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Yakubutsu said:
I just want to hear people’s opinions – Would you ever eventually date someone who cheated with you?
I’ve heard so many people say things like: “If he cheated WITH you, then he’ll probably cheat ON you.” or “Once a cheater, always a cheater…”
Say it was not in his/her track record to do so, and this was a one time thing when you were both very drunk, one of you upset from a break up and it just happened…if the guy/girl in question ended things with their partner and admitted to liking you, whether that be straight afterwards or down the line…would you ever date them?
I just want to know what people think…
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Is it ever okay to be the other woman?
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Mean Girls Quiz! 
2010, end of 8th grade, I was playing truth or dare. I hadn’t had my first kiss and I really wanted to kiss someone! So I was dared to kiss this guy who had a girlfriend. I was too scared so I said no. Then when I was leaving I said, I wanna kiss him. So he caught up with me and we kissed and I told his girlfriend right away. I didn’t feel bad either because his girlfriend was cheating on him.
I don’t know, I think sometimes depending on the exact situation it could be ok. But I would always be nervous, because if they were such a great trustworthy guy they could have broken up with their girlfriend before getting with you rather than cheating. If it was a one off thing and they said, no, I want to be with you but the right thing to do here is stop this and break up with my girlfriend first, then yea that’s more ok.
No. Who knows if he is gonna cheat on you again? Also, if he really loved you, he would have never cheated on you in the first place.
I have been. I’d do it again with the guy I was with. We never did more than text even though we wanted to. We were on-again-off-again through high school, not good for each other, but we were freinds and do really care for each other. His gf is a freshman and we’re seniors. The only reason it ended was because he started getting too controlling/boyfriendy (as in our casual relationship was turning too serious). Our lives are/were going in totally different directions and even a casual friends-with-benefits was too much. I wanted a fling and he was up for it, but I am more mature and willing for stuff so I became a crutch.
That’s just a wordy explaination for “We really like each other, and want more, but we don’t work well. So it’s over, but not forever.”
I’ve seen this a couple times which just blows my mind. Girls, unless you’re really lucky, this guy will cheat on you. I understand that I might not know that specific situation but I do know that this guy is very needy and doesn’t know what he wants so just be careful. And if he cheated WITH you, I’m sorry to say this but you deserve. You’d be stupid not to. You must really be confused or you might not even care about anyone but yourself, but your decisions come to haunt later on life. Whether its positive or negative.
nooooo neverrrrrrr! never gunna cheat WITH someone either!
I don’t think I would ever date someone who was a known cheater. I don’t just think this way just because of the risk of getting cheated on, but other factors. If the guy is a cheater, why? Is he unhappy with his current relationship, but unable to express it or completely sever ties? Does he not want to leave a relationship without a backup? If these are some of the problems he is having, it seems like any relationship would be doomed to end, because he may have insecurities/ communication problems.
And if he has cheated before, it stands to reason that having crossed that moral line before, he could cross it again under the “right” circumstances. In any relationship trust is important, so jumping into a relationship with a cheater would cause me to hesitate,for very very long.
Because if I cannot trust him to break it off when his feelings wane, cannot trust him to end it before falling into the arms of another girl, then he is just a waste of time.