My boyfriend keeps asking me to send him revealing or naked pictures of myself. He knows I don’t want to. I’ve told him many of times that I’m not going to do it, but he keeps on asking! How do I get him to stop? And does that make him a bad boyfriend if he keeps on asking?
First things first: there’s nothing wrong with the fact that you don’t want to send scandalous pictures of yourself to him. Just because he’s your boyfriend doesn’t mean you have an obligation to do so. In fact, I would strongly advise anyone against sending nakey pics – no matter how much you trust the dude, you never know where they could end up, or who could accidentally see them. So props for being smart about this and sticking to your guns!
That being said, it’s really not cool that your boyfriend is pressuring you to do this over and over again when you’ve already told him you’re not into it. I’m not going to say this means he’s a bad boyfriend (I have no idea what else he does or says to you), but I will say that this just shows that, in this particular situation at least, he’s more interested in what he wants than what you want. And you need to make it clear that that is so not going to fly with you.
Tell your BF one more time that you’re not going to send him naked pictures, now or ever. But this time, try telling him more sternly. Say it’s never going to happen, and you’re sick and tired of him asking. You don’t need to explain why you don’t want to, but if you feel like that might help, just let him know the reason. Don’t let him try to talk you into doing it. Be firm and don’t let him guilt-trip you.
If he still doesn’t stop asking, maybe it’s time to make an ultimatum. Let him know that while you love hanging with him, you don’t love being pressured to do something you don’t want to do. Tell him that if he doesn’t cut it out, he might not be your boyfriend for much longer. That may seem harsh, but no girl deserves to be with a dude who pressures her into doing anything she’s not comfortable with. If he really loves you and is a good guy, he’ll stop. If he keeps doing it, it just means he’s selfish and not ready for a relationship. And you definitely don’t want to be with someone like that.
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