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According to a new report, chances are he is. And let’s be real, can you blame him? You’re rad. Problem is, if your guy friend is into you, it sorta complicates things in terms of having a normal platonic friendship with him.
The report suggests that in terms of friendships with the opposite sex, guys are generally more attracted to their gal pals than girls are to their guy friends. As if that weren’t uncomfortable enough, the study also shows that guys tend to overestimate how much you’re attracted to them–if you are at all. So annoying!
It sucks when you think you have a legit platonic connection with a guy… And then he randomly confesses his feelings for you one day or tries to kiss you, or you might catch him checking out your butt or staring at your boobs, because then it makes you wonder: What were his motives all along? Was he only my friend to try getting in my pants? It just raises so many questions that you’d rather not deal with or think about. And it’s worse coming from a pal than some random guy, because with a guy friend, you have a history and actually care about his feelings–so you have to shoot him down carefully to avoid crushing him, but at the same time you’re paranoid from that point on about accidentally leading him on. Urgh!
What’s more, the study shows that guy friends can complicate relationships with dudes you’re actually dating (and if your guy friend has a girlfriend, this goes for her too). The study shows that people who are attracted to their guy or girl friends are less happy in their own relationships. Yikes!
This all isn’t to say you can’t or shouldn’t have guy friends. When everyone knows where they stand in terms of their friendship, having a guy friend is awesome–you have automatic male perspective on things, which is so important and cool–in addition to just being fun to be around in general. Just make sure everyone’s on the same page: Is he into you? Probably. Just make sure he knows you’re not into him. And if you are? Make a move already, girl!
Have you ever had a crush on a guy friend? Has your guy friend ever revealed his feelings for you? Would you ever date your best guy friend? Tell us in the comments!
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So, me and this guy liked each other in 5th grade and he kept asking me out but I said no because I was too young. He moved to a different middle school after 5th and I am seeing him in high school for the first time since then. He stares at me alot and tries to lock eyes when he passes by. He get really nervous around me and I know this because he is so funny and rowdy around his friends. Every day after 3rd prd we meet and hug really tight and long and I love it! The only problem is, my best friend has liked him since, like, the 1st day of school and talks about him constantly. She gets mad really easily and if i tell her we’ve been hugging and flirting, she will be pissed. What should I do?? I reaaaally like him :/
Ooook. A girlfriend of mine likes a boy, A LOT. but he only sees her as a friend, so shes never acted on it. The boy (who is also a very good friend of mine) likes (or liked) another friend, and she liked him too, but she also didnt acton it because she didnt want to hurt the other girls feelings. Apparently, hes over her now and started coming on to me, and, yes, he is hot, but i absolutely wont do anything.(I dont want to hurt BOTH of my girlfriends) Obviously he’s confused, and I dont want to be so hard on him. He goes through a lot of shit in his family and i dont want to add even more pain. What do I doo? please help, any idea or suggestion will do
hii gurls…. so dis is my story… I m 19 and left skul after 10th n joined engg. I was such a geek back in skul iI hated d way iI dressed. but was frnds wif lots of boys in my class.. n they wer all like bro, for me as iI had a crush on my senior. a serious one. after leaving skul iI confessed but he rejected me as he was wid another girl.
dis my frnds came to know n now half of dem already asked me out including some of my juniors.. it felt like so embarassing as they know wot feelings iI have for dem… I denied their pruposals individually but still some of dem dnt wish to behave like we used to … and the very awful problem is I still have feelings for my 1st crush. iI knw its stupid but iI cant just say yes to every guy who hits on me…. iI just want dem to b my frnz. also iI doubt why dey asked me out, coz dey r despo to get a grl n cnt find one or bcoz wot dey say abt having feelings for me…. help me out……
Well, I’m here for the same reason that the rest of you are here. My best friend likes me. And I really like him too. More than just friends. But there are just so many things that are making me scared to like him. 1.) He already has a girlfriend who hates me because she thinks I’m competition. 2.) His ex-girlfriend hates me because she thinks I’m competition for her winning him back, so she has been threatening me. 3.) His ex-girlfriend has been going around saying that she’s pregnant with his baby, even though he says that it is impossible. 4.) I’ve never had a boyfriend before, I’ve never had my first kiss, and I’ve never even told a boy that I liked them before. I didn’t even know that he liked me until Saturday, when the band was riding back home from the football state championships. He asked me if i really did like him, and after we talked for a bit, I told him the truth. He told me that he really liked me back. But I just don’t know what to do. I really don’t want to ruin our really good friendship.
Oh goodness! I need help! Ok so my best guy friends jake nick and rylan are
IM NOT! What’s the deal?
Super funny and I have a great time with them!
Me and my girlfriends love hanging with them
At school! I even told them about my crush on
this guy, Drew. Yesterday, ALL of them said they
like me! I’m not pretty, but I am outgoing. I think
that’s why! Drew said he likes me, but I am focusing on
friends and not dating. I’m not ready. A lot of girls
are mad and say I’m a player!
what should I do? I only want friends! I don’t have
crushes on my three guy friends!
Alright so people are calling you a player. Just ignore them Because your not a player, chances are that these people are jealous. If your not ready for a relationship it’s okay trust. Based on what you’ve said, you really like these boys (as friends) if they happen to bring it up again. Be honest, they don’t want to walk around thinking you do or beig upset that they don’t know. Don’t make it awkward by laughing during it because that’ll maybe make things weird between you guys. From what I think you have to follow your heart and you like Drew. These guys maybe should have respected you more because all they did was put a lot of weight on your shoulders. Because they told you that they like you even though they knew you liked this so called guy drew. Just go with what you think is right but don’t be a jerk about it. I hope it helped!
What fo I do if the my guy friend is dating my bestfriend and I really like the guy and my friend said that I could date him if they break up and I promised I wouldnt break them up but I know that my guy friend likes me too but I really want to date him and I know he likes me too but I dont want to break a promise with my friend
So here is my story, I met this guy at my school and we seemed to really hit it off. We laugh at each others jokes and we were really flirty at first. I had no idea he had a girl sat the time, I figured he was shy. So I jumped the gun and asked him out. Jumping ahead on our first date he bought me flowers, the second chocolate. Not until the 4th date did anything physical happened. He claimed that he just wanted to friends, but still says he loves the way I am and keeps taking me out and insist on paying for everything. I don’t know what to think. He’s just using me isn’t he? 0.o
Im so sad. A guyfriend thati thought liked me just asked me on advice on how he should ask out another girl i dont know. I liked him so i feel helpless and crushed. I gave him good advice but i pray tht she says no!
what do i do?
I have been friends with a guy for 3 years now we have sex every now and then I think he has cheated on his girl friends with me. any way he is moving 50 miles away for new job he does have a girl friend that has two kids.I have two kids also and he knows our. Well when he told me he was moving I was so sad about it, I never knew I had so many feelings for him. What do I do? I want to let him know how I feel but is it the right thing? What will he think? Please somebody help me!
Okay, so one of my guy friends was hinting that anoter guy friend of mine liked me. So to find out, I sat jext to him on the bus to our next compition. He flirted with me the entire way there and then after the compition we had won and everyone was kid of rowdy and he confessed. I said I needed to think about it and then he went back to actig normal, but in a painfully akward way.
I have no idea what to do! Before this year I was INVISIBLE as a girl, i drop fifteen pounds over the summer and dress nicer and suddenly guys are flirting with me! I don’t know if I want a relationship even if i like him back….it kind of scares me since I’ve never been in a relationship before even if other girls my age have had TONS of them. I feel so confused! X( I have never had to deal with this before, it was a nice fantasy, sure, but I don’t think I’m ready for a relationship yet…?
girl say yes dont be nervous i have never been in one and its a new expirience like holding hands hugs alot of them ur first kis!!!!! its a fun expirience and some girls find there true love in highschool or even middle school just go for it trust me