Okay, so we’ve already asked you girls if your number of sexual partners is a big deal to you – but now we want to know something a little bit different: would you be okay with only having one sexual partner? As in, only sleeping with one person… ever?
Although that used to be the norm way back when (kind of), nowadays there’s no shame in having more than a couple of sexual partners. But just like there are plenty of people who enjoy sleeping around (nothing wrong with it as long as you’re safe!), there are also plenty of people who stay with their first forever. And there’s nothing wrong with that either! We saw this discussed in the boards, and we want to know: would you be cool with only having sex with one person? Or do you think a girl should experience things? Read what these girls said and then let us know what you think:
I’m just wondering…why do lots of people state that they would’ve hated it if they married the only person they slept with, or that it’s better to sleep around before you get married? I know lots of people will just be like “OMFG, I could NEVER marry the ONLY person I’ve had sex with!?” or say it”s “better” to have multiple partners before you do get married, but surely if you’ve found what you’re looking for in all aspects, then that’s worth more than sleeping around? I would love to hear people’s opinions on this. I’ve heard so many people say that you’d be “missing out” if you don’t have more that one partner and so many other people, a massive range of ages, say that it doesn’t really matter at the end of the day if you’ve found what you want.
Personally, I don’t think you are “missing out” if you only have one sexual partner. I think that if you only have one sexual partner and you marry him/her, somewhere in the future one will wonder what it would have been like with someone else. I don’t think this applies to everyone but I do think most people will have these thoughts of what it would be like with someone else.
From my perspective, it’s hard for me to understand how somebody can be happy doing what I see as limiting their experiences. I love experiencing life as much as possible, especially when it comes to personal relationship, and I feel that sexual relationships are a big part of that. I can be really impulsive about sex because in the end, if I DON’T do it then I will always regret not having that experience.
All three girls make great points, and when it comes down to it, we’re going to have to say what they all pretty much ended up saying (check out their full responses here): it really depends on what you want and how you feel.
If you only have sex with one person, and you want to be with them forever, there’s nothing wrong with that! Not everyone needs tons of sexual experiences in life to be happy. But if you want to experience sex with a lot of people, that’s fine too. It’s really about what makes you happy – don’t let society tell you what’s wrong and right.
Who do you agree with? Would you be okay with having one sexual partner? Tell us in the comments!