I Can Hear My Parents Having Sex… What Do I Do?

Hearing people having sex

This is one way to deal… | Source: ShutterStock

Hey Heather,

My room is a couple doors down from my parents room. We all go to bed at about the same time. Lately I have been hearing some “oohhs” coming from down the hall and it is really disturbing. What should I do??

Ack! This is definitely a super awkward situation. Hearing anyone having sex can be bad enough, but hearing your parents having sex is a whole other story. I don’t blame you for feeling disturbed, but you do have a few options in order to prevent this from happening again.

I’m not sure what kind of relationship you have with your parents, but if you feel comfortable enough with them to say something, you definitely should. It doesn’t have to be a long, uncomfortable discussion. You can simply pull one of them aside and say, “Hey, this is weird, but I can hear you and Dad/Mom at night. Could you be a little more quiet?”

“Oh, BTW I can hear you guys doing it.” | Source: ShutterStock

If just thinking about saying something like that is making you freak out, then you could try hinting at the situation in a more subtle way. Try casually mentioning that you could hear exactly what they were watching on TV the other night from your room, or that you could hear what they were talking about. It might make them realize that if you can hear that stuff, you can probably also hear them doing it – and maybe they’ll start being a little less loud on their own.

And if both of those options feel totally uncomfortable to you, then you’ll have to figure out a way to drown out the noise on your own. You could try turning up your TV or music really loudly – that will help block them out and it might also be another subtle hint for them to hush up. You can also try going to sleep wearing headphones and listening to your favorite music, or maybe even going to sleep at a different time. But since all of those things are kind of inconvenient to you, I’d really suggest at least trying to hint something to your parents.

Just keep in mind that your parents are humans too – as creepy and gross as it is to think about, they enjoy sex just as much as anyone else. They also most likely don’t realize you can hear them, and finding out that you can is probably going to totally embarrass them. If you decide to say something or hint something, be sensitive to the situation while still getting your point across. And if all else fails – buy a good pair of headphones, girl!

take care,

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  • Jay

    I was in my eoo. Just now and heard my mom and he boyfriend doing it. I feel sooo disrespected because my room is so close and I know they knew I was awake. U rwxt my boyfriend but he fekk asleep. My little brother was two doors down and he was asleep, in glad. I’m going to approach her tomorrow or ignore her. Ill see. I can’t even sleep now, I’m upset.

  • randomer

    I have heard my parents too and It totally freaked me out they weren’t even trying to hide it :(

  • Abbey

    I know it awkward my room is next to my parents room I get how u feel sometimes I hear oohs ahhs. And harder I start to cry then I text my best friend ever for help she doesn’t understand what is happening BC her mom can’t have sex because of her hip it is soo loud when it happens but think of other things listen to music or something then it’s over before you know it but I hate when I’m sick or watch a movie with them in their room on their bed BC I know what they’ve done so drown it out then sooner or later you’ll fall asleep