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How do you know if you’ve had an orgasm? Let’s see if I can help.
One way to help figure out if you have had an orgasm is to understand what is an orgasm in the first place. Basically, orgasms are the combination of two things. The first is that as a woman gets turned-on, she builds up muscle tension around her pelvis. During an orgasm all this built-up tension releases. The second thing that happens is that at the same time that this tension (or myotonia, if you want to really get technical) is released, a flood of hormones flows into the body. When it happens together, the hormone flow and muscle tension release cause intensely pleasurable feelings. These are often centered around the genitals, but they can be felt all over.
If this doesn’t sound like something you’ve experienced, don’t despair! Pretty much anyone can learn how to have an orgasm.
One of the best ways to do this is by masturbating (aka: touching yourself). When you are alone and the pressure’s off you can experiment with different types of sensation. Plus, you won’t feel rushed or like you have to perform, and you can let yourself fantasize about what turns you on without worrying about what is going on with someone else. Don’t be discouraged if things don’t click right away. Learning how to orgasm can take a lot of practice, both alone and with a partner.
Right after I had sex for the first time, my high school boyfriend turned away from me and mumbled into my hair, “So, um, did you come?”
I was pretty sure that I hadn’t, but it seemed embarrassing and rude, and maybe a little critical and mood-killing to mention this. So instead of telling him the truth, I said, “Yeah, it was really nice,” and left it at that.
It wasn’t that I was totally lying. The experience had been nice enough. But like a lot of girls’ first (or fifth or seventy-fifth) times, it also hadn’t exactly been orgasmic.
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In my case, this was a pretty clear result of inexperience and cluelessness about what I needed to do to be able to come. For other girls, not climaxing can be caused by everything from unrealistic expectations, to awful sex, to discomfort with their bodies, discomfort with their partners, or even discomfort with sex itself.
But whatever the reason, the fact remains: a lot of girls are having a lot of sex that isn’t ending in fireworks. It’s not that sex has to be mind-blowing every time, or that orgasms should always be the ultimate goal. But plenty of girls who would like to throw an orgasm into the mix, aren’t quite getting there.
So what can you do if this is the boat you’re in? One thing is to remember that our bodies are not machines that all work identically. Many people have gotten the message that simply inserting part A into slot B should result in earth-shattering orgasms, and when it doesn’t work like this, we feel like we (or our partners) are doing something wrong.
The fact is, most girls orgasm from clitoral stimulation, not from vaginal penetration, and that stimulation often needs to go on for long time. We’re talking anywhere from 6 minutes to 60. Really. It could take an hour of sexy times to get you to orgasm. And you know what? That’s fine, that’s great, that’s awesome.
Take your time and figure it out. You’ll have fun all along the way even if you don’t orgasm every time.
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Why are these people encouraging that 15 year old kid she is so over ripped.she is a baby should not be thinking about having sex.that if her baby started mature good.
Im 15 and me and my boyfriend and we have had sex about 5 times, organisms, anal sex and he licks my vagina. It feels so good. He wants me to give him a blow job, I really want to but I’m scared the sperm tastes bad. Please help
boys love blowjob. you don’t have to taste his “juice”. when i give mine blowjob, i spit it all in his shaft then i rub it off with spare clothes/sheets/tissues.you have to do this fast or you’ll taste it. some girls love it, i don’t swallow it coz it tastes freaking disgusting.
WTH? If you are really 15 then you should not be having sex with anyone. Go grow up first! You’ll get pregnant and a STD soon. Gross.
It’s so unfair that guys orgasm pretty much every time they have sex or masturbate, and yet us girls actually have to work for it.
I finally had an orgasm today!! I had tried everything from shower heads to my own hand but wasn’t able to come But using one of those handheld massages did the trick!!!
Help I can’t have an organ no matter what I try to use two objects at once but no good help
I love masturbating but I’m sacred of having sex becuase I heard that having sex iz painful for the first time…..and I’m really attracted to women more than men
It’s not as painful as you think the pleasure out does the pain so its like pain and pleasure at the same time. So don’t be scared it only really hurts when u don’t wanna do it. & good stick to girls then cuz trust me they do it better ;p
So I’ve had sex with 9 men, some good some bad lol I’ve scream, shouted, moan, groan and many more… But I don’t know if I’ve climaxed? As in cummed? And would love to know how and what’s not going right? I’m 21 and love the single life but a bit embarrassing that I think I haven’t cummed with the sex partners I’ve had or many more to come :/
#cringe
Help anyone younger or older women or even men?!
Sometimes I rub my vagina around and I think I get an oragasm. But is this normal? Is this masturbating?
What is pre mature ejuculation and if i practice murstabation can i fail to produce
I am only 15 and I a really want to masturbate but I have no idea of how to do it?!?!?!?!
You basically massage your vagina like you want to. There’s a hole near there and it’s OK to put a finger in there if you want. While doing that, move your finger in and out rubbing your clit. Sometimes you’ll feel a burning like sensation, but that’s normal. When I come to my point my hips start to twitch and my toes curl up and it’s like a burning sensation, like I said. And when your body starts to jerk, you have come.
Okay, when a girl starts having sex. Her period is most likely going to be late. Youre shoving a foreign object up there. Your BODY is not use to this. I. E if you were doing work and some naked guy ran through your job. You’d stop and try to figure out what the hell is going on. When My high school girl friend and I started having sex. Her body completely skiped her period that month. I’m sure you are fine, if you’re that worried about it go and buy a test and pee on the stick in about a month
I want to have sex with my boyfriend but don’t know when or what time
We’re both nervous !
Right now
I’ll be 26 in a few months and I started having sex when I was 16. I know that was a young age. what can I say I was stupid and young. Anyways, I’ve been with my fiance for 3 yrs now and I’ve never climaxed. Not even with my other partners before him. Yet when I masturbate I can get to that point in 5 mins or less.That’s never really bothered me cause I’ve always enjoyed the sex in general.The sex has gotten boring. I’ve tried communication with him but nothing gets through. I’ve even mention vibrators and he gets weird about them. I’ve even wore sexy outfits and even went as far as learning to dance on a pole. I don’t know what else to do.
Try regular position with him on top and you under, make sure to be very wet all over around your clit is a must, make sure his body is closely pressed against yours so that the area above is penis is rubbing your clit. You’ll be sure to catch an orgasm.
I’ve been having sex for three and a half years, and every single time i just feel disappointed and super sexually frustrated.
I hate that i feel like there like has to be something wrong with me since every friend of mine talks about how amazing it can be.
for me, sex just seems like a hassle and boring. my heart rate never speeds up, and it just isn’t enjoyable.
Hey everyone ,
I’m facing a problem with my partner we have been 5 years together and I never felt the orgasm with him sometimes we stay 2 hours and I don’t feel it I’m feel so embracing and one day he cheat on me because of this and he admit it can u help me please thx
Help! My boyfriend and i had sex for the first time.. he pulled out but we didn’t use a condom i feel so stupid. im supposed to get my period this week but if i dont should i assume im pregnant?
it matters if your regular if your not don’t fear to much…a period can be a week early or late, i know some people who have it once ever two months it really depends on your body…….i’m no expert…but here’s a website for patterns you would see if you were..hope it helps…
http://www.webmd.com/baby/guide/pregnancy-am-i-pregnant
Dont worry. Sometimes it may happen that even after sex for couple of times a woman may not get pregnant.
no becasue it happenes to me and my boyfriend we have always had sex with out condoms and i’ve never gotten pregnant and im sometimes late but no worries
sometimes missing your period means your pregnant, but there is more than one explanation. talk to your doctor if you are concerned