Why do guys act so immature in front of their friends? When my boyfriend is with me, he’s so sweet and stuff, but then when we’re with his friends he acts totally different. It’s so annoying! Why can’t guys just be normal all the time?
This is an easy one: we act immature with our friends because guys are immature!
Well, okay, there’s more to it than that…
Although girls generally begin the process of puberty at the average age of 10 or 11, boys don’t start until 12 or 13. Girls reach reproductive maturity within four years of puberty’s onset, while boys continue to grow for about six years after their initial physical changes. The rate at which we physically mature also affects the way we think, behave, and of course, interact with the opposite sex.
Guys can continue to lag behind women beyond puberty, celebrating inappropriate fart jokes well into their 30s (I can say fairly confidently that this writer will be one of those men). Meanwhile, because females have a specific biological window during which they can have children, women are more likely to be ready for serious relationships before men are.
Reinforce these discrepencies with plenty of cultural influences (has there ever been a TV show more frightening for dudes than Bridezillas?), and it becomes less cool for a guy to get tied down. The younger (or less mature) the guy, the more easily influenced – and therefore, cavalier about your relationship – he might be when around friends. In a nutshell, your boyfriend is likely masking his vulnerability, and the fact that he actually loves you lots.
Of course, he might also just have other interests with his friends that you two don’t share. If so, let him re-enact scenes from Jackass with his buddies; ignore his descriptive stories about flaming dog poop. But be sure to lay the smack down when you feel he’s out of line: don’t ever let him disrespect you in private or in public. And if he can’t learn from his mistakes, call one of your girlfriends up to make your own Jackass video by kicking him to the curb.