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Still, even though as your official Pleasure Educator, I can tell you for sure that orgasms are not the be-all, end-all of sex–they feel great and everybody wants to have one. So you want to know how to have an orgasm? Let’s see if I can help!
Orgasmic release may result from a fantastic solo sexual session with just yourself or with another person, but it’s just one float in the big sexy parade. Oh, jeez. Am I really going to make a Thanksgiving Parade analogy? Yup, I think I am.
I grew up in NYC so when I was a kid, we’d check out the Thanksgiving Day Parade. They had floats, baton twirlers and all kinds of stuff but the biggest draw was supposed to be Santa Claus. However, we all came to enjoy different parts of the parade. Some came for the drumming and bands and others were in it for the high flying characters in the sky. A bunch of other people stayed ‘til the end for the dude in the red suit. In other words, Santa was awesome but he wasn’t the whole source of fun at the parade. Got it? Santa’s like the orgasm? Good.
Take the “am I doing it right” pressure off of yourself. Stop stressing about your belly or hair down there. If you’re caught up in the pressure of having to have an orgasm, guess what? That is exactly the way NOT to have one. Take a deep breath, relax and let go. How to have an orgasm? Stop freaking out and try to have fun!
The cool thing is that you have access to your beautiful body 24 hours a day 7 days a week to figure out what may or may not be pleasurable for you, give or take your work, school and social hours (nobody wants you, um, exploring during class or at the mall!).
Be in the moment, my chicas. If you have an orgasm during sexy times, dy-no-mite. If you don’t have an orgasm, that’s cool too. It might take a while to have your first one–and even then, know that you might not have one every time. Since most girls and women do experience orgasms, you probably will at some point, too!
So how do you know if it’s happened yet? WOWZERS!!! Trust me. You’ll know when it happens!
Do you have any tips on how to have an orgasm? Do you think girls and guys put too much pressure on girls to orgasm? Tell me what you think in the comments!
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I’m 34 years old. I have never had an orgasam. I have tried touching myself but I feel weird. I have and do enjoy sex.. If I could get it everyday all day. I would be happy. But it would be nice if I could have an orgasam. Does anyone have advice for me??
I do think that guys sometimes puts presure on the girls and especially if they ask do you like this or do u like that and your like umhh.. Idk XD so yea.
Im 14 and i think i might of had an orgasm. (Never had sex) anyways its SUCH a nice feeling
Umm I’m new I’m all this seeing as I lost me verginity just a cupple of months ago, but me and my bf are trying stuff but I never seem to get any enjoy ment, it feels like he’s getting his release and I’m just there for him, I don’t think this is right cause all my friends find it the most enjoyable thing ever yet it feels wierd for me, and I’ve never orgasmed in my life.. :/ I want to but it seems like my body won’t.. Any advise?
um ok so me and my boyfriend recently became sexually active. He goes down on me all the time and it gets to a point where i have to make him stop . is that an orgsam or am i just about to have one?
Sounds stupid but I get that wobbly hot feeling when u experiment alone, is that an orgasm? How r u suppose to feel?? Help!
Orgasms are what sex and masturbation is about when it comes to ultimate pleasure. maybe there is to much pressure to make sure we have an orgasms every time, but nothing is better. The feelings that go through your body and making you want to get wild and have passionate sex. No wonder we all want them and need them. Guys get hard and ejaculate, we need our fun too!
Yeah! I’ve seen too many articles that say “Don’t worry, ladies; orgasms aren’t critically important!” THEY ARE. Imagine saying to guys, “You don’t need to have an orgasm every time you have sex!” There would be rioting in the streets. Quit devaluing female orgasms.
This article does not address, at all, how to actually have an orgasm. My own advice: jerk off. A lot. In private, obviously, where there is nobody around to put any sort of pressure on you. For further help, see your ob/gyn.
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Someone HELP! How do you know??
Oh God hun. You definitely will know. Its an amaaazing feeling. And luckily the first time I had one was with the man I am engaged to now(: you just know.