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Summertime is the best! Hot days, cool nights, tasty BBQ and good friends. The thing that takes a good summer to greatness is summer love. It’s fab to bond with someone new. Maybe you’re on vacation or they’re visiting your town. You could meet in summer camp or classes. When you’re looking in his eyes it feels like forever; but how do you know if your summer love is a fling or the real thing?
How to Tell If It’s A Fling or The Real Thing!
1. You Fall Super Fast
A fling is a brief, casual relationship. It starts, sparks and then like a firecracker or a candle it goes out. When you’re in it, you feel giddy and crazy in love. The summer is ripe for flings. Flings can be fun when you both KNOW that it’s a fling. If one of you is expecting undying love and the other isn’t then heartbreak can follow.
2. He’s So Different Than You
By their nature flings are short and sweet. Because the end is already on the horizon, it doesn’t matter if you are a trend loving fashionista and your love interest is a scientific wonder geek. In a real relationship, common interests and compatibility are critical. If you share no common ground, you are having a summer fling.
3. You’re All “Carpe Diem!”
When I had my summer fling with Oswaldo we were all, ‘seize the day.’ We were living in the moment. We didn’t want to face the future until the day I was leaving. In a relationship you don’t dream about hypothetical future get togethers, you make concrete plans. If you don’t have solid, shared plans for a future together, then it’s a fling.
4. There’s A Honey Back Home
If your summer cutie has someone waiting back home then you are definitely a fling. Trust Big Sis! They may be enthralled with the new hottie in front of them (you!) but home is where the heart is. Accept and acknowledge it for what it is. Don’t ever play second fiddle by being the chick on the side.
Some Other Dead Giveaways
If you haven’t met the other person’s friends or family then you are definitely a fling. We want our fam to meet people we think will be around for a while, right? Also, be clear about how YOU feel. Are you in love or in lust? Sometimes it can be hard to tell. Oswaldo and I never kept in touch because when I got home I realized that I wasn’t THAT into him. We were just two people having fun in the same place at the same time with great conversations.
Flings, like summer are brief, hot and an a-mazing time. Appreciate a fling for what it is. Don’t be sad that it’s over. Be glad that it happened!
So, what’s the deal with you, gorgeous? Have you ever had a fling? How did you feel about it? Sound off in the comments below.
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I have that. And he has some one at home when we see eachother mostly. And i want more but he doesn’t. But I feel like I don’t mind being his summer fling. But then after i get upset. How can I dump the feelings?
Could you talk about having trust issues?
Heres my story:
Last summer i had a fling although i didnt know it was a fling till mid september but to be honest it was a 7 month fling he kept using me, silly me i kept trusting him and took him back everytime.. Well thts over took me awhile to get back in the datin scene again but now ive met this amazing guy but im looking for the real thing… Problem is that he is saying the right things but he lives 2 hours away and so ive nver actually met him and so with that being said how can i trust him (me havin trust issues because of the previous “fling”) we are not official so i cant call him out when he casually flirts with other girls who live near him, whom he can easily be with etc because if i do i look like the psycho girl with trust issues… I told him i had trust issues but i dnt think he understand the seriousness of it and probly takes it for granted and like idk what could be an explination for all this?? (fyi- ive nvr had an actual bf because no ones ever proven them selfs to me enough to take tht serious relationship step)
I have the real thing. We may only been in it for two months but our love is true!