Is Your Guy Friend Into You? Probably.

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Chances are, her guy friend is thinking about more than a friendly hug. | Source: Shutterstock

Most of us have a guy friend or two that we’re really tight with–you play video games, grab pizza, watch stupid movies, and ask him for advice on your crush. It’s a pretty sweet arrangement, but admit it–sometimes it can get awkward, like when people assume you’re dating or ask if you guys are an item. So is he into you?

According to a new report, chances are he is. And let’s be real, can you blame him? You’re rad. Problem is, if your guy friend is into you, it sorta complicates things in terms of having a normal platonic friendship with him.

The report suggests that in terms of friendships with the opposite sex, guys are generally more attracted to their gal pals than girls are to their guy friends. As if that weren’t uncomfortable enough, the study also shows that guys tend to overestimate how much you’re attracted to them–if you are at all. So annoying!

It sucks when you think you have a legit platonic connection with a guy… And then he randomly confesses his feelings for you one day or tries to kiss you, or you might catch him checking out your butt or staring at your boobs, because then it makes you wonder: What were his motives all along? Was he only my friend to try getting in my pants? It just raises so many questions that you’d rather not deal with or think about. And it’s worse coming from a pal than some random guy, because with a guy friend, you have a history and actually care about his feelings–so you have to shoot him down carefully to avoid crushing him, but at the same time you’re paranoid from that point on about accidentally leading him on. Urgh!

What’s more, the study shows that guy friends can complicate relationships with dudes you’re actually dating (and if your guy friend has a girlfriend, this goes for her too). The study shows that people who are attracted to their  guy or girl friends are less happy in their own relationships. Yikes!

This all isn’t to say you can’t or shouldn’t have guy friends. When everyone knows where they stand in terms of their friendship, having a guy friend is awesome–you have automatic male perspective on things, which is so important and cool–in addition to just being fun to be around in general. Just make sure everyone’s on the same page: Is he into you? Probably. Just make sure he knows you’re not into him. And if you are? Make a move already, girl!

Have you ever had a crush on a guy friend? Has your guy friend ever revealed his feelings for you? Would you ever date your best guy friend? Tell us in the comments!

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  • Anon

    Ok, so I’ve had this huge crush on my guy bestfriend literally since I first saw him in y7, we got of flirting straight away and he always said no to a relationship, I’m in y10 now and I’m still best friends with him, he knows about how I ‘used’ to like him and he’s admitted about liking me at times. Ok, so this is the part that weirds me out, about 2 months ago, we where chilling having a movie day as normal and kind of cuddling on the sofa at the scary parts, I was enjoying it and he was getting a bit touch so I looked up and he kissed me, I obviously kissed back and he pulled away, i later asked him if it ment anything and he told me he didn’t know so I was really confused. I also heard reports from my other best guy friend (his bestfriend too) that he’d told him he liked me. I also heard the same thing from another girl that were both close to. If the situation wasn’t confusing enough. 3 weeks later he got a new girlfriend and I don’t know what to think because I think I might love him and it breaks me to think that this new girl is making him happy. Help.

  • Happy girl

    Sigh’-he was and is my friend,i developed feelings for him right from my degree ,he has girlfriend so i ask him if he could be my brother ,he aggrees,!i had my first boyfriend that happens to be his friend,and he always teases me by calling me sister-in-law!i wonder if he ever loved me once;-(