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Hi Heather,
I’m 16 and recently my boyfriend and I have been sexually active. One night the condom broke, and he instantly pulled out. He said this has happened to him before and that I don’t have anything to worry about because he knew right away when it happened. I’m still questioning myself… could I be pregnant? I don’t know what to do. Please help!
Here’s the deal: there’s a possibility you could get pregnant from the condom breaking, especially if you aren’t using an alternate form of birth control, like the pill or the patch. It doesn’t matter if your boyfriend didn’t ejaculate yet – he could have pre-ejaculated, and despite what some people might think, that can get you pregnant. In the short period of time that his penis was inside of you unprotected, that pre-ejaculation could have gotten inside you too.
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Okay, now don’t freak out after reading that. For one thing, if you are using an alternate form of birth control and your boyfriend did not ejaculate inside of you, then it’s safe to say that you’re probably not pregnant. And if your boyfriend really did notice immediately that the condom broke and pulled out right away, you’re most likely safe, whether you use another form of birth control or not. But since I’m not your doctor and I wasn’t there that night, I can’t say for sure.
How long has it been since this happened? If this just happened recently, your best bet is to take a pregnancy test. That can be terrifying, but taking one will calm your nerves and give you an answer once and for all. If you don’t want to take one on your own, go to your gynecologist. Sitting around wondering about whether or not you’re preggers is only going to stress you out – and all of that stress can actually put a hold on your period, which will only lead to more stress. It’s better to take a test or see a doctor to get a real answer. And there’s no reason to be ashamed, because this happens to people on a regular basis!
And if you’re not using another form of birth control, maybe it’s time to consider doing so. Using the pill or the patch will give you double the protection against an unwanted pregnancy. But if you do go on either of those, you should still use condoms. Condoms are the only form of birth control that will protect you against STD’s and other diseases. Ask your mom or doctor about it.
take care,
heather
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Hello. I was having sex with my boyfriend today and he was about to come. He didn’t want to come that quickly so he pulled it out. Suddenly he realized that he wasn’t wearing the condom. The condom was stuck inside me. I put my finger in to see that it was right at the entrance. I pulled it out, there was no fluid in it (except the lubricant) since my boyfriend didn’t come. We thought that it just stuck there at the instant he was pulling it out. So there actually was no way that his come or precome. Even though this seems like the case, I kind of panicked and now I’m surfing through the net, seeking any kind of advice about this situation. I live in a conservative place so I see a doctor as the last solution. I need to have my period in some time, I think I should panic if I don’t have it. I’m not sure. I’m kind of panicked and stressed.
Something similar happened with me and my boyfriend we had sex the day after my period and the condom broke but he was nowhere near coming so he put on another one and we had sex again. The second condom had spermicide lube on it so wouldn’t that kill any pre-cum from the first condom(if there was any?) I’m really scared and I can’t tell my parents, do you think I’m pregnant?
Okay so something similar happened to me me and my boyfriend were having sex and the condom broke and he pulled out right away and he wasn’t even close to coming he put on another condom and we had sex again and the second condom had spermicide lube on it. Even if he had pre-cum wouldn’t the lube kill it? Please help I’m really scared and I can’t tell my parents. Do you think I’m pregnant?
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I had sex with my boyfriend yesterday. While we were in the process of he had fell out and when he was pushing back in the condom broke. He pulled out immediately after it happened, he hadn’t come, and there was no fluid on his penis or in the condom . But the very same night after I went home I got sick and threw up, and I don’t know if that’s a sign of anything. We had chicken parm and squash for dinner. I think I cooked the chicken all the way, but it looked kinda juicy inside, and I didn’t feel 100% well after eating all the squash. Am I pregnant, did I get sick from food, or am I just paranoid?
Relax! There’s no way that you’ll be getting any signs of pregnancy (especially nausea) before a month. At least!
this happened to me last january (2011) on our one year anniversary, right after my 17th birthday. i was on the pill and the condom broke, and i still got pregnant, but i lost the baby at 11 weeks…i am a cautionary tale. dont think that using multiple forms of birth control is ever 100% effective! if you honestly think you’re pregnant, go to a doctor and talk to her about your options. best of luck.