I have big boobs and a big butt that are really hard to miss. They’re a gift and a curse; they’re a gift because they’re huge, but they’re a curse because I can’t talk to guys without them staring at either of them, even when they’re covered. I don’t want to make my boobs and butt any smaller – so how am I supposed to get guys to focus on my face instead?
I admit that I can’t even count the number of times I’ve told my girlfriend she was insane for thinking her curves were anything but sexy. But after she patiently broke it down for me, I can now see how the persistently ogling eyes of other men can outweigh the benefits of having larger breasts. If you’re lucky enough to possess physical qualities which men find attractive, there are plenty of times you might not want attention from those men.
Why are we such pigs? Well, although personal preferences vary due to culture, big boobs and bottoms on females are generally biological pluses for child rearing, and valuing these traits has been ingrained in much of our DNA since caveman days. So no matter how sensitive a dude may be to the female predicament, nature will almost always trump reason, prompting him to sneak a peek at your assets.
Show dudes that you’re about more than just your curves by contributing to conversations and showing off your brains. You don’t have to say things to impress them, just be yourself. Tell a funny joke, talk about an issue that was brought up in class, discuss a shared interest – whatever you feel comfortable with. Once you start showing off your amazing personality, it’ll be obvious that there’s a lot more to you than just a body to stare at.
Although you can’t control where guys are going to look, you don’t have to hide under Spanx or tight undergarments that constrict. You shouldn’t be ashamed of your desirable endowments! Instead — if I may play your straight Tim Gunn for a moment — there are ways to tastefully accommodate your curves without showing them off. Don’t feel like you need to hide your awesome bod for anyone!
But no matter what you decide to wear, the more confident and self-accepting you are, the more guys will pay attention to you for all the right reasons. When you’re able to own your body without apologies, you can more easily focus on being the real you, and guys find that self-assuredness attractive. Just remember that while no dude is immune from stealing a glance now and then, any guy who’s incapable of seeing who you really are isn’t right for you in the first place!