My BF And I Are Going To Different Colleges. Should I End Things?

That being said, there’s no reason to rush things – but you do have to talk to your man about this. Letting him think things are going to be fine next year is only going to make things worse. Have a serious talk with him about college and basically tell him what you told me. Explain that you love him, but you just don’t think things are going to work because of the different paths you two are going on. Tell him you would love to be friends and you don’t want to lose him entirely. Be as nice and gentle as possible.

Figure out together when you want to end things. He might be really hurt and want to end things right away. Or maybe you both want to spend as much time together as possible while you can. There’s nothing wrong with you guys dating until you both go away to college if that’s what you want to do. But really, I can’t tell you what to do here. It’s all about how you feel and what you want.

That being said, don’t assume that just because you two will be far away from each other you can’t still be together. Long-distance relationships do work, they just take a lot of time and effort. If you want to give things a shot next year before breaking up, that’s not silly or foolish. Don’t make this decision until you really think things over and consider what you want to do next year – ultimately, do what feels right for you.

take care,
heather

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  • roo

    Same with my boyfriend. We were going to different schools. It was so hard, and I miss him every day/

  • Ember

    To be honest, this is a really tough situation. This is great advice, I know I am only 15 bout I know a lot about relationships, I have studied them for a long time. When this stuff happens to people they are usually in the same situation. If it was me I would do the same thing she said. Talk to your man about it, if he gets upset or hurt about it, obviously it wasn’t meant to work out. I take the ” Everything happens for a reason” quote to heart. Whatever happens it was meant to be, but sometimes the truth hurts but I am sure he will be ok with it, if you guys are as in love as you say.

  • Saturday

    No marter wthat all i no is that i only ned some 1 to love ok

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  • skaitlin

    Good advice. Only one thing to add. When you talk to him, make sure that he knows that you really just want the best for him and his future. You said it yourself, you want him to be with the girl of his dreams. Real love is wanting the best for the other person no matter what the sacrifice.

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  • beard

    hi this is hak!!!!!

  • Morgan

    My boyfriend and I broke up very recently. We dated for 4 years. We’re also seniors in high school, and I knew we had to end it. Things were complicated and we just didn’t want the same things for our future. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do, but I knew it had to be done.

    • Saturday

      If that is wthat hp den ho get anorther boy ok