Help! I Want To Lose My Virginity NOW!

I want to lose my virginity

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Hi Heather,

I have a question about virginity. My friends tease me about being a virgin. Honestly, I wish I could just lose my virginity as soon as possible so they can quit making fun of me. I am to the point where I don’t even care who takes my virginity. I know that sounds desperate, but my friends are going to tease me about being a virgin until I have sex with someone. Is it wrong to think like that?

It really stinks that your friends are picking on you for being a virgin. Not only is it none of their business what you do with your body, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin, no matter how old you are or how many people around you have done the deed. You should never be ashamed of your virginity and I’m really sorry that you have people around you who are trying to make you feel bad because of it.

Here’s the thing, girl: your virginity is your decision. Not your friends’, not your boyfriend’s, not your parents’… yours. You should never let anyone peer pressure you into losing it, and you should never feel like you have to have sex just so people will stop making fun of you.

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I don’t know the exact reason you’re a virgin – maybe the opportunity hasn’t come up,  maybe you just haven’t met the right person yet – either way, it doesn’t matter. You should have sex when you feel comfortable doing it, and when you meet the right guy to lose it to. You should never, ever have sex just because others are making you feel like you should. Losing your virginity is a big deal, and it’s not something you want to regret later in your life.

You need to tell your friends to get off your back. Don’t let them tease you and bully you for not having sex – stand up for yourself! The next time they say something, let them know you don’t want to hear it anymore. Explain that it’s your decision to make, not theirs. Let them know that what they’ve been saying is really bothering you and making you upset. Maybe they honestly don’t know that they’re hurting you. If they don’t leave you alone, maybe it’s time to consider hanging out with some new people. True friends won’t make you feel bad about yourself.

I understand wanting to lose your virginity, but rushing things just for approval, or just to get it over with, is never a good idea. When it’s supposed to happen, it’ll happen.

take care,

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  • nicole

    I probably made one of the biggest mistakes of my life when i decided to loose my virginity. I was so infatuated with someone who deep down i knew it wouldn’t work out because of some circumstances but i was so damn starry eyed and now when i look at it…young. I was 17 but I was always more mature than my friends and i’ve always had a good head on my shoulders and i was pretty smart. so i thought i’d be ready. I wasn’t. your mentality changes big time. i thought everything was going to be great after but it wasn’t at all. he never called, and we never spoke or have seen each other again. I cant even begin to explain the pain i felt and for monthsss. i felt like i did something wrong for a long time. I chose the wrong person and at the time i thought it was the right time and the right guy. It is one of my biggest regrets. a couple months later i found someone who treated me right in every way, who was so kind to me and was just the “perfect” boyfriend if theres such a thing. we’re still together now, its been 4 years and we want to marry each other. now i think if only i waited a little longer because waiting for the right person has to be sooooooooooooo worth it. anyway, my advice? please please don’t rush it. make sure they are the right person and if they don’t do everything to make it special for you then maybe its not the right time or the right guy.