Comments on: From The Message Boards: Would You Be Okay With Only Having One Sexual Partner Ever?

By: Anna

Anna — Fri, 11 Jan 2013 01:34:03 +0000

My boyfriend is the only guy I’ve ever slept with and I hope it stays that way.

We’ve been together for 2 years, (he’s been with another girl before me), and we really love each other so much that we just want to be together. I don’t think it’s limiting my experiences. I mean, what are you going to think about during your last days? How you got to sleep with a bunch of people, a lot of them being virtual strangers to you, or how you got to share a special connection and love with a better half?

Mayeb from time to time, I will wonder what it would have been like if I were to sleep with other people, but honestly, when I try imagining myself being intimate with someone other than my boyfriend, it freaking terrifies me to the point I can’t stand imagining it.

By: girrla

girrla — Mon, 07 Jan 2013 23:15:27 +0000

In the bible it says that god wanted sex to be the ultimate way for married couples to show their deep love for one another it is supposed to be sacred and pure but its been kind of corrupted since then by pornographic material making it un sacred and impure as it was meant to be honestly in just a young teen that want the best for everyone so i hope!!!! U wait because i am

By: High school sweetheart

High school sweetheart — Wed, 05 Dec 2012 19:34:04 +0000

I recently moved in with my high school sweetheart while were in college together. Weve been a couple since we were 16, and he was my first. Im came to this board looking for opinions on only having one sexual partner, because being in college, i have no been wondering if the grass is truly greener on the other side (for the first time). It can be hard because i love my boyfriend and when i picture my future, i see him in it. But there are times i wondee about what a meaningless hookup would be like…as terrible as it sounds. One things for sure…the thought of loosing my beloved boyfriend is MUCH worse than the thought of not experiencing another person. I just feel guilty though when the thought even crosses my mind, becauee i love him so much and could never actually be without him.

By: Courtney

Courtney — Sat, 01 Dec 2012 03:30:04 +0000

I’ve only been with one guy. And he’s been with me and a previous girlfriend, so I just think I have an interesting perspective to contribute.. (Btw, we’ve been together for two years now)

I’m totally happy having only been with him. I hope that he is the only sexual partner I have for the rest of my life. It’s not like I haven’t been curious about other men, but if I actually try to fantasize about other men, I kinda gross myself out. I guess the love aspect is just way more important for me.

Then he’s had sex before I came along, and it kinda bothers me. I can’t help but feel a little jealous that I was not his first, like he was mine. I think about how important it was for me emotionally, and can’t help but think that he has those connections to another woman. Granted, he’s told me that if he could go back in time, he wouldn’t have slept with her. This helps a bit, but the fact is, he can’t.

Sleeping with multiple partners is totally fine as long as everyone involved is fully aware and no one’s feeling’s get hurt (and no one spreads STIs). Personally though, I’m very proud of the fact that I’ve only been with one guy. Can’t tell you why, but it is how I feel.

By: Deb

Deb — Sat, 24 Nov 2012 07:03:16 +0000

I just happened to hit this discussion searching for something else. But, as a 32-year-old, I would have to say that I would give anything to have met and had my only sexual experience as well as his only sexual experience with the right guy. I think that would create a much stronger bond in a relationship and especially in a marriage. Multiple partners is overrated. All it really does is cause stress and heartache, not only at the time, but in your future marriage as well.

By: Abbey

Abbey — Wed, 21 Nov 2012 01:05:14 +0000

I come from a very strict Christian family, and so sex is kinda out of my reach. I can’t imagine my parents’ reaction to me having sex, but quite honestly, I’d think more about being a virgin ’til I get married. Then I’d probably think about what It’d be like with someone else. Even though one of the ten commandments is to be loyal to your spouse… I honestly don’t know. Sex is too complicated.

By: omgdiva99

omgdiva99 — Tue, 20 Nov 2012 06:09:32 +0000

I agree with Jbabiie03, once you find that person who romantically and sexually pleases you why want any one else. But depending on the person you will have your times were you just wonder what it would be like having sex with someone else, especially if its becoming the “same old” and you want to experience something new. But if you do feel this way there is always new things you can try to spice up your sex-life with your partner.

By: Sydney

Sydney — Mon, 12 Nov 2012 23:26:53 +0000

Coming from a Christian perspective, I am perfectly fine with not having sex until marriage and having my husband be my only sexual partner.

By: Estee

Estee — Fri, 02 Nov 2012 04:56:00 +0000

I’ve only ever had one boyfriend and he was my first everything. Sometimes I feel like I missed out because he’s had other girlfriends and different kisses whereas he was my first. But I’m happy that we were both virgins when we got together because it made that experience much more special.

By: Suzy

Suzy — Fri, 19 Oct 2012 14:58:43 +0000

One boyfriend-now-husband.
One sexual partner only, ever.
Zero — count them — ZERO regrets.