All of my friends have boyfriends or girlfriends. I’m the only one that’s never been in a relationship before and I want to be in one. It makes me really down in the dumps to be the only single one out of our whole group. It stinks when we’re all hanging out and I feel like the third wheel. Plus, they’re always trying to match me up with people – but I want to find someone on my own! How do I deal with this?
It may be awkward to be the only single girl in a group of couples, but don’t stress, girl. Embrace your fabulous single-ness! There’s nothing wrong with the fact that you’ve never been in a relationship – when you meet the right person, things will fall into place. That being said, I know it can be hard to always feel like a third wheel, so for right now, try to make a few simple changes to keep your spirits up.
If you feel like your girlfriends are constantly bringing their BF’s around, try to plan at least one night a week to have just a girl’s night – no boyfriends allowed. If they complain about it, tell them the truth: you love their BF’s and have nothing against their relationship, but it makes you uncomfortable to always be the single one. Hopefully they’ll respect that. Having time alone with your girls will always make you smile.
If you’re really sick of being the only single one, try making new friends, or getting closer to other friends, who are also unattached. It might make you feel better to see that you’re not the only one without a BF. But really, you should focus on feeling comfortable with being the only single gal – as I said before, there’s nothing wrong with not being in a relationship. Being unattached is perfect for focusing on yourself and doing what you love without worrying about someone else. Think about the good things about being single instead of the bad.
Also, I know you want to find your own boyfriend (and that’s great!), but don’t be totally closed off to the idea of being set up. Who knows, your future soulmate could be best buddies with one of your friend’s boyfriends. I’m not saying you have to go on every date they offer, but you should be open to meeting new people and having new experiences at this time in your life. It can only benefit you in the end!
The main thing is to be happy with where you are right now. Keep in mind that your friends might seem like they all have the perfect relationship, but who knows? They could be totally jealous of your single life.
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