So what do you do when a friend has a crush on you — but the feeling isn’t mutual? I know, right? Yikes!
Well, my lovelies, I’ve bungled this in my own life JUST so that you can learn from my unfortunate mistakes. (Yeah, I wish.)
Here’s how to handle things when your friend has a crush on you with dignity for all:
DON’T ignore the situation.
A true friend sees you at your best and your worst. Friendship lasts through thick and thin as long as you uplift each other. You can’t underestimate someone’s feelings. You may think that they’re joking but it probably took courage to come to you. Recognize that.
DO acknowledge how much love your friend as a person.
We’ve all been on the receiving side of rejection. It ain’t pretty. Tell your friend that you care for him or her and you value your friendship but you just don’t see them in that way. Then give them a big hug and a smile. This is way more soothing than the typical “I’m flattered but…” routine.
DON’T let this come between you.
When a good friend expressed his feelings I backed away. The whole thing just felt too Awkward City. Now, I miss him. If your friendship is important keep it intact.
DO be straightforward.
It can be just as hard to let somebody down gently as it is being rejected. It’s even more challenging when it’s someone you adore. When another friend was crushing on me I tried to let him down easy but it was a disaster. He thought he had a shot and started pursuing me. Results? No bueno.
DON’T lead them on.
Sometimes we aren’t clear because we want to be nice. It’s not fair to give someone false hope. Feelings will be hurt. That’s a harsh part of life. If you know you’re not interested NEVER allow anything physical or sexual to take place, got it?
The bottom line…
The friend zone is the friend zone. Make it clear that there’s nothing your friend can do to win you over. This is an awkward situation but with empathy and compassion your friendship can be stronger than ever.
What do you think? Has this ever happened to you? Do you think a friend has a crush on you now? Tell me all about it in the comments!