The other night, me and my boyfriend were cuddling and hooking up in bed when I did something SO embarrassing – I farted! He didn’t say anything, but I know he heard me, because the room was totally quiet and it was loud. I left a little while after that, but we haven’t hung out since because I’m too embarrassed to face him again! Help me Heather, what do I do?! What if it happens again??
Honestly, I can understand your embarrassment here. But, and this is a big but, here’s the truth: you really have nothing to be ashamed of! Farting is totally, 100% normal – trust me, I bet your boyfriend does it a whole lot more than you. Okay, it might be a little awkward when it happens, but it’s nothing to freak out over.
First things first: stop avoiding your boyfriend! It’s okay to feel a little bit embarrassed, but refusing to hang out with him is only going to make things worse. For one thing, it’s only making the fart a much bigger issue than it should be. Another thing? He probably already forgot it happened and is wondering what the heck he did wrong to make you avoid him. So go ahead and make a date to hang out. When you see him, don’t think about the farting incident. There’s no need to bring it up again – just act like nothing happened and forget about it.
If it happens again, don’t panic. Instead, try to make the situation funny. Laugh or make a joke about it. Showing that you’re comfortable enough with yourself to fart in front of him and then giggle about it is only going to show him that you’re a totally cool chick. One thing that almost all guys can appreciate is a girl who knows how to laugh at herself. Some guys would be super impressed that you could fart and not freak out. I mean, I’m not saying you have to start ripping some big ones every time you two are together, but just don’t take it so seriously!
And if this dude is totally grossed out and can’t get past it? Um, he’s so not worth your time, girl. Like I said before, farting is normal. Everybody does it, and sometimes, you really just can’t help it. So there’s no need to stress if it happens – trust me, a good sense of humor will go a long way here.
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