Okay, so you’ve started dating a totally awesome new dude. You guys hang out all the time, he’s met your parents, you’re really into him… so, is it time to put your relationship on Facebook? In other words, is it time to make things Facebook official?
Making a relationship Facebook official can be complicated – it’s basically an announcement that you’ve started dating someone. Some people say relationships are private, and there’s no need to air it on FB. But others say that a relationship isn’t really real until it says it on your profile. We saw this debate in the message boards, and we’re curious to know how you feel about it. Read what these girls had to say, and then tell us your opinion.
Do you make a relationship Facebook official? If you have before, what was the reaction of your Facebook friends? Everyone has their own set of steps before making it Facebook official. So, do you have these?
I am not in a relationship or anything. I’m just curious to hear what you gURLS have to say. I am on the fence about this.
No son, I do not have my relationship on FB. Here is why!
1. If we break up, the changed status will raise questions, people asking why, etc.
2. If we break up and change our minds and get back together…. ughhh yeah a lot of FB drama.
3. No one’s business but my own.
4. I think it’s childish.
5. We’ve been dating for going on 4 years, EVERYONE ALREADY KNOWS!
Basically I want control over my relationship and I do not like the feeling of insecurity over that dumb public title. Plus, I’ve always worried that one of us would change it on impulse and make us look dumb. It just is so stupid and not right for me. Too much pressure involved.
It depends on the nature of the relationship. I think that as soon as you get serious you should, but it is a personal choice.
But if your partner is hesitant to do so, I would take that as a warning sign. If someone loves you they should have no problem letting their friends know that they’re with you. If my partner refused to, I would feel as if they were ashamed of me OR that they didn’t want to advertise that they’re not single – which is a very bad sign.
What do I think? I’m going to have to agree with leylaxx… in my opinion, making things Facebook official doesn’t help a relationship – it actually complicates it. Once you announce your relationship on Facebook, your private life is no longer private. Say you break up – once you change your relationship status, you’ll have all sorts of people asking you about it at the exact time you don’t want anyone asking about it.
As for people who say that a relationship isn’t official unless it’s on Facebook? I’m sorry, but that’s a little bit ridiculous. Facebook is just a website, it shouldn’t control how you or others see your relationship. Yes, I agree that it’s a little shady if your dude absolutely refuses to make things FB official – but it doesn’t automatically mean he’s cheating. In the end, the most important thing is that you and your partner know your together and you’re both happy – not that all of your 600+ Facebook friends do.
What do you think about making relationships Facebook official? Who do you agree with? Tell us in the comments.