What Happens When You Have Sex With An Older Guy

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Sometimes girls are eager to have sex with an older guy, and we can almost understand the allure: He can drive, he ostensibly knows what he’s doing, he’s sophisticated and maybe seems more mature than the boys in your grade. But if he has to break the law and commit statutory rape in order to sleep with you, he’s not mature–he’s actually kinda gross, really creepy, and pretty stupid.

Why? Even if you willingly have sex with an older guy, there are all sorts of risks–including your own legal dramas, and potential child pornography charges if you take nude pics of yourself–or if he snaps some of you. Someone worth going to bed with, if he really likes you, will wait til he can do it legally.

We feel bad for one girl in particular who was foolish enough to have sex with an older guy–and this guy was way older! Ready to get creeped out? A 24-year-old guy named Christopher Bradley Nutt (go ahead and laugh, we’ll wait) found a 12-year-old girl online and engaged in all sorts of sex with her at his house. Having sex with an older guy is risky enough, but this girl was half his age!

As if that weren’t bad enough, the girl’s parents found out in the worst possible way. She went missing and they figured out where she was through her cell phone convos with pals–and the cops came to arrest Nutt and take her home. Based on the report, as if the girl’s experience wasn’t traumatic enough as is, she and Nutt clearly had to talk to cops in pretty graphic detail about what went down in his bedroom, because each sex act is a different criminal charge for him. Can you imagine having total strangers–and your parents!–know in detail exactly what you did when you had sex with an older guy (or anyone)? The ick factor is mega high. Talk about humiliating.

To top everything off, just take a look at this douche. He clearly thinks he’s hot stuff, but uh, hello? If he were as hot as he thinks he is, he could get someone legal. And that’s something to remember if you’re ever considering having sex with an older guy: Is there a reason he’s not with someone his own age?

The answer is probably a resounding “yes.” Especially if he still takes pictures of himself in his bathroom mirror.

Have you ever had sex with an older guy? Would you have sex with an older guy? What would you do if your parents found out you had sex with an older guy? Tell us in the comments!

Douche Bag, Defined!

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  • Anonymous

    So I am 16 years old and I have never really been too sexually active. I’ve just made out with boys and have them feel on my boobs. I am a shorter girl with big boobs and a big butt. I’ve had the change to have sex but always kind of wanted to wait for the right person. But I’m not too good with being in a relationship, so lately I’ve just been wanting to have sex and get it over with. I’m really close with my sister; she’s 16, and she lives with her boyfriend, her bestfriend and her bestfriends boyfriend. I visit all all of them about every other weekend and my sisters bestfriends boyfriend is really attractive to me. He’s 23 and him and his girlfriend are kind of on the rocks. I’ve been thinking about lately what it would be like to have sex with him. I know he has a girlfriend but she wouldn’t have to find out. I feel like we could just try it out and see what happens. Any comments?

  • Becky J…..

    I had long had this crush on this much older man when I was in Junior High School, I was 15 at the time and being I am a foster child, both of my real parents were drug addicts and I was removed from them shortly after I was born. So, I tend to grasp on to a fatherly image or someone I feel safe with. I met this guy of who I still call Dave who was a guardian at my schools monthly dances they would hold. He had his own children who were grown and gone from home. Yes, he was in his mid fifties at the time, divorced and very nice to be with. I always felt he had a physical attraction to me, but he was always very careful about what he said to me or he acted around me. Yet I always felt he was eye’ing me over or undressing me with his eyes from a distance. I was for the most part often looked upon my many boys my age and men older than me. I was in a 34D bra by the time I was fifteen, the great lord gifted me and boys my age would often run past me, trying to grab my boobs which I hated. One night at one of our freshman year dances, my foster parents forgot to pick me up from the dance and I really did not want to call them. Dave offered to drive me home and I accepted. Near my house, I leaned over to thank Dave and kissed him on the cheek and told him how much I appreciated what he had done and further told him that he could do that anytime again. It was only the following month that once more he drove me home, but stopped in a park near my house and we ended up talking. Talking lead to my curiosity as to why I felt the way I did about him. Granted, I initiated the conversation; not Dave. I found myself hugging him, finally I was kissing him and found a hand grasping my breast which turned me on. He took my right hand and moved it to be between his legs and boy=oh=boy was something hard and throbbing inside his pants. I kind of got scared of the unknown or what was happening and where all of this would lead; so I insisted he take me home and he did. The only time I ever saw Dave was at the freshman dances and the very next one I had managed to tell him that I enjoyed myself at the last time he had taken me home and wanted to know it we could do it again? That night he drove us back to the park and he had told me on the way that he had brought protection and I was not sure what he meant. Then he told me he had a rubber and I still did not know what he meant. But within ten minutes after arriving the park, I felt his pecker and this rubber thing on it as I sat upon his lap and felt him slide my panties to one side and he engulfed my virgin vagina. I was no longer a virgin. Since then, we have made love almost every chance we get and he is the only man I have ever had oral sex with and the only man I have swallowed with and all done while I was under the age of eighteen and he was in his mid fifties. I rarely tell anyone because Dave and I are still pleasing one another but I know he could go to prison if anyone were to discover what took place just two years ago.

    • meggy lee

      Becky thanks so much sharing your experience. I dont understand why people find it hard to believe that a young girl can find love and sexual pleasure with a much older guy. Thank you for your courage and telling us your story and I want more girls to come on and share their experiences. I think the way we are looked upon as weaklings and naive flowers not being able to make up our minds and being taken advantage of by someone older is just ridiculous. Girls are dumbed down, made to believe this nonsense and expected to suppress their emotions and freedom to fall in love with whomsoever they like. Isn’t this so sad in this day and age? Why is it that we are always being told that if we go out with someone older that somehow it will end badly and that somehow we are taken advantage of even if we agreed to consensual sex. In fact even if we agree to sex it seems it doesn’t fit the definition of consensual because at 14 or even 15 we are too young and I believe we cannot make up our own minds at that age. Isn’t that such garbage and pig swill??
      Ever since I was 13, I have been madly and passionately in love with my music teacher. Like you, I didnt see him as an older guy, but someone with whom I could feel a warm affection growing. I used to flirt with him outrageously and I used to make him uncomfortable. At one stage he even told me he could get into trouble if anyone even had any suspicion that something was not right between us. He told me that he was 20 years older than me. All I could say was “who cares, I wont tell anyone and no one will find out” We started having sex at his place and 2 years later we still are in love and we do it all the time. I am on the pill now and we have unprotected sex. I agree it is a great feeling. He loves me and cares for me and I think I am so lucky to have him as my boyfriend. My friends who are my age and with similar to their age boyfriends have broken up and are left heart broken and I think why is all this fuss about girls going out with older guys when such relationships thrive and are so healthy. The law sucks big time.

  • Myah

    I got a divorce from my husband two years ago at age 38 when I had a date with a man who had just turned 60. We were just making small talk at a local tavern when I agreed to have him take me home and at my door he excused himself to go to his house when I asked him if he would come in for a night cap. He came in after some reluctance and I ended up sleeping with him which was the most spectacular sexual experience of my entire life!!! Nothing was off the table. I ended up having intercourse several times and providing him with a mine blowing orgasm as he splattered the inside of my mouth after an awesome blow job. I look forward to our encounters every time now two years later.

  • Angel

    Had sex with my brother when I was 8 , it was so amazing,

  • Ginger

    Well…this might sound sorta creepy, but right after my 14th birthday i messed around with my best friends Dad.
    I have always had sort of a crush on him.
    We did not actually do it.
    I mean I was staying at my best friends Dads house. He had just bought a really big nice house after his divorce
    Most of the furniture he bought was not there yet, so me and my friend slept on the couch watching t.v. and he was in his bed.
    I had a nightmare and could not fall back asleep so i heard his tv on and i asked if i could stay and watch with him.
    He told me i could. He was watching a sorta scary movie and i was cold so i got under covers with him.
    He never asked me for anything or made any inappropriate gestures or moves.
    I remember thinking how handsome he was, and how good he smelled, and how nice it would be to do this every night!
    I then moved closer to get warm as I was a little scared of what we were watching and I was cold.
    I sort of snuggled up to him, and when I brought my leg up to rest on his hip, I soon discovered he was wearing very small briefs and my knee came to rest on his penis!
    OMG…I did not know if I should move it or act like I did not notice.
    I remember that it was hot and big!
    I had kissed boys before and had let them feel me up and down.
    My breast were fairly developed and i had a lot of dark pubic hair for my age.
    Anyway, he then put his arm around me and sorta cuddled me. Mt face was on his chest.
    Well, I told him he smelled really good, and he then told me he thought I was the pretiest girl he ever saw.
    Right then we kissed and boy I was excited and sorta scared.
    He felt my breast thought my T-shirt, and I as in heaven. It felt so good. He then put my hand on his penis and I knew I wanted to stay with him.
    Enough of the details, but I thought it important to tell how something so unusual developed.
    That night he felt me up and down, he then gave me my 1st real orgasm when he licked my vagina and he rubbed the head of his rather large penis on my vagina.
    I would have let him stick it in me…I mean I pretty much wanted him to, but he said we could not do that. He did ejaculate on my stomach from the mock intercourse we performed. I was in heaven.
    He later said I was too beautiful and too vulnerable to spoil, and that we should never tell anyone, or do anything like this again.
    I agreed but continued my crush on him looking for any opportunity to stay over.
    5 years later we had sex several times while I as home over the summer from college.
    The best sex i have ever had to this day.

  • unknown

    hey im 16 and im seriously in love my teacher! hes like 24 i think! which by the way is not that old! this friday we flirted alot and he kept on teasing me! he’s also very funny and i can honestly say i think we have a future together! all my friends thinks its okay aswell! he also gives me alot of attention which is nice! the element of danger is also an amazing feeling! i hope he has feelings for me! i want to date him! and having sex with him woudnt be wrong! if we love eachother then so be it!

  • chloe

    im 17 and ive had sex with my ex ex boyfriebd he was 24 and i was 11 he had a son his son was 2 he called me mummy and his father asked me to be his mum and be his girlfriend so i said yes cause we were haveing unprotected sex and then when i found out i was pregnant i had to ell him and he left me and im now a mother to 1 kid from him she is 5 her name is annabell.
    and then i was with someone else when iwas 13 i didnt want to have sex with him but he just wanted to be there for me and annabell well one night he hoped i bed with me and we feel asleep i woke up he left he toke everything and all he left was a note saying go get a tes in a week or 2 im sorry but i slept with you about 6 times and came in you so your probably pregnant im gonna miss yous all but dont contact me and youll never see me bye girls and im sorry if you are and i was i had twis girl and boy and there 3 and im now with someone else im engaged to him im staying wih him were never leaveing each other we got together when i turned 16 and were getting married in 3 years time and his 26 and i just fund out 3 hours ago that im 2 months pregnant but i dont want to know what im having its going to be a suprise but i love my baby thse guys can go get fucked

    • Anon

      This is plain bullshit

  • Rachel

    I’m 16 and Ive been having sex with a 39 year old man.

  • John

    Ok that’s bad for young age do kind of think because they maybe get pregnant or even die from baby. It depends how big baby could weight. The child could die if body form to small.

  • natasha

    Idiotic teen morons.

  • FamilyGirl

    I’m 30 now but when I was 14 I was having sex with my uncle (34) mum & dad new but didn’t do anything to stop us, I became pregnant & had the baby uncle looked after us he had a house 10mins from us, I was always around his & 2 years later I became pregnant again & had another girl now my girls r sexual active with my uncle their dad our eldest is 16 with a 2 yr old girl & my youngest at 14 is pushing to have a baby. I don’t see anything wrong with younger girl dating older guys you can’t help with who you falling in love with, as long as every thing is consensual sex my man has never pressured me into anything or the girls he has always been their looking after us like lover should

    • Amelia

      well thats fucking nasty

      • arthurarthur

        Nasty … ? good or bad nasty? I can’t judge so easily… on one hand yes..on the other… well I cant lie as ‘Arthur’ says below…

    • arthur

      that’s incredible and hot and horny(I cant lie)! Would like to hear more about it as it is also really interesting and informative. And it proves us older people can learn from the younger ones.

  • Marion

    I’m 21. When I was 14, I considered having sex with a 17 year old. All I can say is: Never again, if I was in the same situation, no way in hell, as he took advantage of me.

    When I was 16, I was going to have sex with my 21 year old boyfriend before we broke up. Where I am from, the age of consent is sixteen so it was perfectly legal. The problem was that although he genuinely loved me and didn’t intentionally take advantage of me, he demonstrated again and again that he lacked not only the maturity required to care for someone significantly younger than him in the context of a romantic relationship, but also the capacity to lead by example as the older person in the relationship should be doing.

    Now I’m 21. I’ve slept with a 34 year old and want to sleep with a 47 year old. I find that at this age, there are no legal problems and someone with slightly more life experience is able to make more informed decisions, but you do have to be incredibly careful not to rush into things. If you do, don’t be disappointed when the relationship doesn’t work out the way you planned it.

  • Ashley

    I had sex with an older man and i didn’t feel anything but pain. I guess because he was my first. I love him tho.

  • Lisa

    She would maybe curse me out ask questions and report to the police then ask for me to go to kids jail(Jove)

  • rachelle

    How judgemental. This is how we all get brainwashed by do gooders. I was 12 too when I started this relationship with a guy more than twice my age. He isnt a douche bag or a creep or gross or a perv. How dare you say such things. Just because someone is younger does not mean they have been manipulated or taken advantage of. Is this some kind of brainwashing forum and a way to get all younger girls to conform to some sort of stupid advice or norm? Yes there are older guys who are bad but there are many younger guys and guys our age who are awful too. Yes there is a law but do you think we care? We will fall in love with who we want to be with. It isnt any ones business and certainly not for the law to decide whats right or wrong for us, especially these days when we are so aware of all the bad things that happen. Please dont make all of us sound dumb and silly.

  • paul

    what a whole lot of negative stuff .; why presume the guy is a failure and cant ‘get someone of his own age’ maybe he liked the girl or maybe he he just found it really horny to make love to a 12 year old .. in a number of countries worldwide .. mexico etc they have decided that a 12 year old is perfectly mature enough to have sex. if nature designed the female body to be capable of sex at 12 then that should be fine .. all the hysteria about ‘not being mature enough mentally’ is complete nonsense .; sex is a simple , normal , physical act which once completed is genrerally forgotten about and the couple move on ..

  • Lucy

    I’m 16 and I have had sex and done the other sexual stuff with a 20 year old who has a girlfriend and is also my next door neighbour. I really like taking and seeing him but I do think it is a big weird that he wants to see me, but he’s not the sort of boy that would use me.

  • Lexi

    I’m 16 and I’ve had sex with my PE teacher who is 47 and married. It may be illegal and he may be using me for sex but boy does it feel good when we do it.

    • Brian

      So lexi do you still do it with him or have you moved on?