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Does being friends with benefits with someone ever actually work out? This is one of those questions that gets asked over and over again – and usually the answer seems to be a big, fat no. But in reality, it can work sometimes! Can someone just give us a final answer?!
We saw this post about FWB relationships in the message boards, and we wanted to see what you girls thought. Can it work sometimes? Or is being friends with benefits destined to always be a major fail? Read what these girls had to say, then give us your opinions in the comments:
dreamingaboutyou asked:
It’s an opinion post: What do you think about friends with benefits? Why do you think that? Do you know situations, good or bad to share about the outcome of being FWB?
pixie_stix_queen said:
I think FWB is totally awesome as long as you follow the rule of thumb: it only works if you actively DON’T want to be in a relationship with the person. Otherwise the sex combined with the friendship muddles together into feelings and then it gets all messy and hurt-y.
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amyboox said: (from another thread!)
I have to say that friend with benefits… never works. Unless it’s more like, acquaintances with benefits, having a friend you fool around with will always end up with one person liking the other. It’s much better to stay friends normally.
My opinion? Sorry to say this, but I just don’t think an FWB relationship can ever really work out. There are so many reasons why it’s just way too complicated. When you’re having sex with someone, of course you’re going to develop feelings for them – you’re being super intimate. It’s natural!
I’ve seen (and experienced) so many friends with benefits situations where one person ends up liking the other person, and the feelings aren’t returned. They almost always lead to jealousy, anger and feeling like you’re not good enough. But everyone is different, so if you think you can handle totally casual sex, go for it. But if you think there’s even a small chance of you wanting something more, don’t do it. It’s only going to hurt.
What do you think about friends with benefits? Have you ever seen it work? Have you ever done it? Let us know in the comments!
How do you get out of an FWB mess? Here’s some advice
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It never works trust me! I’ve been with someone for almost two years “fwb” we definitely have feelings for each other he May not show it as much as I do but trust me its there we will never leave each other alone it seems like….so word of advice don’t get into one of these kind of relationships you wont ever get out emotions will always show no matter how hard you try and deny it♥♥
well my crush just asked to be fwb, but i denied because i’m only 13. he said it would be fwb without the sex, but then what’s the point? (he’s 14) so yeahh. he said basically he we would just be there for each other like holding hands, hugging, kissing etc. i’m jt confused. i do NOT want to have sex anytime soon. but then i do. i don’t know. i’m too young, i know, but maybe some advice on how to handle this relationship?
I had a fwb for months. I think the most important thing to do in order for it to work is to tell eachother, “I would never date you because_____”. We had been friends for 10 years before and still are now. We never talked about it and our closest friends never even knew. One day we just didn’t have sex and haven’t since, but not for any reason, we could pick it back up next week and it would never be weird. Don’t think about how great he is, unless you are thinking about the sex. Otherwise, think of all the stuff about him you wouldn’t want in a real relationship.
How many of you have seen the movie FWB? In the movie it didn’t work but that was what everybody expected from the beginning. The movie makes it seem possible for it to work. I think if you guys aren’t too close, maybe you just hang out when your horny. I think that would work out okay.
P.S. a good relationship is based on a foundation of friendship.
nooo, it doesnt work. i tried it, and today we’ve been together a year. someone always catches feelings, luckily for us, we BOTH did. <3
I think it can work, but both parties have to be extremely honest with each other and more importantly, with themselves. Because I have recently entered one with a boy I’ve had a crush on for years and I was afraid that I wouldn’t be able to handle the emotions I might have had, but after actually having sex and establishing out FWB relationship, I can honestly say that it’s perfect and I’m not crushing on him at all anymore. It’s kind of an ideal relationship.
Im FWB with my ex, ha sounds funny right?
But i lost my virginity to him when we were together & after we broke up through alot of talking or whatever we ended up being FWB & its actually really fun & theres no strings attached anymore cause were not together.
Omgg. Me too. But we are probably slightly bit different from you two. We still have feelings for each other.. But he always say he is not ready for a relationship yet..
I have a friend with benefit and eventhough i have feelings for him, its nice to keep it a secret and be together with no strings attached! 15
m8 im 13 i have just started this fwb with a 15 year old i am not a slag but it is fun
13 is a little young, don’t you think? especially for a friends with benefits relationship. I lost my virginity when i was 15 and stayed with the guy for 4 years and then i entered into other less serious relationships. but 13 is way too young to be having that kind of sexual relationship. It isn’t a healthy relationship for your age, trust me.
I dont think it works, i was FWB with a guy for about 3 months, I lost my virginity to him and i started to like him more, i never told him but with both decided to end it and it was harder because when we saw each other as FWB we had a better time than if we were in a relationship, it can work for some, just dont like the other person more than they like you!