Should You Talk About Sex With Your Dad?!

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Is it awkward to talk about sex with your dad? Yes. But is it worth it? Absolutely. | Source: Shutterstock

The guy you should talk about sex with the most–aside from whoever you’re thinking of sleeping with–is actually your dad. Talk about awkward, right?

Thing is, your pops has a perspective that your mom and your friends may not: a guy’s. And chances are since you’re here, an experienced guy’s. (We know, we know–gross, but true! We’ll give you a minute to scrub any creepy mental images from your brain.) He’s probably been around the block a bit more than your best guy friend, so he knows his stuff.

A new study says that girls who watched Teen Mom reacted differently to the show’s depictions of struggling teenage mothers depending on their own relationships with their fathers. Girls who talk about sex with their dads were more likely to recognize how difficult and scary raising a kid can be. And let’s be real, that life does not look like a cakewalk.

One of the authors of the study, Paul Wright, explained it like this: “Fathers who communicate with daughters about sex are especially apt to talk about the negatives of premarital sex, to speak of males’ propensity for placing sexual pressure on females, and to point out the consequences that result from the risky sexual behavior of others. Females who have been regularly sent these types of messages should be especially likely to attend to the negatives of being a young mother depicted on 16 and Pregnant and Teen Mom.”

The gist of that? Your dad will warn you when a guy is just trying to get into your pants and that you may well end up knocked up from that–so later, when you’re vegging out in a Teen Mom marathon, you’ll realize that you probably don’t want to be in Farrah’s shoes. As a result, you’re less likely to have sex before you’re ready and you’re also a lot more likely to protect yourself when you do. Nice work, dad!

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If you talk about sex, your dad can help you see the consequences on shows like Teen Mom. | Source: Shutterstock

The study went on to say that if you talk about sex with your pops and your mom (but especially Papa Dukes) that you’ll be less likely to engage in premarital sex–and if you do, that you’re aware of the emotional and physical risks involved, so you’ll be more prepared and probably a lot safer in your interactions with guys.

Obviously, it’s going to be awkward to talk about sex with your dad. But if you’re mature enough to have sex, then you’re mature enough to have that important conversation and all the benefits and wisdom that come from it. And that’s something we–and Miley Cyrus–can get behind!

Do you talk about sex with your dad or mom? Are you scared to talk about sex with your parents? Who do you talk about sex? Tell us in the comments!

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  • Taylor

    Hi! Ok so I have lived with my mom my whole life, my parents started young (19) and got a divorce I seeing my dad more often now. I have never been able to confide in either of my parents but I really want to it’s just so awkward because I don’t know where to start! My dad is the parent I want to talk to but he just seems so immature at times! Any ideas?!

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  • julie

    I had “the talk” with my dad when i was in fifth grade. I’m seventeen now and i can obviously see that times have changed, so i may have been learning about sex a little late, but who cares? I learned about it, and as awkward as it was, me and my friends (that don’t find it awkward to talk about sex with each other) laugh about it now. It definitely makes for an interesting conversation piece. I definitely am not a person who is insane about waiting until marriage, but i do feel that i would only have sex with someone that i know i’m in love with and someone i want to have children with in the future, but who says you can’t have fun and still hook up without all the extra baggage that some (not all) guys expect?

    • enriqueB

      Hi 🙂

  • Tessa

    Talking with your parents about sex is the best thing you can do. Especially your dad, because he’s a guy and he used to be a teen so he can tell you just what guys are thinking. Sure, they might exaggerate some things to scare you a little, but they’re telling the truth. My dad is very realistic, he doesn’t lie or fabricate things for me to make everything seem easier, because its not. I believe in God, and want to wait till I’m married to make love. But its not going to be easy at all, so when ever I’m thinking about it I try to talk to my parents, to remind my self of the reality of the situation. I believe that sex is a gift that you give to your husband, and that special gift can only be given once. I know staying a virgin will be a huge struggle for me, but I believe its the right thing to do. Anyway talk to your dad and mom you won’t regret it.

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