From The Message Boards: Should You Be Friends With Your Ex’s New GF?

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There are a few lucky people out there who can breakup with a boyfriend and magically still stay friendly with the dude. I’m kind of kidding about the magical stuff, but actually I am a little bit jealous – it can be super hard to keep things cordial with an ex! But if you are genuinely over your ex-boyfriend and feel happy for him if he has a new girlfriend, then major props to you.

Here’s a question that we saw in the message boards: should you make friends with your ex’s new GF? It’s one thing to play nice and put up a mature front, but it’s definitely another thing to actually be friends with the chick. Would you be able to do it? Actually, should anyone do it? Read what these girls had to say and then tell us your thoughts.

314Princess said:
Okay, so my ex-boyfriend’s new girlfriend and I run on the same track team. We recently became really cool with each other, and she added me on Facebook. When I looked at her profile, it said that she was in a relationship with my ex. I’m actually happy for them because they do look cute together. But is it ok to become friends with your ex’s new girlfriend?

drizzledays replied:
That’s totally okay. Just…make sure you don’t let your ex get in the way of your friendship.

lovely_calamity replied:
I see nothing wrong with being friendly- That just shows good character. But from my personal experience, I would be careful about becoming friends. It can create an awkward triangle and not-so-great things can follow.

What do I think? Being friends with your ex’s new girlfriend can be very, very tricky. It’s something that should only be done if you honestly feel that you are completely over him. If you hate your ex or if you feel even a little bit of romantic feelings towards him still, then this new friendship is going to get super messy, super fast.

If you’ve completely moved on from this ex and you really like his new girlfriend, then go for it! But be careful – I still wouldn’t make this girl my BFF, because no matter how over him you are, you’re still probably going to feel a little awkward hearing her talk about him or seeing them together. In the end, there’s nothing wrong with this as long as you’re totally comfortable with it.

Do you think it’s okay to be friends with your ex’s new girlfriend? Have you ever done it? Would you? Tell us in the comments.


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  • rabiya

    tell me some think

  • rabiya

    help meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee I NEED YOUR HELP i love him so much but now he left me i need him give me some advice to get him back i can do ne think to get him back

    • rabiya

      his not with ne one i dont no y he broke up with me

  • Arianna

    I dated my ex for nearly a year, we’re both not over eachother but he decided to get a new girlfriend, after time I got to know her and she’s a great person, He still makes constant excuses to speak to me all the time, and it’s all gone bad, As a part of me still loves him, it’s not a good idea trust me.

  • Amy

    It absolutely depends…
    If you’re 100% over your ex and have no problems seeing the two of them together, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t be friends, but remember to just keep your distance to respect how the new GF would feel. If you still like your ex romantically or hate him incredibly, it’s not a good idea.

  • gurlygurl96

    i would never do it. even if i was completely over him. i tiny tiny part of me would like that you to be us and i miss that and all that crap. don’t do it it’ll be a cat figght in the end. trust.

  • Diana

    Never happened to me, I became friends with my ex-boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend though 🙂 Best thing that came out of that relationship, I would never have gotten to know her otherwise x

  • Joanna

    I’m friends with my ex’s ex-girlfriend and we’re friends. We both dislike him, so if both of your relationships on a bad-ish note, there’s a possibility of friendship.

  • Troian

    Me and my ex boyfriend were dating for 7 months. When it came to an end i was very upset and he wasnt. He thinks we are like best frirends. But recently he started dating one of my close friends. He tags along with us everywhere and its really uncomfortable. What do i do?

  • Tanya

    Hell no, don’t do it. Major drama will start. Just be cool and keep your distance.