My best friend lost her virginity at a park. I didn’t figure it out until another friend told me, and two weeks had already passed. Now all she wants to do is hang out with girls that talk about doing wrong things. I don’t know what to do. Should I stay friends with her or not? Please help.
It sounds like you’re feeling a little left out and sad right now, and I don’t blame you. It stinks that your BFF didn’t feel like she could tell you about such a big moment in her life. Unfortunately, people change – and even our closest friends are going to do things that we don’t expect them to. You and your best friend might be headed down different paths right now, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be friends.
First of all, think about why you’re really upset about what she’s doing. Is it because you’re hurt that she isn’t really including you, or is it because you don’t agree with what she’s doing? It might be a little bit of both, and that’s fine. But if it’s more about the fact that you just feel a little left out, you should talk to your friend. Tell her it really hurt your feelings that she didn’t confide in you when she lost her virginity. Let her know how much you care about her and how much her friendship means to you.
If it’s more than just feeling left out and you think your friend is putting herself in physical or emotional danger, speak up. Talk to her, tell your parents or reach out to another trusted adult. If it’s not to that extreme, and more just that that you don’t like how she’s acting, there’s really not much you can do. Your friend is going to do what she wants whether you like it or not – and if you want to stay her friend, it’s important not to judge her for her decisions. Try to appreciate the difference between you two. After all, you were probably drawn to her at first because of some of her quirks.
The truth is you and your BFF might be growing apart a little bit. That’s really, really sad for anyone to deal with, but unfortunately it’s also a part of life. If you want to stay friends with her, accept her new lifestyle and let her know she can tell you things. If you seriously hate what she’s doing, then maybe it’s time to move on. Either way, it’s important to realize that our friends aren’t always going to stay the same, no matter how much we want them to.
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