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Everywhere we look, there’s more skin. The hotter that it gets, the more clothes come off. This means that any perceived “imperfections” from body hair and love handles to s-t-r-e-t-c-h marks become more visible. Add basking in the presence of your favorite crush to this mix and, oy vey!
I once heard a newscaster say that trying on bathing suits is one of the most stressful things that women can do. Really? Not surviving war or childbearing?
At any rate, it’s natural to be nervous about being naked or nearly naked in front of a crush. We wonder: Ack! What will he or she think of my jiggly parts or non jiggly parts? The truth is, my lovelies, looking good is all about confidence, and feeling confident with less clothes on is all about self love.
Here’s how to be comfortable naked (or nearly naked!):
1. Feel comfortable naked by yourself.
If you don’t feel confident when you’re naked and alone, it can’t happen miraculously when others are around. How we can expect someone else to love what we don’t? Feeling better about being in the buff around your crush starts with learning to love your body.
Homework Alert! It is majorly cool that you have access to your beauty-FULL body 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Go into the bathroom or your bedroom and lock the door. Now, take your clothes off. (Yes, everything.) And take a good, long look in the mirror.
This is not a fault finding expedition. Your goal is to indulge in a little body love. Stand there until you can name 10 awesome things about YOUR body. It’s not about the size of your body parts. Some real girls have curves and some real girls don’t. You are gorgeous just for being you.
2. Love your real beauty!
It’s easy to get caught up in the hype. I’m a fashion mag junkie. However, gazing at pics that someone took in The Best Moment Of Her Life is not realistic to how we look every day. The people in the photos we want to look like don’t even look like that! It takes a Glam Squad village of 15 experts to make our favorite cover girl or reality TV chick look flawless.
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Your body is a freaking miracle of nature! When you’re sweaty in private or at the beach, makeup washes away and hairstyles go awry. All that’s left then is you glorious you. Anyone who is around when that happens is super privileged and lucky.
3. Make sure you feel comfortable with him with your clothes on.
So you really like this person with a capital “L.” You may even use the other L word, love, to describe your ooey gooey feelings. Add a third L-word, lust, to this trifecta and you feel like it’s time to get naked. So how do you feel comfortable around him or her with your clothes off? FIRST, make sure that you first feel comfortable around this person with your clothes on!
We all turn into a bundle of nerves when we have a crush. It’s natural. Your heart is thump-thumping, your mouth goes dry and you forget where to put your fidgeting hands. We wonder, does he really like me? No one wants to feel or look stupid.
If you’re thinking of spending “nekkid” moments with someone, take the time to get to know them. The more comfortable you feel rocking out with them on a day-to-day basis, the more comfy you’ll feel overall.
Remember, guys get nervous too. They may act like they have swag but they don’t have anything more figured out than we do. Dude is probably too insecure about all of the things that he thinks are wrong with him to judge you. Release the fear of judgement. Know that anyone who would criticize your beautiful self is not someone who deserves to be in your big, fat shiny life anyway.
Would you feel comfortable naked (or almost naked) in front of your crush this summer? Do you ever feel self-conscious in a swim suit? Tell us everything in the comments!
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I love this guy and he asked me for nude pics but since i dont want my body in cyberspace i am willing to invite him over to show! Help???
For just a private showing,I say go for it.Just be sure that his hands are empty(no cell phone,camera).I would do it at your house where you know that you will not be taped by a hidden movie camera.Invite him over for dinner and then serve him in just an apron for starters,then it’s all up to you.good luck sweetie.
Well let’s say I love my body or my figure but I have birth marks in my belly and I HATE them, they’re the only reason I don’t use a bikini, can anyone help me with that? I would use makeup but when i’d go in to the water it would come of and it would be uncomftorble again, Any Help? please, i’m kind of desperate, I’m not american and here where I live if you don’t have the best body in the world you shouldn’t use a bikini… ADVICE?
You have to look past it! If your only bad feature is that then you need to suck it up! You are so perfect!
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The only thing i don’t like about this post is that there are some women(like myself) Who people say all the time look just as pretty with makeup off as they do with it on. But i still choose to wear makeup because it make’s ME feel confident!! You shouldn’t wear makeup all the time with someone you love BUT guy’s do like it and for alot of us we do too.
1) Sure guys like girl’s who don’t wear makeup all the time but they generally go for the girls who wear makeup 75-80% of the time.
2) I know personally when i’m wearing makeup and i go out somewhere if somone’s staring at me i think “Wow. They must think i’m really pretty” but when i don’t have makeup on i feel as though they are thinking “Look at that ugly girl, she can’t take 10 minutes out of her day to put on some damn makeup”.
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Hey yaa i hate summer i mean yaa its good no school but bikini time. My parents want me to where a 1 peice or a low 2 peice but i don’t!Yaa i know i’m a little over weight and my stretch marks ome out but i just want 2 be a normal teen! Everyone else get’s 2 wear them! And i hate my shaving bumps and shaving in the summer!
I appriciate the advice that’s given here, however the skinny, beautiful girls in these pictures are quite misleading. In the writing it’s said that gurls should always be confident with thier bodies when they’re less covered up despite our “imperfections”. Then in the pictures’ captions it says, “No reason to be shy, girl!” and “Confidence is KEY!” The gurls in these pictures don’t show any of the “imperfections” that you suggest would make a gurl less confident with her body, so these gurls don’t really have any reason to not be confident. I wish the pictures here better represented different types of gurls with all sorts of different bodies.
They have beautiful girls in those pictures for multiple reasons.
>Do you really want to see pictures of less attractive people?
>To prove they feel insecure about themselves just like you do.
>When you DO feel confident you feel as though you look just like they do.
etc.
I actually agree with you, Allison. Sorry, Nobody, you do have strong points that make sense but even so those pictures just make me feel worse about myself. Because it’s like “yay! love who you are!” but in my mind I think “yeah you can say that, you ARE pretty. You’re insecure but you’re still pretty in other’s eyes!” Ok, this doesn’t make much sense but yeah long story short I think gURL should use less “perfect” pictures of girls in their articles. I know they’re trying to keep everything looking really pretty but a little raw-ness would be nice