From The Message Boards: Would You Date A Cheater?

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S0Exciited said:
I’m there now. I’m dating the guy who cheated with me (and others). I’m a total believer in bad karma and I think the whole “If he’ll do it to her, he’ll do it to you too.” thing can be true sometimes. I just try to give this relationship the benefit of the doubt and hope for the best.

Dixienerves said:
If I’m honest my boyfriend that I am with now cheated on someone with me. I know he’s cheated in the past. No one is a saint. I mean I’ve cheated and I’m not proud but believe if you find the right person you can change.

Our opinion? Yes, it’s true that some cheaters cheat again. But it’s also true that people make mistakes sometimes, and those mistakes shouldn’t be held against them their whole lives. That being said, if you want to date someone who’s cheated with you or cheated in the past, you should still be cautious. There’s no need to stalk them or restrict them from talking to any other girls. Just keep your eyes open and don’t forget the past.

When you know someone has cheated before, the main problem is usually about trust. If you can’t trust someone, your relationship is never going to be as strong as you want it to be. So if you think you can move past that issue, than go for it.

 

Who do you agree with? Have you ever dated a cheater? Would you? Have you ever cheated? Tell us in the comments!

 

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  • butlike

    If he cheated once, he’ll do it again. You just likely won’t know about it.

    Because cheaters are really good liars. “Deny till you die” that’s the motto.

  • Nikki

    From my experiences of dating cheaters and being the “other girl” it’s to me a loss of complete trust in them. I cannot take them back. Or when I find he already has a girl and he broke up with her for me because he broke her trust and mine so how do I seriously know without stalking he’ll stay true? The one guy I decided to take back broke my heart again. Thank goodness though I have the one man who knows what I’ve been through and strives to let me know I’m his only one :)

  • Lola

    My ex-boyfriend cheated with this girl because he wanted to try other things. I understood so I had sex with his brother, best friend and all of his team mates in his rugby team. I then purposely had sex with his dad on my bed, you should have seen the look on his face.

  • Hikaru

    My current boyfriend had a past that involved cheating. I honestly thought it would be hard to trust him because of that and a few of his other actions, however since we’ve been dating, he’s prooven to me that he’s determined to stay faithful to me even though he’s surrounded by girls who would be completely willing to do anything he asked of them. He regrets his past actions and has matured a lot since I’ve known him and even though it hasn’t been long, I completely trust him.

  • NiCoO

    Right now I’m dating someone who has been such a cheater!!! We were and still are very close friends–in fact I’d say he’s my bestfriend. I was aware that going into a relationship with someone who had never been faithful before in his life was no easy challenge. And to be honest, it wasn’t him cheating on me that scared me. it was the fact that I would never please him just as well as all his other girls ’cause the guy has been with some effing hot chicks… And that just makes me jealous: of them for being the way they are and having appealed to him so much. I think dealing with betrayal is much more common and acceptable than we think. My dad had an affair… But there’s nothing much I could do about it. neither could he. After all at the end of it I got a brother. I’ve been cheated on before with other guys and obviously it hurt. It just hurts less when you expect it. (Yes, I went out with him expecting he’d cheat) And why I did it? ‘Cause if being with him made me happy, then I wanted to be happy. My current boyfriend means the world to me and without him I don’t think I could live, above being my boyfriend he’s my bestfriend… I’d forgive him if he cheated. Truth is you don’t need to wonder why he’d cheat or why guys will be guys… It’s just reality. And in my reality I ask myself: why is he still around… We all eff up, some more than others and sometimes things will happen for a reason…

  • Al!

    The guy i’m going out with now, cheated on me before! But after hardly talking for like a year, we eventually fell back in love. It feels perfect. “Once a cheater, always a cheater” doesn’t always happen, talk about stereotyping!?! If they have a history of cheating, talk to them, simples! It’s an awkward conversation but it works!

  • Rachel

    A guy is cheating on his girlfriend with me, what do i do?

  • itsdiananess

    Cheating is absolutely pointless because if your even thinking of someone else or just want to hurt the person your with then its better to just to end it because exactly what are you getting out of it? But i do believe at the same time that you can make mistakes at least once. Which is what happened with my boyfriend he cheated on his ex girlfriend which he claims was a very volatile relationship and he says he only did it because she said she had cheated on him first. Cheating is just pointless and a very selfish act and there should be no selfishness in a relationship.

  • Sexy

    I have cheated with loads of guys even a few married and I’m only 17 loads of boys have dated me and still date me with my reputation.

  • Lyn

    Personally, I’m in a relationship where both myself and my boyfriend have cheated on each other at some point. And we’ve worked out the kinks in out relationship and we are stronger than ever, because we were both blind sided and now we know the signs of when either one of us is unhappy or unsatisfied as so to prevent future problems. However, this may not be the case for someone in a situation such as mine. Like the article states, its is predominately about ‘trust’, if you feel as though you can trust again, give it another try but you must learn to let go but still be precautious. I firmly disagree with “once a cheater, always a cheater” because people can/do change.

  • Vivien

    AnayeliI broke up with my ex six months ago. Things were going rllaey bad. When I left him, he begged me not to leave him, but I did because I thought it was best for us. A little after that, I realized I rllaey missed him. After the brake up, we still kept seeing each other and talked about how we were going to get back even when he was already dating someone else. But then the love started to fade away in between our relationship. It was more like lust and pleasure. Last week, I told him to leave me alone and to stop talking to me. This is killing me though. I rllaey want things to go back to the way they were . Help?

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  • Tori.gurl

    i say true as a smurf is naturally blue! she cheated once he got away with it he thinks its ok. and if he treated with you he thinks you are just a peice in his sick games and WILL cheat on you.