The guy you should talk about sex with the most–aside from whoever you’re thinking of sleeping with–is actually your dad. Talk about awkward, right?
Thing is, your pops has a perspective that your mom and your friends may not: a guy’s. And chances are since you’re here, an experienced guy’s. (We know, we know–gross, but true! We’ll give you a minute to scrub any creepy mental images from your brain.) He’s probably been around the block a bit more than your best guy friend, so he knows his stuff.
A new study says that girls who watched Teen Mom reacted differently to the show’s depictions of struggling teenage mothers depending on their own relationships with their fathers. Girls who talk about sex with their dads were more likely to recognize how difficult and scary raising a kid can be. And let’s be real, that life does not look like a cakewalk.
One of the authors of the study, Paul Wright, explained it like this: “Fathers who communicate with daughters about sex are especially apt to talk about the negatives of premarital sex, to speak of males’ propensity for placing sexual pressure on females, and to point out the consequences that result from the risky sexual behavior of others. Females who have been regularly sent these types of messages should be especially likely to attend to the negatives of being a young mother depicted on 16 and Pregnant and Teen Mom.”
The gist of that? Your dad will warn you when a guy is just trying to get into your pants and that you may well end up knocked up from that–so later, when you’re vegging out in a Teen Mom marathon, you’ll realize that you probably don’t want to be in Farrah’s shoes. As a result, you’re less likely to have sex before you’re ready and you’re also a lot more likely to protect yourself when you do. Nice work, dad!
The study went on to say that if you talk about sex with your pops and your mom (but especially Papa Dukes) that you’ll be less likely to engage in premarital sex–and if you do, that you’re aware of the emotional and physical risks involved, so you’ll be more prepared and probably a lot safer in your interactions with guys.
Obviously, it’s going to be awkward to talk about sex with your dad. But if you’re mature enough to have sex, then you’re mature enough to have that important conversation and all the benefits and wisdom that come from it. And that’s something we–and Miley Cyrus–can get behind!
Do you talk about sex with your dad or mom? Are you scared to talk about sex with your parents? Who do you talk about sex? Tell us in the comments!