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Online porn can screw up a guy's expectations about sex. | Source: Shutterstock
Maybe, says one study. But it’s not just online porn that may be the culprit, as experts are looking to video games too. Basically, the more time a guy spends in time of a screen, whether it be for Diablo III or online porn, the less social skills he may have in real life. More guys than ever are flunking in school and becoming increasingly awkward to be around and have trouble talking to girls. Yikes!
The video game-rooted problems seem to be mainly about guys trying to rule the world without talking to anyone, because apparently they don’t listen to enough Beyonce (because seriously, girls–we run this mutha). When they’re kicking ass in an RPG, there’s little risk of rejection–unlike when they try to talk to that cute girl (you!) at a party.
That problem carries over into the issues that online porn presents. The prevalence of online porn can be explained a few ways: For one, it’s a lot more easily accessible than it used to be, back when people had to actually go out and buy it (and risk embarrassment and a higher chance of their parents catching them). Another issue online porn poses is immediate gratification–that is, a guy can see a girl naked with a click of a mouse, so why should he bother getting to know a real girl and connecting with her? Because let’s be real, it takes a lot less time to click over to SteamySnatch.com than it does to woo you.
Before online porn, guys had to go to red light districts for steamy scenes. | Source: Shutterstock
The younger a guy gets into online porn, the more potential for damage to his social life becomes. If a dude with no sexual or dating experience only learns about women from online porn, he may have a tough time forming actual romantic or sexual relationships later on because he has no idea how they work.
Unfortunately, the same experts who pointed this out also pointed out that online porn is never gonna go away–and at best we can hope that producers tweak it to make it more romantic.
Here’s hoping, because most of us aren’t stripping for our pizza deliverymen. I mean, unless he’s really hot. (I kid, I kid!)
Do you think online porn addiction is a problem for guys your age? Do you think online porn gives guys false expectations of how sex actually is? Do you feel pressure to compete with online porn for a guy’s attention? Tell us in the comments!
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I’m 14.. Honestly, I watch porn sometimes. Not like the gross kind with mega close ups and shit. Ick! But the kind that’s hard to find. The kind where the people in it at least PRETEND to respect one another. it turns me on sometimes. But I agree that TOO much time in front I the screen can create overall social and communication issues. Makes me wonder about my boyfriend a little bit.. O_o
The idea that these guys (and girls) are sitting in front of a screen all day flipping between video games and porn only leaving their parents’ basements to use the bathroom and developing no social skills is WRONG. They are normal people who may spend more time in front of a screen then others. They go outside and socialize just like the rest of us. Only in the most extreme situations do they become the stereotype.
I once dated this guy who practically bragged about his porn collection. I felt so stupid because I cannot compete with those girls on those porn sites and I know he was expecting just the same, or even better than what he sees on those sites. I hated that! Made me feel useless and ugly.
I just think that if a guy gets off by a computer screen all the time…cant say id want to be with him… plus its just gross…id rather have the real thing.
I watch porn all the time, and I’m female. It hasn’t changed my social life or grades in the slightest.
I agree (:
ii argee & disargee , me personality me watching porn dont change nothing about mee but when i get ready to actually have sex its going to be not actually what i thought cause it isnt all good And great like the porn ii watched .
I agree with the other anonymous, do teenage girls watch porn as well as guys and if so, is it as bad for them?
What about the effect on women? It’s not just guys that enjoy porn!
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My boyfriend watches porn, and sometimes I do feel like I’m competing for his attention. I’m studying psych and I really want to know what makes it so fascinating for guys. I wish I knew exactly what they’re thinking when they watch these.
Great article! But I’m wondering if watching porn has the same effect on women it does on men.