A boy I like just told me we should just stay friends, and I don’t know what to do because I really like him a lot. How can I get him to change his mind and go out with me?
I’m sorry to hear about your crush! But, I have some good news: this week, not only are you getting advice from me, but I’ve also enlisted the help of super-awesome Pubertina from Shut Up Cartoons to give you some advice. Check out what she has to say below:
I know how you feel because I ask my crush out every week and get rejected repeatedly! Sad as it is, you can’t force a boy to go out with you. You can’t force a dog to become a unicorn either (I’ve tried it so don’t waste your time).
Think about the reasons you think he should go out with you. Is it because you’re smart, funny, and/or pretty? Is it because you’re talented, fun, creative and charming? Make a list of these reasons, then stare at it for 4+ hours. Your eyes may hurt, but soon you will forget about this boy and fall in love with yourself instead. Don’t worry, there are plenty of boys to crush on, and eventually, when you’re too busy staring at yourself in the mirror to notice your crush sent you a sweet Facebook message, that’s when one of them will crush on you back
Okay, Heather here! I totally agree with Pubertina’s advice and just wanted to add a few things. It definitely stinks that your crush doesn’t share the same feelings as you. I know how much you’re probably hoping he’ll change his mind, but if that happens, it’s something that he’ll need to figure out without your help. This is one of those situations where the best thing to do is back off and move on.
Imagine if you didn’t like a dude, and he kept talking to you and attempting to do things to win you over. It would probably get pretty annoying, right? Continuing to be persistent in going after your crush after he’s already made a decision is only going to turn him off. Be friendly towards him if you’re comfortable with that – maybe in time he’ll see how totally awesome you are and realize he needs to date you.
But keep in mind that that might not happen, and that’s fine. You don’t deserve to sit around trying to make some dude fall in love with you. One day you’ll meet someone who will return all of your feelings and more, and you’ll forget all about this guy!
Heather (& Pubertina!)
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