A few weeks ago, some dude at a party asked for my email. I blushed and handed it on over. And I blushed more when he wrote me saying he’d like to take me to dinner. Right on!
We met before dinner to see a comedy show, and some joke got made about vegetarians and French fries. He laughed and said he knows a vegetarian who totally eats french fries. “You know,” I said, “I’m a vegetarian and I love French fries too!” Silence. “Well, actually,” I continuted, “I am a vegan.”
He never replied, and changed the subject–but later I got curious and asked him if he’d still have asked me out if he’d known I was a vegan. I couldn’t believe his response:
He paused, gave it (at most) two seconds of thought, and simply said “No.”
No?! I couldn’t believe I was being written off for being compassionate to animals and good to the earth.
Sometimes when someone tells you a quality about you that is a deal-breaker for them, it can be tempting to dismiss that quality about yourself or promise that you’re not that way. In my case, I looked him right in the eye and ordered some vegan ice cream–not caring one bit if I ever saw him again.