Does being friends with benefits with someone ever actually work out? This is one of those questions that gets asked over and over again – and usually the answer seems to be a big, fat no. But in reality, it can work sometimes! Can someone just give us a final answer?!
We saw this post about FWB relationships in the message boards, and we wanted to see what you girls thought. Can it work sometimes? Or is being friends with benefits destined to always be a major fail? Read what these girls had to say, then give us your opinions in the comments:
It’s an opinion post: What do you think about friends with benefits? Why do you think that? Do you know situations, good or bad to share about the outcome of being FWB?
I think FWB is totally awesome as long as you follow the rule of thumb: it only works if you actively DON’T want to be in a relationship with the person. Otherwise the sex combined with the friendship muddles together into feelings and then it gets all messy and hurt-y.
amyboox said: (from another thread!)
I have to say that friend with benefits… never works. Unless it’s more like, acquaintances with benefits, having a friend you fool around with will always end up with one person liking the other. It’s much better to stay friends normally.
My opinion? Sorry to say this, but I just don’t think an FWB relationship can ever really work out. There are so many reasons why it’s just way too complicated. When you’re having sex with someone, of course you’re going to develop feelings for them – you’re being super intimate. It’s natural!
I’ve seen (and experienced) so many friends with benefits situations where one person ends up liking the other person, and the feelings aren’t returned. They almost always lead to jealousy, anger and feeling like you’re not good enough. But everyone is different, so if you think you can handle totally casual sex, go for it. But if you think there’s even a small chance of you wanting something more, don’t do it. It’s only going to hurt.
What do you think about friends with benefits? Have you ever seen it work? Have you ever done it? Let us know in the comments!