I don’t know the exact reason you’re a virgin – maybe the opportunity hasn’t come up, maybe you just haven’t met the right person yet – either way, it doesn’t matter. You should have sex when you feel comfortable doing it, and when you meet the right guy to lose it to. You should never, ever have sex just because others are making you feel like you should. Losing your virginity is a big deal, and it’s not something you want to regret later in your life.
You need to tell your friends to get off your back. Don’t let them tease you and bully you for not having sex – stand up for yourself! The next time they say something, let them know you don’t want to hear it anymore. Explain that it’s your decision to make, not theirs. Let them know that what they’ve been saying is really bothering you and making you upset. Maybe they honestly don’t know that they’re hurting you. If they don’t leave you alone, maybe it’s time to consider hanging out with some new people. True friends won’t make you feel bad about yourself.
I understand wanting to lose your virginity, but rushing things just for approval, or just to get it over with, is never a good idea. When it’s supposed to happen, it’ll happen.
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