let people do what they want. no labels.

Let us take a girl who’s been known to blow guys in movie theaters as an example. Let’s say she’s blown 10 guys in movie theaters. Let us also assume that there exist two versions of this girl, in parallel universes.

The girl in the first universe I sexually open, but non-promiscuous. The guys she’s blown have mostly been boyfriends, potential boyfriends, or some such. She’s actually liked them beyond them making her horny, and they have actually liked her as well. These guys respected her as a human being, and she respected them. There may have been the odd exception, but it’s rare, because this girl respects herself and therefore feels little inclination to fuck those who view her as little more than a cum receptacle. She may also have been tricked once or twice, i.e. pumped and dumped, but she’s learned her lesson and isn’t easily fooled any more.

The girl in the other universe is promiscuous. The guys she’s blown have mostly just been guys that make her horny and/or who have given her some sort of superficial validation. Emotional investment is completely optional, because her motivating force may be horniness and/or neediness for external validation, and sex is how she gets that.

I wouldn’t mind being together with the first girl, but I wouldn’t touch the second one with a stick.

While the sexual acts are identical, the intent and motivation behind these acts are not. The sexually open non-promiscuous version of this girl doesn’t receive payment for the blowjob, but the promiscuous version does; wh*res aren’t necessarily paid in cash you know. The payment may be, for example, orgasms and/or validation.

This is what makes the second girl a pathetic sl*t. The first girl may not be an angel (but then again, I don’t believe in angels), but she is very likely to be a perfectly normal, healthy person who may be prime long term relationship material.

In my humble opinion, the author of this article shows a profound lack of understanding for male sexuality and the basic conditions of male existence. There are perfectly valid reasons for men to have issues with females who have a lot of sexual history. For example, the more sexual partners a woman has had, the more likely it is that she is promiscuous, and if that is the case, she is statistically more likely to cheat and divorce. Studies confirming this are easily googled.

Combine this with the fact that women have absolute knowledge of motherhood, whereas men do not, and you have some pretty solid reasons for men to be, to put it mildly, really f***ing skeptical of committing to women with “rich” sexual histories. The fact that this, which is obvious, is ignored by a very large portion of women today, speaks volumes. Every action has consequences. If a girl goes to bed with 30 different guys, it WILL have consequences whether she likes it or not, and whether she accepts it or not. When those same women are then surprised that men react badly at the number of partners they’ve had, it’s a complete giveaway as to how lacking in empathy and respect for men they truly are.

That said, a man does himself and women in general a huge disservice by only looking at the superficial bit of the sexual histories of women, by which I mean the numbers. Numbers do matter (see the paragraph on numbers implying promiscuity), but they’re less important than the intents and motivations behind the sexual histories of women.

Then there is, again, the question of respect:
Why should any self-respecting man get involved in any way with a woman who doesn’t respect herself? A woman who buys validation with her orifices surely doesn’t respect herself. A person who doesn’t respect him or herself must surely be incapable of respecting others in any meaningful, genuine way. Never mind love.

Tangled web isn’t it? But it is not the end of the world. A woman who has had numerous multiple partners shouldn’t have trouble finding a guy who is comfortable with her past so it’s really a non-issue.

An example is me, I am in love with this girl who obviously has some history as most girls nowadays, I absolutely hate the history but learned to live with it. The problem is most people open their legs too easily nowadays, all you need to say is “I love you” then you are in. Girls tend to fall for this a lot and guys tend to take advantage of this. And unfortunately guys are lucky in the aspect that, if they have sex you will never know unless they tell you and society tends to favor an experienced guy.
Just be wary when you open your legs to some random chum, just because the writer might say “if he is not comfortable with your history, he is not for you” but that is completely wrong. Look at it this way, if he does not care about you doing it with other dudes, he does not give a shit about you, and is just looking to pass time and get some booty for a while. If he cares he most certainly will mind, just as you would mind when he tells you about his sexual encounters. It is human nature to not want to share what you cherish the most with some other person, especially when it comes to women.