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Dear Ethan,
I’ll be honest – I have small boobs. I hate it! I wear padded bras all the time because I want them to look bigger. But I want to know: how do guys really feel about padded bras? Is it a turnoff?
First of all, there’s no reason to hate your small boobs! Check out my previous post on what guys really think about breast size.
In addition to the fact that male physical preferences are completely subjective, you need to own those perky pals of yours because excessively padded bras can be an issue for guys. Half a cup size is generally no biggie if you’re looking for a little boost — lots of guys honestly can’t tell the difference between a large A and a small B. But it’s usually pretty obvious when a lady undresses and her imposter Cs are actually As. Imagine kissing a guy whose sexy moustache were to fall off when your mouths meet – it’d be pretty shocking, if not disappointing. However, more than anything, padded bras are frustrating not because a modest chest is so unattractive, but because deception is.
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Let’s be honest here: if the relationship develops, and you’re anything like most couples out there, he’s eventually going to uncover what you’re truly working with. You shouldn’t pretend to be athletic to impress a jock, or a natural swimmer to woo a lifeguard, right? Well, while it may not directly result in injury or drowning, the same goes for lying about your boobs!
When a girl changes her appearance too drastically to look the way she thinks she “should,” the lack of confidence can be a turn off to guys. Subtle enhancements are one thing — we can appreciate a glossy lip or some leg extending high heels now and then. But remember that too much deceit not only sets the wrong precedent, it reveals a needless insecurity much less appealing than your beautifully smaller boobs can ever be.
Good luck!
Ethan
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I wear both, it just depends. Now, the super crazy padded bras feel really weird to me. They don’t generally move like my breasts and they don’t feel like them either. I only wear push up bras for three reasons – one, my bra size (32C) is really hard to find in normal stores where I live, so you learn to take what you can find. Two, they often have very sexy patterns, which my boyfriend likes
Three, if I need them to fill out the top of a dress for a formal event, I’ll do that. And when I do wear push up, they’re general only a third of a cup or so. However, I as well require some form of padding, just so I feel more supported and my nipples aren’t seen through my shirt. I don’t judge girls for choosing to wear them, unless it’s really obvious (you weigh 80 pounds or your breasts fluctuate three cup sizes depending on the day), and even then, it’s more of me thinking that I’ never do that. So yeah, just my two cents (:
I don’t wear push-up bras, and I haven’t even tried one, but all of my bras have a really thin layer of padding that most bras have. I don’t feel properly supported in non-padded bras, because they tend to not have much in the way of underwire. I’m a 36B, so my breasts aren’t that big, but they move around too much in anything else. Unpadded bras actually kind of hurt.
I’m chubby but I still have small boobs, so I have to wear padded bras or else my body looks totally out of proportion. Sigh… genetics are so cruel haha
I think padded bras make girls look fat. I have Bs that fit my slender frame, and when I try on a padded bra, I look thick. It’s not attractive.
I don’t own a single bra that isn’t a pushup. I’m a small B, & it really embarrasses me. I almost always wear bras that add 2 cup sizes because I am very insecure, and I will continue to wear them until I can have a breast augmentation. I don’t do it for guys, I do it for myself. I’ve been with my boyfriend now for 4 years, so he knows what I’ve got lol so I don’t care what other guys I fool, its not like they’ll be seeing them anyway.
Padded bras suck! They are false advertising! They should all be destroyed!
I think padded bras are okay if you got boobs for them. Trying to make them bigger is something you shouldn’t do. Be appreciative of what you do got & Don’t worry about what others say about them. There yours, And should be confident with them
I wear padded bras because i am very self conscious about myself because of my being made fun of in middle school for having a “flat chest” I am a 34 A and I wear a victorias secret padded pushup bra and they make my little boobs look amazing, I dont want to fool anyone about them but they make me feel good about myself, should i continue to wear it or what?
Listen i think if they make you feel better about yourself then go ahead and wear one. But I do think that it would help you if you try and move past what happened in middle school, it will only continue to make you feel insecure. I know its hard in middle school, everyone is going through there own changes and kids at that age are probably the cruelest. But I also know that if you still feel insecure about it now you are allowing them to keep their hold on you. They are still in control of you if you let their actions from the past influence your decisions now. I believe that you can be more confident about yourself all around if you can learn to forgive and forget. I been through some tough experiences in middle school as well, and I know its hard to forgive someone who has hurt you. But no matter who it is everyone has been hurt by someone else even bullies in school. Kids only behave how they are taught to behave and they deal with hurt in different ways. I hope that you be able to let go of the past and not allow others to determine what and who you are. And I hope that what I have said will help you in some way. good luck.
it said that a lack of confidence is a turn off for most guys but for me i like a guy who’s a bit shy and geeky o_o then again im not a guy XD
I love my padded bras and so does my current boyfriend and the ones I have had before. Since I am a D it really doesn’t have a lot of padding. It just adds some perkyness. In my opinion there is nothing wrong with that because I am not fooling anyone.
yeah i have 34Ds in 9th grade and i dont wear padded bras cause i dont want them any bigger! all those huuge push up bras like victoria secrets bombshell are ridiculous!!
I have ONE padded bra. And thats only for those shirts that need it otherwise it looks funny? Other than that, I wear T-shirt bras. Its not a “they’re too small” issue. Its a “hard to find comfortable bra they’re so big” issue. I absolutely hate bras. If they would still be pretty and perky, I’d never wear one! I love getting home from school and being able to just pull it off and be comfortable!
A little padding isn’t bad when you’re young and like an A cup, but you should wear less padding the bigger you get in my opinion. I’m 17 now and last summer went from a 32 B to a 32 C, so you NEVER know when you’re going to go through a change. With my current size, I don’t wear very much padding at all. My doc said that most girls don’t finish growing until their college years, so make sure and adjust depending on your size. Also, make sure you get measured for the right size. Victoria’s secret will do it for free and set you up with some cute bras too!
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Okay so here’s my story. I wear a size 38D, but one breast is smaller than the other. My right is a D but my left is like, a B. So I have a dramatic size difference in my breast. Of course, my case might be a little different than other girls. I don’t wear padding because I want my breast to look bigger. I wear padding on my left side because I want my breast to look even. But I make sure ahead of time before my shirt comes off that the guy knows I have a breast size difference. Every guy I’ve been with so far has taken it really well and they didn’t mind it at all. I don’t know if that’s just because they were being nice or they really meant it, but either way, they didn’t care if my breast were two different sizes. Breasts are breasts.
Great outlook! Believe it or not, LOTS of girls have different sized breasts, so any experienced guy is sure to understand that your situation is pretty normal. Even if they’re not experienced, it sounds like you have a history of dating some cool dudes who care about the right things, so keep it up with your good taste!
-Ethan
omg WERE GIRLS!! U DONT HAVE TO SAY THAT WE ALREDY FRICKIN KNOW!! WE KNOW IT MORE THAN U!!
Nowadays, almost all bras are padded. It’s hard to find a girl who DOESN’T wear padding. I hate padding, and avoid it when I can, but all the major stores Like Victorias pretty much sell padded/push up bras only. I have to go to strange little no name stores to find unpadded bras, and they’re all boring colors :p
I agree, I always feel uncomfortable when wearing padded bras and hate when I have too, especially because the only strapless bras that I can find are padded!
I have tried.padded bra in dressing room they look too weird and feel uncomfortable to me plus I have already had girls accuse me of stuff in bra when I grew boobs wouldn’t want them to accuse me now when its actually true lil. I am A cup and a small B cup andim fine with my little rocket ships lol I rock them lol
That’s great that you have come to appreciate your “little rocket ships.” You have every reason to feel good about them!
-Ethan