Okay, so you had sex last night… and for whatever reason, you didn’t use protection. Whether the condom broke or it just wasn’t available in the moment, one thing’s for sure: you’re probably freaking out right now. And you’re also probably running to the pharmacy to buy some Plan B to make sure you don’t get pregnant.
So here’s the question: do you tell that dude you were getting it on with last night that you’re going to use Plan B? Or do you leave him in the dark? We saw this topic in the message boards and we really want to know what more people think. Do you have to tell the guy you’re using Plan B or should you keep it to yourself? Read what these girls thought and then let us know your opinion.
My boyfriend and I had sex last week and the condom broke. Twice. It wasn’t towards the end or anything, but I’m not on anything and I was worried, so I went to Planned Parenthood the next day and they gave me Plan B. They told me to come back in two weeks for a test. I haven’t told my boyfriend.
I’m 21 and he’s 22, so we are “old enough” to deal if something *does* happen, but still, it’s not ideal. It’s not necessarily that I don’t feel comfortable telling him about it all, but I don’t want him freaking out about it beforehand if it ends up being nothing. I would usually take my best friend with me for this and she’s not nearby, anymore, so I would be taking the test alone.
Have any of you been in this situation? I can do enough worrying for the both of us, but I’m not sure if I want to have to take the test alone. If I’m not pregnant, it’s fine, but if I am… Ughh. I’m just so all over the place on this. Help!
If I were you, I’d just take the test alone without telling him. If you find out you’re not pregnant, then discuss what happened with him. Tell him you had a bit of a pregnancy scare and hear what he has to say.
Personally, I would tell him. If I did all this without telling my boyfriend and then told him after the fact, I think he’d be upset that I kept it from him.
Besides, I think it’s a good idea to talk to him about ways to prevent this in the future. For example, adding a second method of birth control like the pill, and talking about ways to prevent the condom breaking.
I don’t know your boyfriend so obviously in the end the decision is yours, but if it was me I’d tell him. Tell him the test is just a precaution. I think having him there for support would be good.
So what do I think? Well, if this happened with a boyfriend you’ve been with for a while, I think you should tell him. If you two have an open and honest relationship, then leaving him out of something like this is probably not the best idea. For one thing, you should be able to lean on him for support – and for another thing, he deserves to know if you’re experiencing a pregnancy scare. Plus, that scare ends up being true, he’s probably going to be pretty annoyed that you didn’t tell him what was going on.
If this happened with a one-night stand or a hookup buddy, and you don’t feel very comfortable with that person, then maybe don’t talk to them about it. That’s a much more awkward conversation than it would be with a boyfriend. In the end, though, it’s really your decision. Do what makes you feel comfortable.
Would you tell a guy if you took Plan B? Would you be too scared to tell him? Have you ever taken it? Tell us in the comments.
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