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According to a new report, chances are he is. And let’s be real, can you blame him? You’re rad. Problem is, if your guy friend is into you, it sorta complicates things in terms of having a normal platonic friendship with him.
The report suggests that in terms of friendships with the opposite sex, guys are generally more attracted to their gal pals than girls are to their guy friends. As if that weren’t uncomfortable enough, the study also shows that guys tend to overestimate how much you’re attracted to them–if you are at all. So annoying!
It sucks when you think you have a legit platonic connection with a guy… And then he randomly confesses his feelings for you one day or tries to kiss you, or you might catch him checking out your butt or staring at your boobs, because then it makes you wonder: What were his motives all along? Was he only my friend to try getting in my pants? It just raises so many questions that you’d rather not deal with or think about. And it’s worse coming from a pal than some random guy, because with a guy friend, you have a history and actually care about his feelings–so you have to shoot him down carefully to avoid crushing him, but at the same time you’re paranoid from that point on about accidentally leading him on. Urgh!
What’s more, the study shows that guy friends can complicate relationships with dudes you’re actually dating (and if your guy friend has a girlfriend, this goes for her too). The study shows that people who are attracted to their guy or girl friends are less happy in their own relationships. Yikes!
This all isn’t to say you can’t or shouldn’t have guy friends. When everyone knows where they stand in terms of their friendship, having a guy friend is awesome–you have automatic male perspective on things, which is so important and cool–in addition to just being fun to be around in general. Just make sure everyone’s on the same page: Is he into you? Probably. Just make sure he knows you’re not into him. And if you are? Make a move already, girl!
Have you ever had a crush on a guy friend? Has your guy friend ever revealed his feelings for you? Would you ever date your best guy friend? Tell us in the comments!
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My guy friend Nick and i have known each other since fourth grade… He used to like me but i think he moved on after he moved to Florida. He came back the next year and i felt slightly… attracted to him. It was really weird and soon i developed feelings for him. His friends said he liked me but i seriously doubted it, he had a girlfriend that when he was fighting with, he asked me for advice and he admitted that he thought he loved her. Now i’m trying to let him go, for my own good as well as his. But I’m so confused!!! I REALLY need advice, Please Help!!!
Well at first i waz attracted but thn lik idk i got to meet him more nd i think i rather jst be friends wit him itz not worth risking the friendship but i still think his cute
I kissed a guy n ja we we’re tite like that n kissed a few weeks ago n I dnt want a relationship now but I really am into him n his so complicated when it cums 2 galz I’ve learnt that since we’ve been friends I’m just not sure how he feels I also don’t want 2 pressurize him with 21questions I simply just dunno what 2 do plz help
Yea also I nd my guy friend in love, we’ve had quality tym nd all dat 2geda but he has a girl friend.
When I first became friends with this guy we were pretty close straight away. I thought i liked him as more than a friend at first but then we got a really good friendship and i realised I liked things the way they were. After that, I realised he liked me, he would send me kisses in my texts (something he doesn’t do to anybody, not even family) and say really nice things (not too obvious or soppy). He even sent me a link to a love song and told me to listen to the lyrics. I really didn’t want to ruin our relationship by rejecting him, because from experience that has always made things more awkward, but I didn’t want to lead him on by saying something like ‘aww thats cute’. So I pretended I didn’t get his hint. And eveytime after that, he said something nice to me I would play dumb and pretend I thought he was just being friendly and not flirting. Eventually he went off me and now we’re both in relationships. I think I did the right thing because he was my absolute bestfriend now and we tell eachother everything and I’m comfortable with talking about anything. I’m going for a sleepover round his in a few days and I finally feel comfortable knowing he won’t get the wrong idea. So sometimes guys and girls can be best friends without love getting in the way because our friendship is stronger than ever.
Actually, it’s the opposite. I’M the one who likes HIM. I really can’t tell if he feels the same though :L because I don’t want to overestimate and ruin our friendship…yeah it kind of sucks
Me and my best guy friend have this friends with benifits thing and my best girl friend found out (she used to like him), and everything is all screwed up. We like each other, but he values the friendships between us three more than our little thing. But I have a huge crush on him.
This kind of thing is confusing me too. I have a close guy friend. Like very close. He told me almost everything in his life. He asked me to hang out with him, almost like…a date many times before but I always refused. Because I was afraid my own feelings for him might go beyond close friendship, and he might not have felt the same way. But my best girl friend said he liked me, her boyfriend said he thought so too. I am sometimes confused as well. We always joked around, calling each other hubby and wifey, he said he loved me and stuff. But I know he was joking and it was nothing more than friendly love. We had our first kiss with each other. Although it was pretty much happened because I was trolled by my friends but still, he said he liked it. And the next time we went to the movies with each other, and with my bestfriend and her boyfriend too, it almost felt like a couple date. Ever since our first kiss, he has kissed me more and more everytime we went to the movies with each other. It has gotten stronger, to the point of him wrapping his arms around me, holding me close, cuddling, whispering that he wanted to stay like that forever, kissing my neck, my neck and even turning my face to kiss me. He even said that he loved me, whispering that to my ear no less. But I thought it all was just…friendly kind of thing. Because at the time, he was in love with someone else, but had got rejected by that girl. When I told him to give me up and stop being friends, he said he would never do that and pulled me to kiss me hard, and asked if I understood that he would never leave me, I shook my head and said no, then he kissed me harder. He would kiss me if I said no. I’m all confused. Friends dont kiss each other passionately to prove friendship right?
I know he likes kissing me because he is comfortable with me, and I am his very first female best friend and this new experience is exciting to him, and all the cuddling is because he is a touchy-feely and affectionate person and we are close friends. But still, I dont know if all those things are just…friendly, or more like ‘friends with benefits’ or it’s something more near love like my bestfriend said. I think I do like him more than a friend, I have a crush on him. But he was, and probably is still deeply in love with the other girl, and he is not the type to fall for two girls at the same time. So I am all the more puzzled.
So I have or had,i dunno. A best guy friend and we hung out a lot.one day he said he had feeling for me and kissed me and i dunno man I kinda just loved the way he kisses so i kissed him back and I lead him on cause…he’s a very good kisser. He wanted to get together but I said no. I really wished that was the end to that but it wasnt because me and him and our other friend are bestfriends and we hang out and do everything with eachother but ever since that happen he doesnt treat me the same. He isn’t as nice and caring. It’s almost as if we weren’t as close as we used to be or maybe we never were and he liked me the whole time hut ugh it Juat sucks a lot . Like dude, I really wish we couldjust be great friends like we used to.
Well, me and my guyfriend had been tight since 2 years. We’d talk about pretty much everything. And he’s in a relationship. So am I. But in the past few months, I was told that he was giving out signals to me. I never really realized and kinda brushed it off. Anyway, we continued with our usual skype sessions etc and then last night, all of a sudden, he’s telling me wants to hook up with me. Im pretty sureits just a casual hook up he’s asking for and he probably isnt looking for a relationship but I was surprised nonetheless.
The exact same thing hapnd 2 me diffrnc is we hooked up n he kissed lyk heavn I’m so in2 him not relationship wise bt I jst cnt tell with him any advice
me and my bestfriend used to like each other, before i got a boyfriend…. and now that i do, im still not sure if he still likes me. And we’re not as close anymore , idk why ?
one of my best guy friends told me a little while ago he thought he was having feelings for me… but then the next day he was writing love notes to this other girl he is obsessed with… funny how that works… haha
So, my best friend is a guy. He used to date my cousin… When that didn’t fall through correctly (and I’m totally the opposite of this statistic), I admit my feelings for him. That didn’t work out too well since he was still really into her and date her again. For 5 months
Well now that they’ve broken up for good,and everything is completely awkward and weird for us, we date. Kinda awkward but then again, he knows everything and I have absolutely no trust issues with him… I like this better that random guy I meet and get to know to date.
i have a guy friend and i think he likes me cus it seems hes always almost around me and he always picks on me but i dont no if he dos
i went to a party for one of my guy friends. and we all played truth or dare and someone dared him to kiss me. so we kissed and it got pretty intense. then one of the other guys said “hey get a room”. the next day he asked me out
i had a crush on a friend who is a guy and he rejected me
I kissed one of my guy friends in truth or dare and he seemed to have realized his feelings for me all of a sudden. It’s hard because I don’t know how I feel now. Guys get so conplicated..
in the picture, the guy looks like Fred and the girl looks like Nikki Phillippi
I am in love with one of my guy friends. He does know how I feel. Let’s say his name is D. And he doesn’t love me back but we are very close. In class I lean on him, sometimes fall asleep on him like that, we always make fun of each other, and we even have moments when we talk to each other all sweetly. But the main problem is that he is moving in 6 Days. I want to make his last days here memorable, but I don’t want to mess up our friendship or make him feel awkward. I really love him, and care about him so much. But I also love being his friend. I’m going to miss him so very much.
That happened to me. I was really tight with these guys, then one decided to ask me out. SSSOOOOO awkward!!!! Now i have become even better friends with the other two, and everyone assumes me and either one of them are going out! Yeah it does get awkward