Ask A Guy: Once A Guy Cheats, Is He Always A Cheater?

With that being said, I’d move on from anyone who seems to be forming a pattern. You may have heard this well-known idiom before: “Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.” The author of that expression must have caught his or her loved one liplocked with a stranger on more than one occasion. While “once a cheater” doesn’t necessarily mean “always a cheater,” “twice a cheater” might. So if you are gracious enough to pardon his initial betrayal and he breaks your trust a second time, you should have no qualms with sending him packing.

…Unless you’re into polygamy, of course — in which case, you’ve just struck player gold.

Good luck!

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  • emilia

    Its hard but to give second chance is better cse i do not know if u get men not cheating what u gonna do is to talk and solve it.

  • caroline_girl12

    Cheating is terrible. But sometimes people can get caught up in the moment and not know what they’re doing. I wouldn’t say they’re always a cheater, but make sure they prove they’re not one! Being cheated on is definitely not fun. It can make you feel not important but you need to show the guy what he just gave up! Let him know you’re fine even without him. (: So some guys are always gonna remain a cheater, it is going to be difficult to be able to trust them again but make sure you know for a fact, they won’t do it again.

  • emily_muppet

    It’s a horrible feeling to be cheated on… I should know. It totally ruins your self-esteem and makes you feel like you can never trust anyone again. But things do get better and the only way of getting back at them is not getting with them and cheating, but showing them what they missed out on and how you don’t someone like them bringing you down. 🙂

    • Ethan Fixell

      I agree, Emily. Don’t waste your time with plotting revenge — moving on is definitely the best way to show him what a bad mistake he’s made!