack of assertiveness. But a more self-assured dude who’s already into you will pick up on even the most subtle of prompts (e.g. “Cool sneakers.”) and flirt right back.
However, it’s important not to get too aggressive. You need to periodically give your interactions some breathing room, and allow him to make some of the moves. As I’ve pointed out before, guys do value “the chase,” making a “hard-to-get” (though not “impossible-to-get”) girl that much more desirable.
I wouldn’t worry about vague signals such as “biting your lip,” which can be ignored — or worse, misinterpreted (“Did you burn your mouth?”). Eye contact and smiles are great to start with, but guys can be pretty thickheaded, often not as attuned to social or emotional cues as women are. Don’t hesitate to ramp up the obviousness if your crush doesn’t pick up on a simple visual hint!
Ethan Fixell is a writer and comedian from New York City best known as one half of comic “dating coach” duo Dave and Ethan. He is also the creator and editor of ActualConversation.com. For more on Ethan, visit EthanFixell.com…or call his mom, Robin.