Confession: I Stalk My Boyfriend’s Ex On Facebook

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The other day, I was hanging out with my boyfriend, when he innocently asked me, “What shoe size are you?”

“Size 6. Why?” I replied.

He shrugged. “Just wondering. Some girl on Facebook is selling a pair of Michael Kors shoes, but they’re a size 5.5.”

Immediately, an alarm went off in my head. “Some girl” was selling those shoes on Facebook? Normally, that wouldn’t have bothered me in the slightest bit, but I just so happened to know for a fact that “some girl” was actually his ex-girlfriend. How did I know? I stalked her Facebook, of course.

Before my brain told my mouth to shut up, I had already made a sarcastic remark about it to him. He stared at me in shock, and then said, “How do you know she was selling them? You’re not even friends with her!” I shrugged and admitted the truth: I had looked at her page anyway.

Yes, I it’s true: I’m a Facebook stalker. Okay, before you call me crazy, let’s all take a minute to admit this: we’ve all indulged in a little Facebook stalking at one point. And by “at one point,” I actually mean all the time. If you have a Facebook account (and if you don’t, I’m very jealous), you know how ridiculously easy it can be to snoop around and look at other people’s pages – especially when those other people are your boyfriend’s exes.

Now, my first thought while arguing with my boyfriend about this was that maybe I shouldn’t have admitted to stalking his ex. But then I thought, what’s the big deal? We ALL Facebook stalk, and we all know it! I don’t know about you, but my girlfriends and I talk about it all the time. I can’t count how many times a friend has begged me to add their crush or their BF’s ex so that they could log onto my page and do a little quality stalking. I also know more than a handful of people who have actually created fake accounts in order to snoop more effectively… okay, maybe that one is a little over the top.

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Listen, it’s not like I’m checking out my BF’s ex’s page every single day – I’m really not. Every once in a while, I get curious or I see her name pop up somewhere on my newsfeed, and I look at it. It’s mainly out of pure curiosity. Yeah, I’ve seen most of her pictures and I’ve showed them to all of my BFFs, but I don’t want to know everything about this girl’s life. And I’m not doing it to check up on my boyfriend either. I’m just curious about the chick he dated before me, and that’s totally normal.

I also don’t reserve my stalking just for the girls my BF has smooched before me. If I see a random girl I don’t know write on my BFF’s wall, I’ll check out her page. If I see a dude creeping on my little sister, I look at his pictures. If I see my brother flirting with a new girl, I look at her page. And so on. I’m not doing this to be creepy, weird or psycho-ish. I’m doing this because the info is there, and I’m curious. And I know most of you do the same thing.

If you’re FB stalking obsessively, like every single day; and making weird fake profiles to look at people you’re not friends with, then that’s when things get out of hand. But if you just let yourself indulge in some stalker time once in a while, I really don’t think it’s that big of a deal. And now that the secret’s out to my boyfriend, I’ll admit it to everyone: I’m a Facebook stalker and (kind of) proud.

Do you ever Facebook stalk? Have you ever looked at a boyfriend’s ex’s page? Would you ever make a fake profile or login to one of your friend’s accounts to look at a page? Let me know in the comments!


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    Ok so my ex’s new girlfriend who I’ve never seen or met in real life sends me a message on facebook, it was nice and all, but I just really wasn’t sure as to why she was contacting me. She then added me. I accepted because I didn’t want to be rude, but now I am thinking of de-friending her. My ex and her new BF deleted his facebook so I am starting to wonder if he even knows she added me etc. HELP! Lol

  • Morocca32

    My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 2 years now but in the beginning I was a little curious about his ex. She was still tagged in a bunch of his photos so it was so easy to check out her page. I guess I was a tad jealous at first because we seemed so similar…we’d probably even make great friends if a boy weren’t involved. Anyway, about a year ago I got one of those LinkedIn email updates showing who had been looking at my profile and she was on the list. I thought it a little odd/funny and mentioned it to my boyfriend. He also thought it odd/funny and wondered how she even knew about me because they unfriended each other after the break up and didn’t keep in contact. Fast forward to about a week ago when I was bored and browsing through his FB photos, the same ones I’ve seen over and over (he’s cute and I can’t help myself) and I noticed she was no longer tagged in their old photos. I thought hmm, that’s strange. I searched for her and nothing came up. I figured she may have deleted her account. But then I decided to log out of my account and search again to see if she blocked me. Sure enough, she came up and I was able to view her public profile when I logged out. Weird! I’ve never spoken to her or anything, but maybe she saw me on his profile and felt jealous and blocked me. I haven’t mentioned this tidbit to my bf because A) I don’t want to admit that I was looking at her profile 2 years later and B) it’s a non issue. I doubt he cares what she’s doing and it might freak him out that she blocked me.

  • jess

    I’ve stalked my bf’s ex for over a year now, it’s become a really bad obsession.. I’ve created a fake facebook account, a fake instagram account and a fake snapchat account and added her and a bunch of her friends, I even tried hacking in to hers. I check them every day and I don’t know how to stop… It’s just so satisfying noticing a bad picture of her(i even screenshot these), or noticing she’s gaining weight or that her new relationship went to hell. And of course when this is not the case(unfortunately most of the time) it makes me hate myself.

    I really want to stop, but I just can’t stay away. Any tips?

    • ItsLachelle



      I read your comment and seriously thought it was my that typed it. I am the same EXACT way and I did all the same EXACT things!!!!!!!

      I’ve been doing it for 3 years now. I’m sick of it, but I can’t help it. ughhhh

      • Alyssa

        Lmao, tell me how I’m the exact same way. I’ve made 3 snap accounts because she keeps deleting me. There was a time that I said no more stalking & went through for 2 weeks it was awesome but it’s just so satisfying seeing I’m better than her