From The Message Boards: Should You Tell Him You’re Going To Take Plan B?

Taking PLan B

If you tell him, he might give you the support you need. | Source: ShutterStock

Okay, so you had sex last night… and for whatever reason, you didn’t use protection. Whether the condom broke or it just wasn’t available in the moment, one thing’s for sure: you’re probably freaking out right now. And you’re also probably running to the pharmacy to buy some Plan B to make sure you don’t get pregnant.

So here’s the question: do you tell that dude you were getting it on with last night that you’re going to use Plan B? Or do you leave him in the dark? We saw this topic in the message boards and we really want to know what more people think. Do you have to tell the guy you’re using Plan B or should you keep it to yourself? Read what these girls thought and then let us know your opinion.

psychochick09 said:
My boyfriend and I had sex last week and the condom broke. Twice. It wasn’t towards the end or anything, but I’m not on anything and I was worried, so I went to Planned Parenthood the next day and they gave me Plan B. They told me to come back in two weeks for a test. I haven’t told my boyfriend.

I’m 21 and he’s 22, so we are “old enough” to deal if something *does* happen, but still, it’s not ideal. It’s not necessarily that I don’t feel comfortable telling him about it all, but I don’t want him freaking out about it beforehand if it ends up being nothing. I would usually take my best friend with me for this and she’s not nearby, anymore, so I would be taking the test alone.

Have any of you been in this situation? I can do enough worrying for the both of us, but I’m not sure if I want to have to take the test alone. If I’m not pregnant, it’s fine, but if I am… Ughh. I’m just so all over the place on this. Help!

Worried Girl

You don’t have to go through this alone. | Source: ShutterStock

ToxicDisco said:
If I were you, I’d just take the test alone without telling him. If you find out you’re not pregnant, then discuss what happened with him. Tell him you had a bit of a pregnancy scare and hear what he has to say. 

starfishing said:
Personally, I would tell him. If I did all this without telling my boyfriend and then told him after the fact, I think he’d be upset that I kept it from him.

Besides, I think it’s a good idea to talk to him about ways to prevent this in the future. For example, adding a second method of birth control like the pill, and talking about ways to prevent the condom breaking.

I don’t know your boyfriend so obviously in the end the decision is yours, but if it was me I’d tell him. Tell him the test is just a precaution. I think having him there for support would be good.

So what do I think? Well, if this happened with a boyfriend you’ve been with for a while, I think you should tell him. If you two have an open and honest relationship, then leaving him out of something like this is probably not the best idea. For one thing, you should be able to lean on him for support – and for another thing, he deserves to know if you’re experiencing a pregnancy scare. Plus, that scare ends up being true, he’s probably going to be pretty annoyed that you didn’t tell him what was going on.

If this happened with a one-night stand or a hookup buddy, and you don’t feel very comfortable with that person, then maybe don’t talk to them about it. That’s a much more awkward conversation than it would be with a boyfriend. In the end, though, it’s really your decision. Do what makes you feel comfortable.

Would you tell a guy if you took Plan B? Would you be too scared to tell him? Have you ever taken it? Tell us in the comments.

 

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  • Kim

    So I had unprotected sex yesterday evening and I’m on birth control and have been on it for about 2 years now. I take it at the right time each night and don’t see that much of a reason to wear condoms cause he always pulls out. but for some reason I got a little scared that my fiancé came inside me twice. I felt that maybe that 1% of a chance that I could get pregnant. So we went straight to the pharmacy and got Plan B thirty minutes after unprotected sex. Is there a chance I could become pregnant? Just curious…I I know I probably shouldn’t be freaking out so much…just really need to know.

  • Allana

    I would deffinately tell him, if hes good enough to get into your panties then hes good enough to support you thru a scary time. if he flips or refuses, he isnt worthy of your downstairs goods and you should be rid of him ASAP! granted it would be scary for him too, but you got into this predicament TOGETHER you should handle it TOGETHER!!

  • samanthablood

    I’m never taking plan b myself because i want kids but if i did i would tell my boyfriend

  • Cat

    I had a scare that turned out to be nothing, planned on never telling my bf cause I didn’t want him to freak out over something that ended up being nothing (it wasn’t a condom breaking issue, so he never would have known otherwise) but I ended up admitted it drunk one night and his only issue was making sure that I would have told him if I *had* been pregnant. which of course, I would have

  • Melissa

    if you did’t use anything, or it broke or whatever, then why the hell would’nt he know there’s a chance you’d be pregnant?!
    unless he doesnt know thats how to knock someone up, in which case he’d be ridiculously uneducated & its your own damn fault for doing it with him

    • Parker1994

      Haha yea I do agree with ya on that one.

  • stephaaa

    I would tell my boyfriend. I think it’s because it’s out of respect, and I know he’d appreciate it. We had a scare already, and I told him that I missed my periods, and he was SO happy that I kept him informed. It was stressful, but it’s a certain way of showing respect; at least to us.

  • Veigewhisse
  • telepopluv99

    22 yrs old and not on the pill…..smh i hope evrything works out

  • Kim

    Um… was he not present when the condom broke or he is he just completely oblivious as to how babies are made?
    If a guy is mature enough to have sex he should already be concerned if the condom broke, and telling him you’re taking Plan B should be a reassurance to him (unless of course he was hoping to get someone pregnant).

    • icantloveu

      wow wow wow! hold on a second!!! “if a guy is mature enough to have sex…” ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!?!?!!????!?!?!?!

  • basschick

    if it was just a scare, i would tell my bff…. then if i was positive, then i would tell the guy and my mom…. but only if i was positive that i was prego. if it is just a scare, i would not say it to him cuz why create stress when it could be over nothing?

  • Mandy

    God no .. I would never tell .