Comments on: Ask A Guy: Do Guys Get Mad When Girls Call Themselves Ugly?

By: Kebelle

Kebelle — Sun, 30 Dec 2012 23:59:57 +0000

Ha! I have chicken legs as well (plus they’re X-legs, talk about bad luck ), I don’t mind that much actually… it’s just difficult shopping for pants because I also have a tiny (but tight :3 ) ass and pants just don’t hug that sad excuse for a curve. I think to myself ‘better chicken legs than the fat-genes, those pants are even harder to find and fashion is all about skinny girls the latest decade’, my apologies to all heavier girls and guys out there, if it puts you all at ease: you can gladly think the reverse and think back to the Rubens-times, pin-up moments,…

But yeah, it’s not about body-type we’re talking here, since it’s the face that really matters. I have an unattractive face, really, I’ve also been bullied because of acne and my lack of curves… or as I’d like to call them: my subtle body-type lines (glad to be out of puberty and finally grow some in the horizontal way? YES!). I’ve dated girls before, and I don’t feel insecure with them, since I am a girl myself, I know just how far looks go when it comes to love. But right now I’m having my first boyfriend-experience. I met him over the internet, so he got attracted by my personality and I by his. The only problem is: he is rather handsome, I am far less pretty. We both know it, I am so insecure/realistic that the first time we saw each other on cam I told him so, and said that if he didn’t feel any attraction, now was the time to say it, so we could try going back to the friendzone. He suggested I have an ugly face… which made me feel really bad, I told him so. But at the same time he kept insisting that he ‘loves me for who I am’ and ‘to leave it at that’. So for now… I will leave it at that and try not to act too insecure, he will think me prettier for it. He is really gentle, teasing and pervy :3 I pray a thing like ‘loveblindness’ exists. And if it doesn’t work out in the end, so be it. But if he turns out not to overcome my looks and ever has the nerve to dump me because a prettier and just as nice a girl comes by, I honestly might be tempted to chop off his manhood. Pricks like that don’t deserve to call themselves ‘men’. [I'm joking, you know that right? I would never give in to that temptation, I think]

To end with a depressing thought: I will never be at peace with my unattractiveness.

By: Heidi

Heidi — Thu, 02 Aug 2012 00:39:33 +0000

To be honest, we all have our own insecurities. I have always have a little bit of it but sometimes is like it just fades away, i try to strong and believe in myself because at the end of the day thats all that matters. People can build you up but they can also bring you down! We are our only judge. Believe!

By: Bailey.Bubbles

Bailey.Bubbles — Mon, 23 Jul 2012 18:02:27 +0000

You’re insecure, don’t know what for. You’re turning heads when you walk through the door. Just because you’re not perfect, doesn’t mean you’re not beautiful love. Stay confident!

By: Countrygurl

Countrygurl — Mon, 11 Jun 2012 18:51:28 +0000

I am VERY insecure. I don’t like a lot of things about myself, including the fact that I don’t like a lot of things about myself!! I’m always scared to be the center of attention, afraid that somehow I’ll mess things up and embarrass myself. I know that being insecure is not an attractive thing, but sometimes I just can’t help it. Whatever I’m doing whether it’s swimming, bowling, skating, even doing P.E. activities, I focus a lot more on the people around me. And all that is going through my head is “what are they thinking about me right now??” I look in the mirror and all I think is how much I wish I could look like this other pretty girl. I’ve actually been doing a lot better on pointing out my insecurities, well to others. To myself, I find flaws in everything I do. But I really want to stop doing that, and I don’t know how! I used to be the most confident girl, now I’m scared to do the littlest things. Afraid that my friends, and boyfriend will judge me on how I did.

By: Al!

Al! — Thu, 03 May 2012 21:23:49 +0000

I’ve always had problems and insecurities about myself. Always have, always will! You can call me anything under the rainbow and i’ll either agree (bad) or just nod (good) My boyfriend now goes nuts with me but knows i have a low self esteem so he rings me up now and again with cute things. He rang me the other night and said just wanted to say goodnight beautiful! And that made me feel amazing just to think he rang me purely to remind him that i was beautiful to him.

By: Trouble_Maker3

Trouble_Maker3 — Tue, 01 May 2012 04:19:54 +0000

I completly agree with Ethan on all of this, but i have to be honest and say that I AM one of those girls who say sometimes that i feel ugly or fat. Im one of those girls who think i am only sometimes beautiful, and sometimes not. I do say it out loud if i dont feel pretty, but i dont do it on purpose to make a guy mad or to piss anyone off. I dont even realize i do it sometimes. Its something im trying to work on. Thankfuly my very loving boyfriend disagrees with him and i try my hardest to shut my mouth when im thinking these bad thoughts. Its something im trying to work on, and this article helped. Thank you Ethan (:

By: akeila smith

akeila smith — Sat, 28 Apr 2012 15:35:28 +0000

This helped me alot for i am not crazy about my body i try not to be negative and its difficult most of the time, my bf he always say what makes me beautiful is the fact that i’m unaware of my beauty 0.o cud that be true or is he just like trying to make me feel better ??
either way thank you

By: Ethan Fixell

Ethan Fixell — Thu, 19 Apr 2012 04:56:07 +0000

Yup — yegative thoughts, actions, and words only attract and create more negativity!

Thanks for reading,

-Ethan

By: Ethan Fixell

Ethan Fixell — Thu, 19 Apr 2012 04:55:07 +0000

Thanks Dinah!

-Ethan

By: Ethan Fixell

Ethan Fixell — Thu, 19 Apr 2012 04:54:15 +0000

Great point, Lara. By continually reinforcing the same negative things about yourself, you’ll start to convince others of those very negatives you don’t want people focusing on in the first place.

Unfortunately, pointing out personal insecurities won’t make you seem self-aware — it will only draw attention to the insecurities!

-Ethan