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Still, even though as your official Pleasure Educator, I can tell you for sure that orgasms are not the be-all, end-all of sex–they feel great and everybody wants to have one. So you want to know how to have an orgasm? Let’s see if I can help!
Orgasmic release may result from a fantastic solo sexual session with just yourself or with another person, but it’s just one float in the big sexy parade. Oh, jeez. Am I really going to make a Thanksgiving Parade analogy? Yup, I think I am.
I grew up in NYC so when I was a kid, we’d check out the Thanksgiving Day Parade. They had floats, baton twirlers and all kinds of stuff but the biggest draw was supposed to be Santa Claus. However, we all came to enjoy different parts of the parade. Some came for the drumming and bands and others were in it for the high flying characters in the sky. A bunch of other people stayed ‘til the end for the dude in the red suit. In other words, Santa was awesome but he wasn’t the whole source of fun at the parade. Got it? Santa’s like the orgasm? Good.
Take the “am I doing it right” pressure off of yourself. Stop stressing about your belly or hair down there. If you’re caught up in the pressure of having to have an orgasm, guess what? That is exactly the way NOT to have one. Take a deep breath, relax and let go. How to have an orgasm? Stop freaking out and try to have fun!
The cool thing is that you have access to your beautiful body 24 hours a day 7 days a week to figure out what may or may not be pleasurable for you, give or take your work, school and social hours (nobody wants you, um, exploring during class or at the mall!).
Be in the moment, my chicas. If you have an orgasm during sexy times, dy-no-mite. If you don’t have an orgasm, that’s cool too. It might take a while to have your first one–and even then, know that you might not have one every time. Since most girls and women do experience orgasms, you probably will at some point, too!
So how do you know if it’s happened yet? WOWZERS!!! Trust me. You’ll know when it happens!
Do you have any tips on how to have an orgasm? Do you think girls and guys put too much pressure on girls to orgasm? Tell me what you think in the comments!
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…uh i never been able to have an organism..i do all those things you say…i dont even worry about having one…but i would like to know how it feels..:/ my boyfriend been trying, i always enjoy having some smexy time with him..but i never get to that point of a organism
santa’s an orgasm……holy cow….. and i thought that the santa in MY country was creepy….
But how do i now when my orginsim will come
hey girls!
I’m not exactly sure if I’ve ever had an orgasm.. I get to a point where I’m really wet and start shaking as the muscles contract and then all of a sudden it’s too much and I have to stop. I think thats really close though, so if you feel like that, its probably good! also you should try thinking about your sexiest memories;) hope i helped someone(:
The first one I had I was 13 and I remember just sitting there for a few minutes after watching myself still twitching down there and thinking OMG my body is amazing! Then when I passed a mirror in the hallway like 5 minutes later I had to do a double take because my lips and cheeks where so pink and my face was so glowy. If you haven`t had one yet do not get discouraged just keep trying and really focus on what feels best … also don`t be afraid to be creative. I wanted to learn as much as I could about my body before I had sex for the first time to make sure I knew how to enjoy myself when I finally did have sex with another person, and I think everyone should and not just rely on your partner to make you feel good because how are they supposed to magically know what you like? Lastly I must stress again when you have an orgasm look in the mirror! it makes you look amazing so just take time after to enjoy that and feel beautiful.
My leg always twitches like crazy when my bf fingers or has sex with me. so that stops me from having one. but on my own, i always manage (Y)
Ok, but Santa is NOT an orgasm!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I only get orgasms when he rubs AND fingers me at the same time.. try it. ! Oh and also try getting him to eat ice and then eat you right after. It feels so good! You might even get an orgasm but just stay relaxed!!
I have a that shower head that you can pull out and I turn the nozzle to the jet like thing and I aim it at my clit. I can be extremely quiet when I orgasm. Your lower abdomen tightens and you start to convulse a bit. After, your clit it really sensitive, (maybe it’s just me.) when you touch it, it sends sensations. That’s how I feel, dunno about you other girlies.
Okay uh…I’ve didn’t think about an orgasm till my sister brought it up,what does a orgasm feels like,and I do got a problem,I’m shy about my body…..but anyways I would really love to experience an orgasm!!!!Some help here!!!
Trust me, I’m shy about my body too. But all you have to do is start off slow. Just explore, find where you’re comfortable, and try. It’s awkward at first, but if you think of things that are so sexul they give you chills, or sometimes hold your breath, and, well, push a bit, you can get them. It’s literally cloud 9. Don’t worry about it- you’ll get more comfortable with yourself.
Wait what?
If yoU lay down on ur stomach and put both hands on ur v and grind bam! Orgasm! <3
Thanks for the tip!!
im 66 years old and never had one.
I’m so sorry
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Its all in your head. Don’t be self conscious.
Just lightly grind and hump a pillow folded up or rub up on your boyfriend while making out or lick your hand and rub the inside of your vagina while thinking about something foxy, like Captain America. Bam! Orgasm.
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omg yo read my mind i prob wuld think bt captian america hes bombskies
That too funny Captain America
I wish this would help a little bit more :\
Don’t worry, just keep trying. Every now and then, I’m in my room and i start w/ myself (hey, i’m lonely sometimes) and it just happens
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This article really didn’t give much of a how-to. In my opinion, one of the best ways to have an orgasms is by leaning how to be comfortable with touching yourself. To this day I would have probably NEVER had an orgasm during sex if I hadn’t learned to stimulate my clitoris during it. In whatever position you are in, try just touching your clitoris while the penis goes in and out of you. I like to make circular motions, but it’s up to you. But the article did get one thing right…RELAX!
Ok…still confused here…
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