There’s no doubt about it, cheating in a relationship stinks. But unfortunately, it happens pretty often. Everyone has their own excuses for cheating, and unless you’re the cheater, you’ll never really know the real reason why it happened. So here’s a question: do you think cheating can ever be accidental?
It’s easy to say ‘NO‘ in big, huge letters right away… that is, until you’ve been in the situation yourself. We saw this conversation going on in the message boards, and we were curious to see what you girls thought about it also. Read what these ladies had to say and then fill us in on your opinion.
Can cheating ever be accidental? For example, some people may argue that cheating when you’re drinking is “accidental” and should be viewed as a mistake because you were intoxicated. Is that true?
Sure, after one has cheated they may realize that what they have done was wrong and therefore a “mistake”… but was it initially an “accident” until the feelings of guilt came afterwards? If that makes sense.
I don’t understand how sex can be “accidental” … intoxicated or not.
I do not think that cheating is ever accidental. When saying that something led you to cheating, you are just finding an excuse for your actions. You don’t want to be held responsible. I know that having sex with someone else is cheating and is wrong. Therefore, my opinion is that no cheating can not be, nor will it ever be, accidental for any reason what so ever.
This topic is a toughy. I used to think that there was no way that this “accidental” business could actually happen, until it happened to me. Sometimes it’s not so much an accident as it is the product of influence.
My opinion? Cheating is cheating – and I don’t think you can ever call it accidental. You are always held responsible for your actions, no matter what. When you decide to cheat on someone, you’re making a choice to betray them, whether you realize that in the moment or not.
Yes, situations can very easily get out of hand, and sometimes things do happen. But when a person cheats and they honestly feel terrible about it, their reaction should never be, “It was an accident.” It should be, “I made a mistake and I’m sorry. This is my fault.” I think that saying it was an accident is trying to take the easy way out… and also, in my mind at least, it’s a pretty lame excuse. But taking accountability for your actions? That shows that you’re mature enough to realize what you did really was wrong.
What do you think? Who do you agree with? Can cheating ever be accidental? Have you ever cheated? Let us know in the comments.