I have a question about virginity. My friends tease me about being a virgin. Honestly, I wish I could just lose my virginity as soon as possible so they can quit making fun of me. I am to the point where I don’t even care who takes my virginity. I know that sounds desperate, but my friends are going to tease me about being a virgin until I have sex with someone. Is it wrong to think like that?
It really stinks that your friends are picking on you for being a virgin. Not only is it none of their business what you do with your body, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin, no matter how old you are or how many people around you have done the deed. You should never be ashamed of your virginity and I’m really sorry that you have people around you who are trying to make you feel bad because of it.
Here’s the thing, girl: your virginity is your decision. Not your friends’, not your boyfriend’s, not your parents’… yours. You should never let anyone peer pressure you into losing it, and you should never feel like you have to have sex just so people will stop making fun of you.
I don’t know the exact reason you’re a virgin – maybe the opportunity hasn’t come up, maybe you just haven’t met the right person yet – either way, it doesn’t matter. You should have sex when you feel comfortable doing it, and when you meet the right guy to lose it to. You should never, ever have sex just because others are making you feel like you should. Losing your virginity is a big deal, and it’s not something you want to regret later in your life.
You need to tell your friends to get off your back. Don’t let them tease you and bully you for not having sex – stand up for yourself! The next time they say something, let them know you don’t want to hear it anymore. Explain that it’s your decision to make, not theirs. Let them know that what they’ve been saying is really bothering you and making you upset. Maybe they honestly don’t know that they’re hurting you. If they don’t leave you alone, maybe it’s time to consider hanging out with some new people. True friends won’t make you feel bad about yourself.
I understand wanting to lose your virginity, but rushing things just for approval, or just to get it over with, is never a good idea. When it’s supposed to happen, it’ll happen.
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