I Hate My Big Boobs! Can I Make Them Smaller?

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Hi Heather,

So I just read something on here about a girl who wished she could have bigger boobs. Well, this is the opposite. I can’t stand my boobs! I’m only 14 and they are gigantic! It’s really weird and awkward for me because I hear all these girls saying they want bigger boobs and I’m like NO you don’t! But they never listen!

I had heard something one time before, that you can stop breast growth with something like a food or something… is this true? They are still growing! Also, if that isn’t bad enough… 1. My parents are really big on the “not showing too much skin” and since I have big boobs, I can’t wear more than half of my wardrobe! I feel like a… sausage!! 2. I can’t run in a regular bra without having them jump around and I’m very active. I don’t want to wear a sports bra my whole life!

I feel awful! No amount of boys liking me will help either! Help?!

I’m going to tell you the same thing I told this girl who has the opposite problem: there’s no reason for you to hate your big boobs! I know right now you feel totally awkward about them and you don’t know how to deal – and that’s normal. But I promise one day you’ll grow into them and you’ll probably even learn to love them, as crazy as that might sound right now.

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As much as you want to shrink your breasts, that isn’t going to be possible unless you have plastic surgery – contrary to what you read online, there is no magic food that will make them smaller. Having breast reduction surgery is a big deal, and isn’t something you should be considering at such a young age. If in a few years your boobs are really hurting your back or really getting in the way of things, then you could think about it. But since surgery changes your body forever, you should first try to learn to feel comfortable with yourself.

That being said, I know finding clothes that fit or sports bras that really work can be very difficult with larger breasts. But it’s not impossible! If you don’t want to show off too much of the girls, steer clear of low-cut shirts like V-necks. If you want to wear those, cute tank tops should become your new best friends. Layer them under pretty much anything – they’ll cover you up, and layering is totally chic.

As for the sports bra issue, you’re unfortunately going to have to invest in a good one in order to play sports and run around. But don’t freak out – every athlete should be wearing sports bras when they’re being active.

I know it’s hard to learn to accept your body, but try not to feel too uncomfortable about your boobs. Obsessing over them is only going to make you feel worse – feel lucky about what you have! There are a lot of girls who would love bigger breasts, so remember that the grass is always greener on the other side.

take care,
heather

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This girl learned to love her big boobs


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  • Sans Skeleton

    I’m 16 and have a D. I hate my boobs and want them to be smaller to fit my body size and height. What do I do? Surgery? (Don’t judge my choice of name..I’m trash) this feels like the nether

  • Yashfi Aariba

    What the fuck is this shit? This article is useless to that 14 year old girl and people experiencing the same problem. Just because she dislikes the size of her boobs doe not mean, in any way, she has body image issues. It is a problem to her, and she’s looking for a solution…and you’re just here telling her to love her body.
    It’s like the same as an obsessive person is asking you for dieting tips and you’re just there asking them to accept their body. Wtf.

  • Taylor

    Y’all are bunch of ignorite bitches that are fucking hoes. No body ever happy with there ducking body and sit here and complain the fuck if u have big boobs u have big boobs suck it and be a fucking woman if u have no tits and guys will still fucking love there are tons of celebrities with no tits that have that hottest boyfriends so shut yalls fucking mouths find a solution and go on with y’all miss arable lives u cunt bags…..!

  • Il-Lupo Guerriero

    Being FTM would be a GREAT reason to hate their big boobs.

  • Ivan Cherkasov

    Oh my God. I’ve never thought that women care about this kind of questions.Of course everyone is free to dispose of their bodies as they wish. But, damn, it’s an utter nonsense. By the by, i really love this camsexbabe_com (sic!) with its big boobs girls lol

  • Sam

    Try to lose weight and stop eating dairy and animal products!
    Dairy and animal products have been shown to stimulate a growth hormone related to this kind of stuff. Seriously if you want to decrease your size just lose the fat tissue.

    AND THIS ARTICLE IS ABSOLUTE BULL

  • Maya buttercup blue

    I’m in my teen years and idk what happened tbh when I was 5th grade I had no boobs at all like I was totally comfortable in my own skin I wore a one piece swim suit everytime I went to swim I was completely fine with my self and during the summer I was still flat chested and skinny but when it was closing to the end of summer I start to have small boobs I okay with it but when the first day of school happened I woke up with big boobs and a belly like wth happened!?! Idk what happened? I already had zits to deal with!!! And I was already unpopular enough so like wth when 6th grade started idk wth happened cause I started eating none stop I didn’t eat that much in 5th grade and when I started eating a lot of food in 6th grade I ate so much my belly started hurting 🙁 I don’t have a disease cuz I already check with my doctor, he told me my body still developing like really? I’m the only girl who’s going threw this crap and I can’t even exercise cuz my big boobs hurt when I try!!! I’ve try to stop eating but that doesn’t seem to be working so then I tried to throw up but nothing will come out I just keep gaging on my fist and I’m over weight but my doctor says I don’t have diabetes but then what’s wrong like for real? I weigh more then my big sister!!! I don’t even were a swim suit any more or shorts dresses skirts short sleeves shirts I just were Jean and a long sleeve shirt to swim in!!!!!!!! HELP!!!!!!!!!!! Cuz I can’t take it anymore. I can’t take the waking up at night and breathing hard I need answer help help help help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • Sam

      Maybe you should just exercise? I mean even though its painful, the results are totally worth it. And what does your diet consist of? Because if your eating a ton of dairy and fatty foods, then thats probably why you don’t feel good.
      All in all don’t just find your self worth in your body image. Try getting into other stuff, like reading, and music, so you find more purpose in life besides just looking good. I mean in like 50 years from now your going to be old and ugly, and so will everyone when they’re old

      • Maya buttercup blue

        I just said I couldn’t excrise cuz it hurts so much!!!

      • Maya buttercup blue

        I don’t care about looking good cuz I don’t wear make up I just want to feel comfortable 🙁

  • Josie

    this author is a fucking idiot! honestly FUCK YOU! Im almost 21 and i still hate my big boobs. Im tired of hearing that “you just gotta learn to love your body, you gonna love your big boobs one day” (probably because “men will like them” or other girls will be jealous).
    There are ways to make boobs smaller: exercise for example. It is too hard to say that?
    I became anorexic and bulimic when i was 13. I was only 130 lbs and dropped to 90. Because i hated my body. i hated how people LIKE THIS FUCKING MORON told me that my big boobs were going to be useful one day.
    I fucking hate being dramatic, but i weep everytime i think of 12 y.o. me crying because my older sister made fun of my bra size and other shitty memories.. ugh fuck this tbh. fuck you!

  • Sarah

    I hate my boobs there big and my mom telling me that there so big when hers are bigger and telling my aunts I have big boobs is horrible it makes me feel like my body isn’t right

  • Kiva Redwing

    men hate small breasts, you will be treated a little better than walking garbage, for the record it is only8.5% of men who like small breasts, I know I am a flat chested cunt as men lovingly call me. Play boy and Hustler and all other porn has nothing but big tits. And I mean nothing. men do not jack off to fashion magazines, and they do not like, hire, want, treat well in or out of bed small breasts. if men liked small breasts they would protest playboy. men stare at big tits and fantasize about them constantly, not about small, because they hate them.

    • Sam

      which is probably one of the main reasons a woman wouldn’t want to be the “ideal image” for a man, or a victim of his disgusting desires

  • Alice Mounsey

    why the fuck do ladies want big boobs? seriously? why so they can get men? huh? that’s stupid fuck i rather have small boobs than big boobs fucken hell women these days i am a girl but still seriously i don’t want us all to turn into fake nicki’s ugly fucktards!

    • Kiva Redwing

      fuck you, why should I not want men, what is wrong with that. so I like men, so the goddamn fuck what.,YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO JUDGE WOMEN WHO WANT MEN, NONE WHAT SO EVER. THE ONLY GIRLS WHO WANT SMALL BREASTS ARE WOMEN WHO GREW UP SO FUCKING STUPID THEY THINK GUYS JACK OFF TO FASHION MAGAZINES, THEY DO NOT. MEN HATE AND GREATLY MISSTREAT SMALL BUSTED WOMEN. AND THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH A WOMAN BECAUSE SHE LIKES MEN, AND DOES NOT TO BE MISSTREATED BY THEM.

      • Rachel♥

        She never said there was anything wrong with wanting men… she was just saying how she hates big boobs and why men like them when they put us through hell.. You seem like a damn Tumblerina with your nonsense. If you found what she said offensive, then don’t comment and ignore her. She may not have had a right to insult people, but she didn’t. -And you did not have the right to burst out at her so immaturely. Guys do not treat girls with smaller boobs worse than ones with bigger boobs. In fact, guys are more likely to date a girl with slightly smaller boobs than ones with big watermelons on their chest… Guys would rather be able to hold it in their hand and not be overwhelmed in boobage… Please, get your facts right before you aggressively comment on other’s comments with your butt-hurt bullshit, because no one cares. 🙂

  • Olivia

    feel lucky about what you have! lots of girls would love bigger boobs! no. no, no, no. just because other people would want that doesn’t mean this girl does, it”s about personal preference and convenience. this is not a helpful article.

  • Max Daniel

    I really want boobs, I’m seeing a lot of comments saying how hug boobs are terrible but I’m 17 and I’m still flat. Its terrible for me to find dresses that wont look awkward on me because of my flat chest and broad shoulders, I wear bras when I don’t even need them except for my nipple and I’m embarrassed that 12 year olds have bigger boobs than I do. I just want to have an A cup at LEAST, i’d feel better about working out if I had huge boobs because then I don’t have to worry about them when they shrink, but I don’t so my chest gets smaller. If you girls want smaller boobs then do wide push-ups, I was told NOT to do them since I already have no boobs at all.

  • CathyUsher

    I am using Boobpop tool for a month now. I notice a slight difference as
    far as my breast getting wider. (Im a 32A) But I’m still on my first tool. I’m using twice a day, haven’t skipped a single day! My
    boyfriend thinks its working slightly too. Hoping the longer I use it
    the more ill notice a bigger difference.

  • ARebecca Lane Gullett

    For anyone who really wants smaller breasts, start with your diet. Anything you consume that has growth hormones like milk is going to grow them bigger. The only time mine shrunk to a decent size for me is when I started running which ate all the fat inside my breasts and stopped eating products with growth hormones. Also they do have loans for breast reductions so your problem doesn’t have to be forever. Just do one step at a time til you reach your goals… then on to the next thing!

    • Sam

      Thank you for being the one person giving good advice!

  • ARebecca Lane Gullett

    This article is bull. Someone has a problem and you try to talk them back the other way? You helped solve nothing. Seems like part of the same system that is trying to brainwash everyone to follow one standard of beauty. Big breast make you look fat whether you are or not. Most people automatically assume something about you when you have big tits like you’re stupid or you’re only good for sex, or you aren’t health conscious! Google didn’t even have ready made search results for how to flatten your breast unless they were man boobs. I’m sick of this idiot country.

    • samar

      facts like wtf, i was lookin for an answer

    • jbean

      I couldn’t agree more. The whole ‘get over it’ or ‘you’ll get used to it’ is bullshit and will really just exacerbate the problem. Good for you for standing up for her.

  • Gretchen Scheidenhelm

    This whole post, while good-intentioned, is a straight-up lie to this girl. Having huge boobs is TERRIBLE. Finding clothes and bras will always be impossible, and that whole tank top trick doesn’t work unless you have C’s tops. They’ll always be in the way, you’ll always hate them, you don’t “grow into them” aside from eventually coming to terms with the fact that unless you get surgery, they’ll always be the bane of your existence. Boys either will ogle you and won’t leave you alone (all for your tits, I might add, not you) or they’ll call you fat or a slut and keep at it like that. I’ve had DD’s since I was ten and I’ve been desperately trying to convince my insurance that I need a reduction because they keep getting bigger (I’m 21 now), get in the way of literally everything (can’t even put my arms at my sides comfortably), knock into stuff, and if you go to school or anywhere else with a “conservative dresscode”, they belittle you for your chest and tell you to wear things equivalent to a trashbag because huge shirts on other girls are like a bikini on you. I know no one with a large chest that has learned to love them. In fact, we grow to hate them even more as we get older. It sucks more and more each year. I hope she finds a solution for her, although without surgery it’s doubtful. She hates ’em now, she’ll hate ’em later.

    • Kiva Redwing

      MEN HATE SMALL BOOBS, GOOD GAWD, THEY DO NOT JACK OFF TO FASHION MAGAZINES, THEY DO NOT STARE AT FLAT CHESTED CUNTS, I AM ONE , I KNOW, FUCK THE LIES OF OTHER WOMEN WHO WON`T TELL THE TRUTH ABOUT OUR CULTURE AND HOW FLAT CHESTED WOMEN ARE TREATED. MEN LOVE PLAYBOY, NOT FASHION MAGS, AND THERE ARE NO MEN WHO LARE BREAKING THEIR NECKS TO STARE AT FLAT CHESTED CUNTS. NOT A ONE.SHIT BE GREATFUL FOR WHAT YOU HAVE. MEN WILL HATE YOU OTHERWISE. I ONLY KNOW , I LKAM FLAT CHESTED, YOU NEVER GET ANYTHING BUT HATE, AND MISSTREATMENT. HAVE YOU NEVER SEEN PLAYBOY, I MEAN REALLY, NEVER. THERE ARE NO FLAT CHESTED CUNTS IN PLAYBOY, OR ANYOTHR MAG MEN LOVE. GET A CLUE.

      • Annie

        Ooooh okay as long as men love big tits your comfort does not matter is literally what you’re trying to say. WHO CARES WHAT MEN LIKE. Her concern is HER COMFORT. Saying that she should disregard her own comfort because men like tits is pretty hypocritical.

      • Gamer Luna

        Well just because YOU want to be a porn star, doesn’t mean every girl wants to be one too.

    • Casey

      Yeah. It does only get worse as you become older. I personally hate mine. They have become too damn big and low. 🙁 blah…… And lift surgery will leave nice scarring, depending upon your body type. And the surgery is thousands of $$$$. that I don’t have just laying around.
      Bras are the bane of my existence. They become tolerable only when they wear out. Lol Hate with passion having to buy the damned things. Plus they’re expensive. I bought several not long ago. Hate them all. No not quite true. There is one that I detest the most. I’ve even looked into chest binding.

  • Crash Cat

    I’m 17 and I still hate having boobs. They are just annoying/in the way. Sports bras only do so much. I kinda want them gone.

  • Stephanie

    I understand that you “will grow into them” but I feel like knowing that doesn’t exactly help. I hate having breasts. The feeling of them and the sight makes me upset. I’m not a transgender, but I would give them up in a the blink of an eye. I don’t have large breasts, quite the opposite (B38).

  • Chloe

    I just turned 14 and absolutely hate my boobs! I know so many people who actually want bigger ones and I can’t stand it when they say it in front of me. Its so hard to find proper fitting bras and bikinis. I have a flat stomach, small-ish legs but my boobs are just plainly annoying. My mum has encouraged me to do more ab exercises and just exercise in general. For anyone wanting to follow along a youtube video, Jillian Mikeals (I think that’s her name) has a few different workouts. They aren’t easy to begin with but you slowly work into it. Hope this helped 🙂

    • Kiva Redwing

      so what you find it hard to find bikini`s, so what! you trade love which is conditional, for that. the truth is love is conditional, and men love big tits way ,way , way, more than small, that is why all porn is dedicated to big tits. not small. because men hate them.

      • raezura

        She’s 14 and your telling her not to hate herself because men much older than her will find her sexually attractive? That’s disgusting.

      • Wonderfully Atrina!

        Disgusting. 14 years old and you say “love yourself not because you love yourself but because men like it” Are we some sort of robots? Dis.Gus.ting.